Should i feel hurt if my wife tells me to sleep with a maid?

I had asked my 'soon to be ex wife' to give our bed sheets to our domestic help to wash them. Later over something else she got upset and told me that i was a male chauvinist pig and that i should get a house maid to do all these work and i should also sleep with the maid rather her.





This happened before a year. I felt so hurt with her words. She was the first girl i ever touched in my 24 years and even after she left me i haven't touched any other woman. Is dignity only for women? Am i wrong to feel hurt?





I am aware this is an old thing but i just am not able to get through the way she made me feel.

Should i feel hurt if my wife tells me to sleep with a maid?
At the moment it happened yes you should have been hurt but you shouldn't still be dealing on it.
Reply:NO





I wouldn't take any notice of what she said
Reply:She said it because she was feeling hurt ad wanted to hurt you.
Reply:You shouldn't allow anyone to define you. You are who you are and not who others say.
Reply:Your wife meant to inflict pain; so stop letting her words bother you. When you think about it, it was a silly thing to say and you should treat it as such. Get a housemaid to do the housework and sleep with her too? What man wouldn't like a setup like that? You should have laughed in your wife's face, when she said that. Forget about that silly woman and her ridiculous comments. Thank goodness, you'll be rid of her soon. Start getting yourself together; so you can find happiness, my friend! Best Wishes.
Reply:its rough and its gonna take time for u to get over this, she was the one u loved and she made u feel dirty and used. ur going to have to try and get this out of ur mind, buy urself a new car, i think that would be helpful and a good start to move on without her. she needs help bad. its a shame what she did to u. good luck, i'll keep u in my prayers
Reply:Too often divorce is about scoring points as much as splitting up. Sorry, I hope it gets better; but it will probably get worse.
Reply:You two are getting divorced now? You have the right to feel any way you want to feel. The fact of the matter is you did something that upset and hurt her and a natural reaction for most is to try to hurt the person right back in a worse way. You two are getting divorced now so unless you are trying to work it out I would just stop thinking about it and if you are working it out then talk to her about it and tell her why it hurt you.
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Reply:I am sorry that your marriage didn't last. My heart goes out to you. Not all women are this way. Have you looked at your situation from a religious point of view? First of all, let me start out by saying that your ex-wife doesn't have the Lord in her life. I am certain that if she was a faithful God loving woman, she would have handled the situation differently. All those evil words wouldn't have been spoken from her lips. I know that those words hurt, but you should forgive her. -Forgiveness is key.


If you still love your soon to be ex wife, then try to salvage your marriage and try to get her to go to church.


I'm not the kind of person who leaves my marriage in the hands of marriage counselors but only in the hands of the Lord. The Lord is the only one that can really save your marriage. You both have to submit. You just have to ask the Lord to come into your lives and into your heart. You have to have faith and seek the Lord whole heartedly.


Once you both have surrendered yourselves over to the Lord, HE will bless you both with peace, hope, love, respect, and prosperity. Don't throw in the towel just yet.


By doing so, you are allowing the devil to win.


Have faith and believe in the Lord. -Be the Strong man that it talks about in the Bible.





Matthew 12; 25-29 (NIV)


25Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them, "Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand. 26If Satan drives out Satan, he is divided against himself. How then can his kingdom stand? 27And if I drive out demons by Beelzebub, by whom do your people drive them out? So then, they will be your judges. 28But if I drive out demons by the Spirit of God, then the kingdom of God has come upon you.





29"Or again, how can anyone enter a strong man's house and carry off his possessions unless he first ties up the strong man? Then he can rob his house.





~Rebuild your marriage on a strong spiritual foundation that the devil cannot tear down. In the Bible; it says,





Matthew 7 - The Wise and Foolish Builders


24"Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. 26But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash."


28When Jesus had finished saying these things, the crowds were amazed at his teaching, 29because he taught as one who had authority, and not as their teachers of the law.








~Remember that the devil comes only to steal, kill, and destroy.





John 10:10 (NIV)


The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.





John 8 - The Children of the Devil


42Jesus said to them, "If God were your Father, you would love me, for I came from God and now am here. I have not come on my own; but he sent me. 43Why is my language not clear to you? Because you are unable to hear what I say. 44You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father's desire. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. 45Yet because I tell the truth, you do not believe me! 46Can any of you prove me guilty of sin? If I am telling the truth, why don't you believe me? 47He who belongs to God hears what God says. The reason you do not hear is that you do not belong to God."





~ I will say a prayer for you and your spouse in hopes that you both surrender yourselves to the Lord and seek him whole heartedly for refuge. May the Lord Bless you both with peace, hope, love, forgiveness, respect and prosperity. † -God Bless.
Reply:Talk to her about it. I believe she was pissed of with something or maybe was in her period. Just talk to her so you can forget about this words. she can't be serious.
Reply:If you're divorcing anyway, get over it.
Reply:She sounds like she has major problems. I wouldn't feel bad. She's the one with the issues.
Reply:get over it and sleep with the maid..she may help you get over the trauma you think you are going through.
Reply:Sounds like something said in the heat of the moment.


If she's you soon to be ex wife - ignore her - or maybe take her advice and move on.
Reply:She should lose you to a woman who would appreciate you. Then, she would see what an *** she is being. Good men are hard to come by; she should be thanking her lucky stars. So many men cheat. Good for you for loving your wife enough to keep it at home.