Maid/Matron of Honor problem?

We used to be 4 girls who went together during med school days. I had a falling out with one. The other one isn't attending (says she can't leave her kid with a sitter, and insists on bringing him along - my fiance %26amp; I have decided that it's going to be an adults only affair - so she decided that she's not attending). The other one told me that she wouldn't want to be my maid of honor because she is too shy and she doesn't know what to do.


All my other friends are guys. They're kinda weirded out when I start telling them my problem, and they all say the same thing: "well, don't look at me. i'm not going to be your 'maid of honor'".


Another option are my two cousins. They're both older than me. The older one is happily married with two beautiful boys, and the younger one is separated (within a year of her wedding). I am closer to age to the younger one but the older one and I are of the same faith (she converted about 5 years earlier than me). Who do I ask?


Can I ask my mom?

Maid/Matron of Honor problem?
The best advice I received when planning our wedding was that it was OUR wedding. Do what ever you want. We had one extra bridesmaid than groomsmen because they were who we WANTED in our wedding. When it came time for the wedding dance, her boyfriend stepped in as her dance partner. We had one lucky groomsman that got to tote around two beautiful girls. But like I said it is YOUR wedding do what you want, ask who you want. If all goes right you are only going to have one day like this. Enjoy it and don't stress. In the end the result will be the same. You will be happily married....no matter who was in the wedding.
Reply:If she really was your friend she'd get over herself and be there for you!





Ask her first and find out why she's acting this way.





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Best thing ever my Maid of Honor is clueless too!
Reply:Does he have any sisters that you would feel comfortable asking? I am in the same boat. I asked his sister because I knew that they would know that I am accepting of his family.
Reply:I would ask either one of the cousins - whoever you are more comfortable with. Your mom already has her role in the wedding party, as the mother of the bride, so don't take that away from her. You can ask both cousins, of course. You can have more than one maid of honor!
Reply:My mom was my Maid of honor... I don't know anyone else I would rather have stand beside me... I have lots of friends, but she was my best friend my whole life... yes, you can ask your mom.. it's a sweet idea...
Reply:It's your wedding, you can ask whoever you want!!!
Reply:pick the woman with the same faith as you are honor god with this .as for your friends --i am sorry to say you have no friends .
Reply:Asking your mom is a really cute idea! As for having guys in your wedding party - if you want to do it, go for it! My husband's sister threw a fit about me not asking her to be a bridesmaid in our wedding, so I told hubby he was welcome to ask her to stand up for him. She stood up with the guys as an "honor attendant." She wore a black dress to match the tuxes, and everyone commented on what a great idea it was.
Reply:I would ask your older cousin, she is probably willing and has the same faith as you anyway....
Reply:You can have more than one Maid/matron of honour. You can have whoever you want, mum or cousin. They will be the ones looking after you on the day of the wedding until the marraige. Which one will keep you calm?