My 16 year old sister in law hates me?

i need help my partners 16 yr old sister and i used to be close then she got drunk on the weekend and started going off at me now i have to live in the same house and live with her completley ignoring me. i dont know what to do? she is meant to be my maid of honour at my wedding. and every time i talk to some one else in the house about anything she gives me death stares. its only her and i at home during the day and we used to talk all the time. what should i do?i dont even know what happened to cause this fight but my heart feels like it is ripped out. please if anyone can help that would be great.

My 16 year old sister in law hates me?
why is a 16 year old getting DRUNK?





That aside, try to talk to her and give her one chance to start playing nice again. Try apologizing for whatever it was that she thinks you did to her and let her know that whatever it was, it wasn't malicious. DO NOT have her be your maid of honor at your wedding if she won't even talk to you. The maid of honor has a very important role in the wedding and the bride shouldn't be dealing with a brat on her big day. Give the girl a chance to reconcile and if she doesn't, get a different maid of honor. good luck!
Reply:i would not worry to much about it. shes 16. she acting like a little brat for sure but if you let this up set you then she will know your button and she will push them the rest of your life. be has nice to her as you ever was. if you can find a good time to talk to her just tell her you are sorry if you made her mad or hurt her in any way and if she will tell you what you done then you will do you best to make it up to her. when its time to put your wedding together ask her one time if she still wants to be in the wedding if she says no then so be it. she will have to be the one to tell her brother and parents why she refused your invitation to be in the wedding. now with all that said..you and boyfriend need to get out of his parents house. if you are old enough to plan a wedding and a life together you are to old to be living with mommy and daddy. if you had your own home then you would not have to worry about her giving you mean looks or feeling so uncomfortable every day.
Reply:Everyone has said the same thing, talk to her. they say that cause it's true.


Sometimes people get the wrong end of the stick about something, or take a very random action, conversation and add extra meaning to it which they may find offensive, upsetting or worse.


This may all be inside that persons head but to them it is very, very real.


If you are to have any form of relationship with her (and not risk it snow balling into something out of control) then you really, really need to talk to her.





If you find this difficult, then maybe try a third party intervention, from somebody both she and you trust, someone impartial who will not take sides but play 'devils advocate'.





She may come to her senses, realise that she is being silly and you relationship may return to the way it was, however you must also realise that she may have just cause for how she is feeling and you yourself may find realisation that you were in the wrong. Unfortunatly neither of you will have any peace of mind until everything, however big or small, petty or important is out into the open, and until everyone included has said what they have to say.





Saying this...I implore you to listen to what she has to say, don't interupt, scoff or belittle her feelings. You may not agree with her but she has a right to feel the way she feels and the way you resolve this may be the beginning of a fantastic relationship between you and your future sister-in-law, or handled selfishly, childishly could be the beginning of the end of your relationship.


Don't forget even if it turns out you cannot make peace with her, remember she will always be your future husbands sister, and will always be around at family do's, weddings, funerals, parties etc...so it's in your best interest you try and find a mutually beneficial end to this 'stand off'
Reply:just forget it man you already had to go through high school more than likely and you probably dont want to go back so just forget about it and just say your sorry for what ever and you should be good if your an adult then that is all you need say.
Reply:She's 16 years old--that basically explains it all. Did she get in trouble for getting drunk on the weekend? Maybe she thinks you snitched on her...I don't know.





I would try to talk with her. If you get no where with her though (and don't expect to either), I really wouldn't worry about having her be your maid of honor--since she's acting like such a wonderful friend to you.





Good luck!
Reply:well just ignore her because she is just 1 person out of 6 billion people that hate you. i wouldnt care that much.
Reply:talk to her about it..
Reply:sit her down, talk to her and make her pancakes!!!











Recipe





Serve these pancakes with butter and syrup.


INGREDIENTS:


2 cups all-purpose flour, stirred or sifted before measuring


2 1/2 teaspoons baking powder


1/2 teaspoon salt


1 egg, slightly beaten


1 1/2 cups milk


2 tablespoons melted butter


PREPARATION:


Sift together flour, baking powder, and salt. In a separate bowl, combine egg and milk; add to flour mixture, stirring only until smooth. Blend in melted butter. Cook on a hot, greased griddle, using about 1/4 cup of batter for each pancake. Cook until brown on one side and around edge; turn and brown the other side. Recipe for pancakes serves 4.
Reply:IGNORE her too. Eventually she will talk, or maybe she is just a witch and doesn't care. She is young and immature - either she will grow up or she wont. Don't let HER problem be yours.
Reply:next time she is mean muggin you just ask her what had happened to make her so mad at you. If you don't ask you will never know and it will never get fixed
Reply:dude..or girl? it takes awhile when i moved in my brothers house (step brother) we fought for a LONG time but we cool now. lol yea but it will work out eventually
Reply:IT TAKES THE BIGGER PERSON TO MAKE THE FIRST STEP. TALK TO HER ALONE JUST TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL.. AND DONT FIGHT.. WHAT EVER YOU DO.. TELL HER YOU LOVE HER AND YOU WANT HER TO BE AT YOUR WEDDING.. LIFE IS TO SHORT
Reply:shame;((((





did u do something wrong that u r not aware????????
Reply:All I can say is the quicker you move out of there, the better.


The more distance you can typically put between yourself and the in-laws, the better.





Ask her point blank if she wants to be your maid of honor... now... yes or no. Line up someone who is more supportive.
Reply:my best bet, even though this may sound crazy is that she is jelous of you. Does your partner give her an even amount of attention as you? Try to sit down calmly and talk to her about it.
Reply:I guess you're going to have to find another maid-of-honor. And when you do, I bet Miss. Thang will then BEG to be your best friend again. Ugh. But yea, she's just being EMO. Ignore the little poop head.
Reply:CALL THE POLICE or move in with your fiance.


oh and you can also lock all the doors in the house and you can talk to your parents.take her to rehab
Reply:you are family now. sit her down and talk to her and ask her whats up. Dont worry now that your family things have to get married. when the wedding time comes you all will forget about the drama and focus on the ocassion. Its probably just a phase.
Reply:The best thing to do is face her and ask her why you guys aren't getting along any longer, maybe someone found out about her partying and she is blameing you.
Reply:It depends on why she's mad. If you said or did something to her that she honestly took to heart, then you are going to have to let her get over it in her own time and way. Constantly bringing it up to her will only push her away further.





If you said or did something that just ticked her off temporarily, then just apologize, offer a very valid excuse for why you did what you did (right, wrong or indifferent) and then ensure to her that there is no way that you will ever let it happen again. Make sure you enforce with her how valuable she is to you.
Reply:Let her cool down for a few days. Then sit and talk to her. Hopefully, she'll open up. If not, you'll just need to be patient.
Reply:She is a 16-year old hormonal *****. Don't even worry about her. She'll grow up in time.
Reply:Maybe its because she doesn't approve of same sex marriages.
Reply:the only thing to do is confront her. she is being emotionally immature. you need to set her down alone and ask her what the issues are. do not play her childish games, as that will get you no where. she will gain respect for you if you call her out on it. keep the conversation private, and do not repeat what was said to anyone. as that will start another arguement. if she doesn't want to make up with you, simply tell her "lets agree to disagree". and leave it alone. good luck.
Reply:talk to her, not us
Reply:Move Out, you dont need more troble
Reply:I'm a teenager, shes a teenager and we are drama queens





she will get over it,
Reply:that 's right talk to her . and buy her samethings she will be happy again talk to you........................................
Reply:Be the bigger man. In a courteous, polite, calm way have a talk with the girl and ask her if you did anything wrong and what the problem is. Say you miss her friendship and want to make things right. Then listen and hopefully things will get better.
Reply:She's a teenager who doesn't she hate?!
Reply:forget her she"ll get over it, besides she is 16 and a drunkie under age. thats against the law. you tell her you shouldn't be hated on me at all because i covered your little butt because i could of told the local police that you was drunk and underage. so in a way she owes you a lot. you see what i am saying!!