Can anybody advice me how to talk to a k2 teacher who is always approaching me about my 6 yrs old daughter?

she expects alot from my 6 yrs old daughter, she always confront me how come my child still don't know how to do this and do that, she's accusing me of over pampering my daughter, one time I caught her shouting to my daughter while she's crying along the corridor %26amp; she explained to me that my daughter almost fell down she just said stop crying don't want to stop that's why she's shouting and yelling to her %26amp; she told me ok you want to take her home, take her home! I never had the chance to say anything because I was shocked, is this how a K2 teacher handles situation like this? This afternoon before dismissal of K2 she approached me again to put some effort to teach my daughter how to read and write properly because she said she thought my daughter will not pass Primary 1 next year. I'm a homemaker with 2 children , I don't have a maid and with so many house chores I cannot put too much effort and we Filipino relies on the capacity and the ability of the teacher to teach our children.

Can anybody advice me how to talk to a k2 teacher who is always approaching me about my 6 yrs old daughter?
I am a kindergarten teacher and I will say that many teachers DO NOT treat children right! Parents have NO IDEA how teachers sometimes demean kids. Unless you are able to switch her to a better class with a better teacher, you will have to bear with the one you have. However, she should not just tell you to work with your kid. Ask her to GIVE YOU things you can do at home. Ask her HOW you can help your daughter with her reading and writing.


It does not take a lot of time to help your child at home. You only need a few minutes (about 15) every evening. You can do a lot through play. Ask the teacher for books or titles of books that you can get to help your child practice reading at home. She can read to you in the kitchen while you are cooking dinner. Get her a handwriting book from the teacher store and she can practice writing while you cook. Then you are in close enough proximity to check on her progress. These are not big issues. You can do them and still get your housework done. But the teacher needs to give you the tools to help you make your child successful. I am really sorry to hear about your situation and my heart goes out to you.
Reply:First off, I can empathize with the amount of housework you must have. Now, please remember, all of it will still be there tomorrow. What I mean is, get done what is necessary, then put aside the rest to spend time with your kids. Children are so much more important than having a clean house!





I would suggest spending perhaps an hour or two with the children, daily, helping them to learn to write and read, then in return, ask them to help mommy out with a chore or two that they can handle such as picking up their toys, maybe dusting.





As far as the teacher is concerned, her approach is all wrong and I would personally discuss her treatment of your daughter with the school principal as soon as possible. This is a form of abuse and if allowed to continue, will only inhibit your daughter's desire/ability to learn. As far as advising you how to talk to this woman, if calmly telling her to please not yell at your daughter anymore doesn't work, then I would pull her aside and treat her with the same lack of respect she is showing you and tell her to get out of your face and back off.





Good luck with the teacher.


Please remember, there is always cleaning to do, but children only grow up once. Spend as much time with them as you can while they still want you to.
Reply:The teacher did not handle this particular situation right, but she is human, you don't know what else was going on. I would ask her to not speak to my child in that way and make a point of showing up for lunch etc to see how the interaction is going. If I saw a lot more negative then positive I would approach the principal or school counselor. Perhaps having a middle person would help you and the teacher understand each other better.


As for helping your daughter at home...This is part of your job. The teachers job is to introduce new concepts and spend a little time with each child every day. However, she does not have enough time to spend big chunks of time helping your child. She has an entire class full of students and a curriculum that she is required to teach and have most of her students learn by the end of the year. Your child is falling behind, and is requiring a lot more one on one time then the teacher has to give in a day so she is asking you to step in and help. If you spend 15 mins per day helping your child and the teacher is working with her at school and she is still having problems, have her evaluated for a learning disability. Schools will do this testing for free but you have to ask.
Reply:You and the teacher are both right.





It doesn't take long to work with your kid at home. Even 15 minutes a day is fine. I'm not saying that the teacher is handling the situation correctly, but if she is telling you that your kid is falling behind, you need to listen to her. Once you start working with your daughter at home, you will be surprised at how easy it is. You can fold laundry or cook meals while helping her study.





As for the teacher's behavior, tell her that you don't appreciate the way your daughter was treated, and if it happens again, you will be speaking to her supervisor.
Reply:*****-slap the *****
Reply:First of all you have more patients then me. I would of yanked the teacher outside for making my child cry like that. Second it's the teachers job to do the things she is confronting you about. Has she recommended a tutor for your child? If she keeps treating your child like this your child may not even want to be in her class anymore. Then you will have bigger problems. GOOD LUCK
Reply:Schools EXPECT kids to know some basics these days. When you don't know the situation and are assuming the teacher is hassling your kid for no reason isn't too smart either. Also a teacher who DIDN'T care wouldn't be approaching you about your daughter's problems at all. They wouldn't care. "Too much effort"???? Kids are worth whatever it takes to help them make it at school.I think you need to LISTEN to her teacher. The teacher WANTS her to succeed and pass the class. When there's problems at school ignoring them or blaming the teacher gets you an "F" grade from me.
Reply:i´d go to the principal.but first ask other mothers if it is the same in their case.every child is different.i guess only if she shows signs of being a little retarded or a seriour problem like that then the teacher´s job is to point it out and help.certainly not to terorize the-already confused by this beheavour, child.could you not ask for hrlp tutoring in ypur church?


she sounds rude and impatient.i´d also confront her and ask if she has any problems with your nationality.
Reply:I feel for your daughter to be so young and to be in that situation. Perhaps the teacher's negative outlook is creating some of your daughter's insecurity which would lead to her crying more than usual. As a parent we are also an authority figure. I admire many teachers for their hard work and dedication, but when someone is crossing the line with our child and making them feel bad about themself then we as parents need to address the matter for their sake. Your child has a right to an education and to feel secure in her environment. Maybe the teacher is frustrated, but there should be a way to resolve this either with a principal involved or someone else who wants what is best for all of you.
Reply:Beat her down or stop being a tight a** she is only six. You cant flunk in K2.
Reply:Um, you had time to type that, so you have time to listen to your daughter read.





Practise makes perfect.





Literacy is her future, you should make time to help her, if the teacher honestly thinks there's a problem.
Reply:It sounds to me like both you and the teacher could use a change in thinking about how kids learn best. You should definitely speak to the school administrators about this teacher yelling at your daughter like that - if a small child falls, embarassing the poor kid by yelling is far more likely to make her cry even more, and heaven knows if that teacher is constantly putting pressure like that on the girl, it will make it harder for her to learn from the teacher.





But you do need to put some effort into teaching your daughter, at home. One way to do this is to have her help you around the house. At her age, she is old enough to do some simple things in the kitchen, like helping you measure and stir ingredients for foods you cook - especially if you use recipes, because then you can teach her to read the words and numbers in those recipes. You might like to take her shopping with you, and start showing her how to read the labels of the foods in the store - or at an open air market, you can have her tell you the colors and sizes of all the different things you look at. She can also start helping sweep the floors and clear off the supper table, and can be expected to pick up her toys and clothes. Some of this may help your work load in the home, as well as teach her to take care of her own home.





Perhaps you could decorate her bedroom, or an area where she plays, with letters and numbers, and have her practice a new word each week, or each day. I know that without my parents working with me at home, I would never have learned math - you can have her say her addition, subtraction tables, and when she is ready, multiplication and division. Going to the library, if there is one near you, and getting some books to read with her, is a great idea, too.
Reply:what makes me irritated is when some of you are blaming the mother. Whatever the mother has done or didn't do has nothing to do with how this teacher treated her daugheter. Every mother is busy stay at home or working it doesn't matter and she never said she didn't teach her daughter anything. you're going to be busy. And when our children are at school we do expect teachers to teach not put down our children, that is what they are trained and paid to do. Reguardless of what the mother has or hasn't taught her daughter there is NO REASON for a teacher to treat or demean a child like that or in around about way call ANY mother a bad mother or critique any mothers parenting style.





I'm sorry but if it were me, I would go straight to the principal about it and if he didn't do anything about it then threaten to go to the board about it. because it's ridiculous. That teacher was definitely crossing the lines and should know that HER behavior is unacceptable. And if she can't handle children or be patient with children or teaching them reguardless of how much they were sent to her knowing or not knowing that maybe SHE shouldn't be teaching at all in the first place. Because it could damage your daughter.
Reply:"....Filipino relies on the capacity and the ability of the teacher to teach our children."


That there is the entire problem. Learning begins at home. That is your primary role as a parent, to be the caretaker of needs and teacher.


Reprioritize now before the problem escalates. Housework will wait. What's more important, having a spotless house or a child that will succeed?


I was a single mom and breadwinner for myself and my 3 daughters for 10 years. I can proudly say that they carry B averages,are active in xtracurriculars, and have never had any disciplinary problems or teacher complaints.











As far as the teacher is concerned, her behavior was inappropriate and I would be having a serious discussion with the school principal about my concerns and demand that my child be placed with a different teacher. If my demands could not be met then I would look to other schools.
Reply:wow thats pretty intense!! i dont think u need to talk to her at all! i think u should either put her in another class or another school! yeah you might be too easy on your daughter and she might need to toughin up a bit but a teacher should never act like that, specially one with young children. it would be different if your daughter was in high school or something but for gods sake she's only six!!! she needs someone who can talk her out of her babyish ways but not like that teacher is trying it!!