I am a 41 year old married man. I fantasise having sex with prostitutes?

I am a 41 year old male and have been married for the last 8 years. I never had sex outside marriage and have never cheated. Presently I am going through a phase of heightened sex drive. I feel very horny and want to have sex with females. This includes maid servants and prostitutes. I am afraid very soon I shall loose control and have sex with someone, most likely a prostitute. Moreover, I fantasise having sex with prostitutes and other women of doubtful character.





Any advise / suggestion is welcome. Kindly look at the problem objective and do not bring morality i.e. it is morally wrong/immoral etc.

I am a 41 year old married man. I fantasise having sex with prostitutes?
If you don't care about your own health and welfare do you at least care about catching diseases and spreading them to your wife, possibly even infecting her with AIDS? Do you care that you would be taking loads of money which should be spent on your children and family and throwing it away to satisfy your own selfish whims?





Not only that but nearly everywhere prostitution is illegal. You could be caught, arrested, labeled as a "sex-offender," forced to register your whereabouts with the police. Your wife, family, employer, neighbors, friends, everyone would find out about it. The consequences will be with you forever! Just don't do it!!!!!!! Nothing is worth that.





Your solution is obvious. You were a teenager once, weren't you? You have your fantasies. You have your hand. Use it!
Reply:most of us fantasise about something,but going through with it is a different matter.if you love your wife enough these feelings should stay as just fantisies.if you really feel that you want to go through with it,then maybe its time to call an end to your marriage,as what this would do to your wife if she ever found out would be far worse.on the other hand you could explain your feelings to her,honesty is alwys the best policy.you never know,she might surprise you and understand how you feel.have you ever mentioned trying a swingers party.i dont agree with that myself but i do know people who are very happily married in those situations. only u can control what you do,but please dont do it behind your wifes back,it will only make you feel worse.
Reply:Well it is morally wrong, but if you intend to go down this route, then you should think about a vasectomy. You should also go to a city many miles away and you should not take your wallet or credit cards - just cash.


You are probably looking at too much Internet porn, you should take up a hobby or a business venture and behave constructively.


There are drugs that will curb your sex drive that can be given to you by a doctor. Remember to wear protection and do not forget that there are many serious sexually transmitted diseases. You should have a prophylactic dose of antibiotics.


Go to a strip club first, because they will refer you to commercial prostitutes, instead of some amateur crazy.
Reply:There's nothing wrong with masturbating to your fantasies.
Reply:Sex is there to be enjoyed otherwise for heightened sex drive try to control yourself if possible. their is nothing extra ordinary with having sex with a prostitute if anything they have been sexed severally with other men which gives your wife an edge over them. For quality sex keep to your wife.
Reply:I think you need to spice things up with your wife. Maybe go away for the weekend to a hotel and just relax and have some fun. I think you're looking for some spice not to cheat on your wife. Maybe see how your wife feels about a little role playing? You guys could go to the hotel bar and pretend that you're meeting for the first time, make up names and stuff. Then just happen to wind up back in your room. To get her in the mood suprise her with a weekend away, she'll love that you suprised her.
Reply:Well, if you love and respect your wife I would suggest you don't have sex with other women. Why not masturbate to "girly" magazines or maybe ask your wife if she would like to play the role of the maid or another sexy character during sex. Maybe she would like to spice up her bedroom time, too. Good luck! =)
Reply:Fantasies are ok but we usually don't follow through with them all. Maybe your wife can role play with you and act like a prostitute or maid?


Then you can act out something for her if she's into it.
Reply:If you are prepared to contract diseases and willing to go through the painful suffering, then go ahead with having sex with prostitutes and the like.





You should divert your energy to other things like your work, doing exercise to keep fit and other healthier choices.
Reply:WHATZ WRONG WITH UR WIFE? y dont you have sex with her instead of having it with other females!!?











advice:DONT LOSE CONTROL OR UR GONNA LOSE UR WIFE WHOM I THINK YOU LOVE
Reply:do you think it is right or not? i definitly think your perception will be based on what is right for you. really what is your problem?can you directly point to the question?
Reply:Having fantasies are healthy. Living them out however is not always beneficial. First off, these questionable woman might have diseases. It's one thing to put yourself in that position but if you cheat and still have sex with your wife, you're also threatening her physical health that eventually will threaten her mental health as well. Also obviously as you know, you put someone you get to wake up next to everyday, that love, in jeopardy. Why not compromise with rationality and your fantasy. Why not discuss your fantasies with your wife. It's such a huge issue to you, it should be important to her too. Have her wear a wig, some skimpy costumes from your local sex shop, and have her wear make up that looks like some thing like Britney Spears in Toxic. Include her in the fantasy, not some stranger.
Reply:from your question it seems that presently


you are not sexually satisfied because of that you feel horny , one beautiful thing is that sex is like a food if you are hungry you shud have it at that time you feel that you are satisfied but after particular time depends on the environment and surrounding you need it again , one more thing in whole universe only human being has got marriage system which is very unnatural you cannot be satisfied with one spouse so no harm in trying prostitute use all the safety measures check the quality and njoy it once fullest and to keep your sexual desire at low you can do meditation and keep yourself busy with the work but never try your maid servant because it may create problem