heres the thing, my friend and i have been like bff's since like we were 4 so thats like 20 years of friendship, but lately she has been so busy with her new found friends with work. i guess im a little jealous because when i would hang out with her im normally watching her kids while she watches tv or is on the internet. and i always call her or set up days to hang out with her or have her come over and its the same old thing im busy doing this with my friends or im going out with my boyfriend. so i dont know about her. now my cousin on the other hand has always been there for me, but she is four years older than me and thats fine so she does know about things wedding wise and she seems more like ok heres what we do type thing and all, but i just dont know anymore. i already told my friend shes maid of honor and i told my cousin i dont know who i want to be maid of honor and the more i look at it my cousin is more reliable and is been there more, unlike my friend.
Should I replace my friend for my cousin as maid of honor and if so how would I tell her?
Trust me, it's not about who's your best friend, it's totally about reliability. I have recently made a massive error by choosing my closest friend of millions of years. Big mistake. She has always needed to be the centre of attention, overly emotional and self obsessed. Since I announced wedding, she's even worse. She's got the sack. My 15 year old sister is replacing her. She's got 20 times the maturity.
Go with your cousin. You need someone who can be there for you, and take an interest, with maturity and a calm head, so it's ok for you to lose yours!
Reply:If I were you I would switch and make your cousin maid of honor and put your friend as a bridesmaid (if that's an option). If you need a good reason, say that you're getting pressure from your mom (whoever) to make a family member your maid of honor. Just fill your mom in on that one.
It's your wedding, I'd chose your cousin because she's willing to make time for you and that's what you need. Someone who is happy for you and will dote on you during this, not someone too busy.
Reply:Its your wedding and your maid of honor. The maid of honor should be someone special to you, someone that has always been there for you, someone dependable %26amp; reliable, someone you can count on, someone who will take the honor and treasure it with the upmost respect.
If you feel that your best friend has not been so best friend like and that she isnt the right person for the job explain to her how you feel. She can still be a bridesmaid in your wedding just not the maid of honor.
Good Luck and Congrutatlions!
Reply:be honest with your friend and explain to her the reason you are 'demoting' her. If she can't understand your reasoning and backs out completely from your wedding party, then that is just one less problem you need to worry about down the line.
Reply:No- you can not replace your friend as Maid of Honor if you want to consider yourself a fair and honorable friend yourself. Tell your cousin you had a brain glitch and ask her to be a different wedding attendant.
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