I'm the maid of honor in my sister's wedding..and i am lost!! Anybody wanna help?

My older sister is getting married in June, and since I'm the maid of honor...i need to plan the parties.


I'm a senior in high school, which only make things harder...so any ideas would be great.


I'm planning on have the other girls help out (they're more than willing) but I need soem more ideas.


We're having the shower outside on a large deck, I was thinking daisies would be nice decorations...the guest list is about 35-40 people...so....what else?


The Bachelorette Party is another thing..


none of us are drinkers, so that's out...


I thought maybe a weekend at the beach with just the bridal party, but that could get expensive...


or a day getting our nails done and stuff..but...there's not really anywhere around here to do that.


Basically, I'm overwhelmed, and not sure what to do next.

I'm the maid of honor in my sister's wedding..and i am lost!! Anybody wanna help?
Wow -- you're definitely on top of things for your age.





I was in a wedding where the MOH was the bride's younger sister (who was also a senior in high school). She wrote a great speech and all, but the rest of us pretty much took on the major planning responsibilities. Kudos to you for being on top of things!





I agree that a weekend at the beach could get expensive (unless one of you already lives at a house on the beach and is willing to host). Remember that you are just as responsible as everyone else for your share of the financial aspects, so don't suggest anything to the other bridesmaids that you can't afford. I'd recommend a fun evening out for the bachelorette party. Go out for dinner or go to a concert or something. Or order pizza or make dinner at home and watch cheesy romantic comedies. You don't have to drink to have a good time.





Shower ideas: have some sort of fun game like wedding trivia. At my friend's bachelorette party, we did trivia where we asked the groom to answer a bunch of questions about the bride and their relationship beforehand and then at the party we had the bride answer them and we compared her answers to the groom's. It was really fun.





Question examples:


Puzzlers: (These ones the bride likes to guess and answer and can be very sweet)


"What's your favorite physical feature of [the bride]?" (then you ask the bride, "What's [the groom's] favorite physical feature of yours?")





Trivia: (These ones test the memory of both -- and can lead to some fun "He's totally making that up...I swear he ate pizza!")


"What did you eat on your first date with [the bride]?" ("What did [the groom] eat on your first date?" )


"How many cousins, aunts and uncles do you have?" ("How many cousins, aunts and uncles does [the groom] have?")





Romantic: (These ones the bride isn't really expected to know at all, but they can be sweet to hear...it's fun for the bride to hear what her fiance has been willing to tell her nosy friends...)


"What is your first/favorite memory of [the bride]?" ("What is [the groom's] first/favorite memory of you?"





In general, for both the shower and the bachelorette party I'd say go for something low-key where the main part is getting to spend time together celebrating.





Good luck! Don't stress! Ask the older bridesmaids....they probably have some great ideas too!
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Reply:Instead of the drinking and tomfoolery, since you don't partake in libations, have a nice, girly bridal shower/luncheon with h'ors deuvres and finger foods, small pastry desserts or cake. It can be very inexpensive if you put a little work into it. You don't necessarily have to have a traditional bachelorette party.





Start with a color palette. If you like the daisies, try shades of bright yellows, pale pinks or oranges to celebrate summer. Paper cutters are easy to find at craft stores--consider getting a daisy shaped hole punch to decorate tables with and put pretty silver galvanized buckets on the tables and fill them with ice so that the ladies can self-serve on the beverages throughout the party. Start the party later in the afternoon so as evening falls, you can light sparklers and place them about for some nice evening lighting, or if you have a fire pit, enjoy hot s'mores. Who doesn't like s'mores??!
Reply:You can find nice decoration ideas at sites from craft stores like Michaels, and you can buy inexpensive decorations at any party store or on ebay.





For the Bachelorette party, why not go to a tea room for girl food, or any kind of place that guys would not be comfortable going to? Maybe you can get someone from your hair salon to do the spa treatment thing for you ......
Reply:It's perfectly fine to have the parties combined as well. Neither party is even necessary, but nice. I'm not having a bachelorette party, and I am thankful for that. It's also fine to discuss with the bride what her expectations are for such parties. This may further give you a better idea of what kind of party you need to plan without giving it away. Good luck, enjoy yourself!
Reply:I'm in almost the same situation, but I'm a freshman in college! For the shower I think daisies are an excellent idea! Are you having a specific theme to the shower? When are you having it? What type of climate do you live in? If you have a theme, or a color scheme things might be a little easier. Also remember that you only invite people to the shower that are invited to the wedding. Also, are you having a shower for her friends, or is it the family, or a mix of both? Did you establish a budget? Sorry, my thoughts are all over the place. Is she getting married this June? If so, then there isn't much time to plan this thing! Anyway, if you think of a color scheme, (maybe her favorite color is pink, so use pink and white... I don't know) but then have white table clothes with hot pink runners (You can get plastic table clothes, or inexpensive cloth from a fabric store). An idea for a shower could be having everyone bring a dish to pass, and writing down the recipe to be later collected for a cookbook. If your sister is opening the gifts in front of people (which most do) then it will take up a lot of time. So have a socializing and eating time, play a game, then do presents. I don't know, I have ideas all over the place!


Even though you are the maid of honor, have the other bridesmaids help you with planning the bachelorette party. Maybe going to someones house, getting takeout, and just hanging out at the house watching movies or doing your own manicure or something. I don't know, but good luck!
Reply:we're using daisies and putting them in mason jars for decor...then use plates, napkins, and cake decor in an accent color. if it's outside, you'll need less decor. also look up "the bridal shower quiz" on google...it's a quiz that the bride takes, and then you pass it out at the shower, and whoever gets the closest to guessing what the bride would answer gets a prize. as for the bachelorette party, here's what we're doing (we're not drinkers either)...there's no spas around here either, and like you said, a weekend at the beach is too expensive, so we're taking a day trip to go whitewater rafting. it's going to be so much fun...but that just depends on what ya'll are into. it's not much to go, and it can be done in a day.
Reply:Here is a great article on Bachelorette Party Ideas that are all fun but not to raunchy.





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