I am a doctor and my husband is a senior executive.We have two children 6%26amp;3 yrs old.We are located in Princeton,NJ and we need a live in maid to look after the house and the children while we are at work.A maid of Asian origin would be prefered.How do I go about looking for one?Or would someone have a suitable maid to recommend.
I am looking for a live in maid to assist in cooking,cleaning and baby sitting.?
I read a recent article in the NY Times (in the last couple of weeks) about people seeking asian au pairs. It named an employment agency that specialized in this. They probably can find a maid for you as well, and assist with various immigration issues. You can run a search on nytimes.com.
Reply:i have a suggestion work less and raise your own kids!!!
Reply:I certainly wouldn't be looking for a suitable person to take care of my children in Y answers.....
Try looking up Nanny service providers in your area, or talking to local daycare providers....they might be able to point you in the right direction.
Reply:I recommend "myself". :-) However I am not Asian.
I raised 4 children by myself. All 4 graduated to, and that has made me very proud.
You paying for the relocation??
flowers funeral
Monday, November 16, 2009
Minute maid Juice nourishes the brain?
We purchased the minute maid Pomegranate Blueberry juice
that helps nourishes the brain and body for my 22 month old. My only concern with this drink is that its loaded with sugar. 27 or 29 grams of sugar in every 8 ounce. which is too much.
Is this a good drink to give to a toddler? would it really help nourish the brain?
I also give my toddler 1 bottle of pediasure a day. Is it a bad idea to give both?
Description of the Juice:
Made from a blend of five juices, Minute Maid Pomegranate Blueberry Flavored 100% fruit juice blend is enhanced with 50mg of Martek Biosciences Corporation’s life’sDHA™ Omega-3/DHA per 8 fl. oz serving, and along with these four other nutrients, helps nourish the brain and body:
Choline and B12 -- play a role in brain and nervous system signals,
antioxidant Vitamin E -- helps shield the Omega-3s in the brain from free radicals
antioxidant Vitamin C – is highly concentrated in brain nerve endings
Minute maid Juice nourishes the brain?
If your seriously worried about nutrition then get a vitamin supplement with those nutritions. Fruit juice is one of the worse things to give a child for just a few vitamins. The amount of sugar is outragous in most juices. the pediasure is good if you are truly worried about nutrition. All of this shouldn't be too neccasary as long as you are offering a wide variety of nutritious food.
Reply:Sounds to me like a load of crock. If you really want to give that to your toddler then water it down 50/50. Pediasure is a great thing to give them if they aren't really eating a balanced diet. I know my daughter hates most things we have for supper.
I wouldn't give more then 4 oz of this juice and def water it down.
that helps nourishes the brain and body for my 22 month old. My only concern with this drink is that its loaded with sugar. 27 or 29 grams of sugar in every 8 ounce. which is too much.
Is this a good drink to give to a toddler? would it really help nourish the brain?
I also give my toddler 1 bottle of pediasure a day. Is it a bad idea to give both?
Description of the Juice:
Made from a blend of five juices, Minute Maid Pomegranate Blueberry Flavored 100% fruit juice blend is enhanced with 50mg of Martek Biosciences Corporation’s life’sDHA™ Omega-3/DHA per 8 fl. oz serving, and along with these four other nutrients, helps nourish the brain and body:
Choline and B12 -- play a role in brain and nervous system signals,
antioxidant Vitamin E -- helps shield the Omega-3s in the brain from free radicals
antioxidant Vitamin C – is highly concentrated in brain nerve endings
Minute maid Juice nourishes the brain?
If your seriously worried about nutrition then get a vitamin supplement with those nutritions. Fruit juice is one of the worse things to give a child for just a few vitamins. The amount of sugar is outragous in most juices. the pediasure is good if you are truly worried about nutrition. All of this shouldn't be too neccasary as long as you are offering a wide variety of nutritious food.
Reply:Sounds to me like a load of crock. If you really want to give that to your toddler then water it down 50/50. Pediasure is a great thing to give them if they aren't really eating a balanced diet. I know my daughter hates most things we have for supper.
I wouldn't give more then 4 oz of this juice and def water it down.
Since my husband thinks we are too old for sex & going out, I am telling him this?
I am now too old for house work and cooking. I am telling him that he needs to hire both a maid and a cook. After all if he is too old to have sex or go out, I am too old for chores. Do you think it will get his attention?
Since my husband thinks we are too old for sex %26amp; going out, I am telling him this?
Hi Cougar
If this is your outlet please dont stop posting these questions you have a wicked sense of humor.....hahahaha toooo old for chores lol Can I use this line .....
hahahahaha toooo old for sex man we busted ok walked in on my inlaws bout 5 years ago going at it like rabbits back then they were 86 and 76.....oh gosh that still ingrained in my brain like yesterday...
Reply:That's just being passive aggressive and playing child mind games... two poisonous things in a marriage.
He is using the "too old" excuse to cover up the real reason why he is disinterested in sex. I think you need to have a serious discussion about it. Say, "Aside from being too old, what are the other reasons that we can't have sex and go out?" Remind him that it is his duty as a husband to take care of these needs for you.
Additionally, find articles about older people regarding sex... like this one:
http://www.bottomlinesecrets.com/blpnet/...
Good luck!
Reply:Nah! Don't stoop to his level. Discuss the issue with him, and seek counseling if he refuses a dialogue with you. If you're not happy in your marriage, I would go to counseling and ask him to go with you. If he refuses, go without him.
Reply:LOVE IT!
And when he doesn`t believe you....just quietly stop doing ANYTHING for HIM (while you keep on cleaning the house and doing things that benefit you) Stop cooking for him, washing HIS clothes and anything else you do for him.
Trust me....THAT will get his attention!
Reply:You post this stuff all the time. If the marriage is that bad do something about it or leave. Complaining isn't magically fixing the problems is it? Good luck.
Reply:LOL that is too funny ..... You go girl .. And tell him 40 is the new 30 ... So 50 is 40 and 60 is the new 50.... Tell him to grow up or he is going to be one lonely , hungry sexless a**.... LOL....
Reply:He sounds to slow to even get the hit he would just think you mad at him for something da!No if he drinks now and then get him drunk some not and have your way with him,if he won't give help your self.
Reply:It sounds like you both are going to be a little bored! You're running out of things you're young enough to do! Good thing you're not too old for the internet.
Reply:hahahaha.
this is funny. well. it might get his attention.
get the old man some viagra and you buy a microwave.
enjoy your old age.
Reply:I think it won't get his attention, so much as it will piss him off.
That's pretty passive-aggressive.
Reply:Aren't YOU the one who wants to do the neighbor guy??
I doubt your husband thinks this I think your lonely and looking for attention..call doctor phil
Reply:Uh, be sure he's not getting off on the side w/ someone else. It sounds like he just doesn't want to do anything w/ you in general.
Reply:Is he haveing "Up" problems? Maybe he just needs a little blue pill......
Reply:Yes, I do! Good way of looking at it.
Reply:Honey give it a break. He did something nice get over it or leave!!!!
Reply:That ought to cause more friction....its time to talk divorce...this is no good for either of you...
Reply:Cougar....honey...sweetie...my friend. Let me tell you a story. In the last six months, my wife has stopped washing the clothes...including her own. In the last year, she has stopped going to the store. She will not go to the doctor unless the MD refuses to refill her prescriptions because he hasn't seen her. She says she feels bad and hurts all the time. Well, I am 5 years older than her. I have picked up her part of the laundry, tried to pick up most of the housecleaning, and I do all of the shopping. I do more than half of the cooking and she bitches every time she feels like she is forced to cook a meal. She knows out budget is tight aned I am trying to watch it as close as I can...but if it is her turn to cook she will order dinner to be delivered and not turn a care as to whether we can afford it or not. After all, I am the one that has to figure out how to pay all the bills. I work 65 hours a week...she works 30...and all I hear from her is how f***ing tired she is. Yet, she will not do anything about getting to the bottom of it.
I tried an experiment just to see how far she would go with all of this. She has steadfastly refused to efgver clean the cat box. I don't mind cleaning it. No big deal. But in the spirit of cooperation, I don't think it is out of line for me to ask her to clean it once or twice a month. I asked her to clean it one day. She didn't do it after saying that she would. I asked her the next day and the next day...she said she would and then didn't do it. I decided to see how long this would go on.
The cat box went 5 weeks without being changed....and I finally gave in because I couldn't stand it anymore.
I stopped washing her clothes...she just decided to stay home from work.
I have done everything I know to get her off her ***. I have tried to take her to counseling...she wont go.
Her health is terrible, but she could feel a lot better if she would just get off her ***. Instead, she just wants me to take care of her. If I were to leave her, I think the house would just fall down around her.
Of course, all of this is on top of not having sex with her for seven years now. It is all about her...what she wants...what she doesn't want. No one else matters to her...not even the people who care for her. You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
So you can go on strike with your hubby, but don't expect a miracle. I am hanging on trying to do what I can to take care of myself. If having a one night stand can lift my spirits for a while, why not?
Since my husband thinks we are too old for sex %26amp; going out, I am telling him this?
Hi Cougar
If this is your outlet please dont stop posting these questions you have a wicked sense of humor.....hahahaha toooo old for chores lol Can I use this line .....
hahahahaha toooo old for sex man we busted ok walked in on my inlaws bout 5 years ago going at it like rabbits back then they were 86 and 76.....oh gosh that still ingrained in my brain like yesterday...
Reply:That's just being passive aggressive and playing child mind games... two poisonous things in a marriage.
He is using the "too old" excuse to cover up the real reason why he is disinterested in sex. I think you need to have a serious discussion about it. Say, "Aside from being too old, what are the other reasons that we can't have sex and go out?" Remind him that it is his duty as a husband to take care of these needs for you.
Additionally, find articles about older people regarding sex... like this one:
http://www.bottomlinesecrets.com/blpnet/...
Good luck!
Reply:Nah! Don't stoop to his level. Discuss the issue with him, and seek counseling if he refuses a dialogue with you. If you're not happy in your marriage, I would go to counseling and ask him to go with you. If he refuses, go without him.
Reply:LOVE IT!
And when he doesn`t believe you....just quietly stop doing ANYTHING for HIM (while you keep on cleaning the house and doing things that benefit you) Stop cooking for him, washing HIS clothes and anything else you do for him.
Trust me....THAT will get his attention!
Reply:You post this stuff all the time. If the marriage is that bad do something about it or leave. Complaining isn't magically fixing the problems is it? Good luck.
Reply:LOL that is too funny ..... You go girl .. And tell him 40 is the new 30 ... So 50 is 40 and 60 is the new 50.... Tell him to grow up or he is going to be one lonely , hungry sexless a**.... LOL....
Reply:He sounds to slow to even get the hit he would just think you mad at him for something da!No if he drinks now and then get him drunk some not and have your way with him,if he won't give help your self.
Reply:It sounds like you both are going to be a little bored! You're running out of things you're young enough to do! Good thing you're not too old for the internet.
Reply:hahahaha.
this is funny. well. it might get his attention.
get the old man some viagra and you buy a microwave.
enjoy your old age.
Reply:I think it won't get his attention, so much as it will piss him off.
That's pretty passive-aggressive.
Reply:Aren't YOU the one who wants to do the neighbor guy??
I doubt your husband thinks this I think your lonely and looking for attention..call doctor phil
Reply:Uh, be sure he's not getting off on the side w/ someone else. It sounds like he just doesn't want to do anything w/ you in general.
Reply:Is he haveing "Up" problems? Maybe he just needs a little blue pill......
Reply:Yes, I do! Good way of looking at it.
Reply:Honey give it a break. He did something nice get over it or leave!!!!
Reply:That ought to cause more friction....its time to talk divorce...this is no good for either of you...
Reply:Cougar....honey...sweetie...my friend. Let me tell you a story. In the last six months, my wife has stopped washing the clothes...including her own. In the last year, she has stopped going to the store. She will not go to the doctor unless the MD refuses to refill her prescriptions because he hasn't seen her. She says she feels bad and hurts all the time. Well, I am 5 years older than her. I have picked up her part of the laundry, tried to pick up most of the housecleaning, and I do all of the shopping. I do more than half of the cooking and she bitches every time she feels like she is forced to cook a meal. She knows out budget is tight aned I am trying to watch it as close as I can...but if it is her turn to cook she will order dinner to be delivered and not turn a care as to whether we can afford it or not. After all, I am the one that has to figure out how to pay all the bills. I work 65 hours a week...she works 30...and all I hear from her is how f***ing tired she is. Yet, she will not do anything about getting to the bottom of it.
I tried an experiment just to see how far she would go with all of this. She has steadfastly refused to efgver clean the cat box. I don't mind cleaning it. No big deal. But in the spirit of cooperation, I don't think it is out of line for me to ask her to clean it once or twice a month. I asked her to clean it one day. She didn't do it after saying that she would. I asked her the next day and the next day...she said she would and then didn't do it. I decided to see how long this would go on.
The cat box went 5 weeks without being changed....and I finally gave in because I couldn't stand it anymore.
I stopped washing her clothes...she just decided to stay home from work.
I have done everything I know to get her off her ***. I have tried to take her to counseling...she wont go.
Her health is terrible, but she could feel a lot better if she would just get off her ***. Instead, she just wants me to take care of her. If I were to leave her, I think the house would just fall down around her.
Of course, all of this is on top of not having sex with her for seven years now. It is all about her...what she wants...what she doesn't want. No one else matters to her...not even the people who care for her. You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
So you can go on strike with your hubby, but don't expect a miracle. I am hanging on trying to do what I can to take care of myself. If having a one night stand can lift my spirits for a while, why not?
Maid service in houston texas area?
can any of ya'll recomend any good maid services?
3500 sf
3.5 bedrooms
2 full bathroom
1 half bathroom
1 tub, 1 shower
kitchen,
lving room,
LOTS OF MIRRORS,
computer
girl and boys and parents bedroom
a whole bunch of dust for some reason
stairs
windows
laundry
den
dining
breakfest
front/back porch
lots of clutter
kids uses lots of bags so emptying and orgainzing
oh yeah trash and lots more..
haha, i have
one 15 year old(girl)
a 11 year old(girl)
and a 8 year old(boy)
lots of clutters and messes
Maid service in houston texas area?
With 3 children, 15 year old (girl), 11 year old(girl) and an 8 year old (boy), the best maid service for you is DIY Inc. Get the kids doing something around the house.
3500 sf
3.5 bedrooms
2 full bathroom
1 half bathroom
1 tub, 1 shower
kitchen,
lving room,
LOTS OF MIRRORS,
computer
girl and boys and parents bedroom
a whole bunch of dust for some reason
stairs
windows
laundry
den
dining
breakfest
front/back porch
lots of clutter
kids uses lots of bags so emptying and orgainzing
oh yeah trash and lots more..
haha, i have
one 15 year old(girl)
a 11 year old(girl)
and a 8 year old(boy)
lots of clutters and messes
Maid service in houston texas area?
With 3 children, 15 year old (girl), 11 year old(girl) and an 8 year old (boy), the best maid service for you is DIY Inc. Get the kids doing something around the house.
Maid abuse baby?
Hey guy,
What do you think of this?
See how rough the maid swings the baby and kick the baby!
Is it frightening? The baby is only 2 months old!
In 6 parts.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ot22xZqLM...
Maid abuse baby?
no thanks. not interested in seeing ANY child abused, EVER.
Reply:I would rather not watch it, but if the maid is swinging the baby around then yes it's abuse.
Reply:I saw this. I am very angry now.
Reply:I agree with Bradleys Mom......I don't want to see it!
Reply:i hv watched all the six videos....very angry now...
Reply:Um, no thanks. Why you would want to watch a baby being abused is beyond me.
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What do you think of this?
See how rough the maid swings the baby and kick the baby!
Is it frightening? The baby is only 2 months old!
In 6 parts.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ot22xZqLM...
Maid abuse baby?
no thanks. not interested in seeing ANY child abused, EVER.
Reply:I would rather not watch it, but if the maid is swinging the baby around then yes it's abuse.
Reply:I saw this. I am very angry now.
Reply:I agree with Bradleys Mom......I don't want to see it!
Reply:i hv watched all the six videos....very angry now...
Reply:Um, no thanks. Why you would want to watch a baby being abused is beyond me.
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How to find the maid "Gabe" on The Sims 2 Nightlife?
Hes a maid with like a pink maid outfit and i need to find him my girl is gettin old!
How to find the maid "Gabe" on The Sims 2 Nightlife?
do you wanna date him or something??
um bring up the cheat box by pressing ctrl%26gt;shift%26gt;c
type in boolprop testingcheatsenabled true
right click your sim%26amp;shift at the same time...... find add to family%26gt;and find his name
if you dont see it click spawn%26gt; tombstone of l and d%26gt;a tombstone will show up and find add to family%26gt;then find his name
i cant remember which one so if the 1st one doesnt work then try the tombstone........... iv dont both a million times
hope i helped %26lt;3
How to find the maid "Gabe" on The Sims 2 Nightlife?
do you wanna date him or something??
um bring up the cheat box by pressing ctrl%26gt;shift%26gt;c
type in boolprop testingcheatsenabled true
right click your sim%26amp;shift at the same time...... find add to family%26gt;and find his name
if you dont see it click spawn%26gt; tombstone of l and d%26gt;a tombstone will show up and find add to family%26gt;then find his name
i cant remember which one so if the 1st one doesnt work then try the tombstone........... iv dont both a million times
hope i helped %26lt;3
Maid Of Honor Dilemma?
My friend asked me to be her maid of honor in her wedding. We've known each other since we were 6 years old (25 now), and have been pretty much best friends the whole time we've known each other. Unfortunately, the past couple of years, we've drifted apart, mainly b/c she met her future husband and kind of put him in front of all her friends. (I'm not trying to sound bitter here, it's just the truth!!!)
So, anyway, she asked me to be her MOH, and I accepted. However, she's doing all the planning of the wedding with her mom and has not asked me to help at all. She's attended bridal shows, picked out her wedding dress, and even found a bridesmaid dress for us to wear. I've asked her if she needed help, and told her to let me know of anything I can do numerous times, but she hasn't taken me up on it. I kind of feel like I'm her MOH just for the sake of her having one in the wedding. Should I just sit back and wait for her to ask for help? Not sure what to do here!!
Maid Of Honor Dilemma?
It is an interesting situation that you are in because usually it is the reverse. The MOH usually gets mad because the bride wants them to be at their beck and call 24/7.
Why don't you just ask her or talk to her about the way that you are feeling? You never know what her side of the story is until you talk to her. It's possible that her mom is just taking over planning the wedding and your friend is going along with it. Who knows? Just don't jump to any conclusions until you speak with her. I am sure that once the wedding gets closer that she will start to ask for more help. Some brides are more independent then others. I wouldn't take an offense to this though...
Reply:hey mandy,
my bff of 3 years in my maid of honor. it's bc i wanted her to have the title. not do the stuff....mainly bc she lives in nc and i'm in ny. i don't think MOH's necessarily need to do the stuff they used to do.
i bet she asked you bc she adores you and wanted you to stand out in the wedding. email me if you wanna talk any further. good luck!
Reply:I would periodically ask if she needs help. If she does she'll tell you. If she doesn't that's fine too. Evidently you were important enough to her to be the MOH. That's very flattering.
It's her wedding, so let her take the lead. Just periodically ask if there's anything you can do for her...
I'm MOH to my sister who lives in Canada!! She's not counting on me to do anything but to be there when she says "I do".
Reply:Offer to host the shower or the bachelorette party.
Reply:Actually this isn't a dilemma! It's just that there are a minority of us brides who did things this way.
I asked my MOH simply because she is the closest in my heart, NOT to do work. We're the type of family where we all pretty much pitch in when there's a wedding, and the wedding party helped with one bridal shower (not payment or anything, just with bringing some dainties). I would normally have had all the women there to choose the dresses, though - it just so happened my MOH lived very far away.
At the ceremony, my MOH fluffed my train, and passed along my flowers for someone to hold. She signed the document, then had FUN at the reception. That's all I wanted!!!
But don't sit back and wait - ask occasionally how the planning is going, if there is something you can help out with...
I know, it REALLY sounds different than the situation most brides do here on Answers... but don't take 'offence' with it, it's just that some people do things differently.
Reply:Let her do it all. If it bothers you to much tell her you feel uncomfortable not doing your MOH resposibilities and you want to get involved with the details. Be honest.
Reply:you should be happy that shes not nagging you and asking your opinion on everything, I have not really asked my girls to do anything, partially b/c my moh lives 4 hours away, and my bridesmaid lives in a completely different state which about 14 hours away. Is she the only girl? It may be b/c her and her mom are doing a lot together b/c she only has one daughter, I am doing practically everything with my mom. You should just be happy to be there and be part of her day, it could be worse!!!!
Reply:I didnt have my MOH do anything for my wedding besides show up. I personally feel that its my wedding and I should be doing all the planning. if I needed help with anything I knew she would be willing, but I took care of it all. I went alone dress shopping. I picked out 4 dresses I like for her she came shopping with me to get the one she wanted. I planned the locations, the food and decorations with my mom and that was it. I dont think there is anything wrong with what she is doing. I think its great shes taking responsibility for the plannign of her wedding.
Reply:it is better to say do you need help with a___ and fill in a specific task. Lots of people get the do you need help with anything and often do not know what you are interested in helping or do not want to bother you. So you should say do you need help stuffing invitations this weekend. If she still does not need your help be thank full you are the the MOH of a bridzilla. It is like when people say call me if you need anything noone ever calls that person vesus if someone says call me if you need help cooking, then that person will get a call.
Reply:Believe me, if she needs you, she will ask. Sounds like with her mom being heavily involved she has all the help she needs right now.
Sit back, relax... it is not very often on here that we hear about brides NOT asking for help.
She will need you in the end, especially the day of.
Good Luck!
Reply:yes if you've let her know numerous times that you want to help and she hasn't taken you up on it then there is not too much else to do. maybe give her a list of specifics. say "i want to go look at dresses with you, what do you think of this saturday?" or "do you need help with this, i'm free on sunday".... but she might feel like she just wants to be in control of those aspects and really just not want help. focus on the things that she will not be a part of - the shower and the bachelorette party. you can even talk to her mom for help on those, but the bride shouldn't really play a part so those are all for you and the bridesmaids! it's very generous of you to want to help so much.... i'm sure she appreciates the offers. one day she'll be really frustrated about something and just be there to listen! she might want that sort of help more than anything.
Reply:I wouldn't get to upset about it, her mom, and mother in law, are obviously keeping her busy. Just keep reminding her you are there for her, and when she needs your help to let you know. She's probably being pulled in every direction, trying to plan things. Give her time, and she'll be calling.
Reply:Count yourself as lucky. Numerous brides post questions on here about how their MOH isn't doing enough and they want to kick them out or demote them.
I've picked my dress, reserved the hall, got leads on the churches, etc. before I ever even asked my cousin to be my MOH.
It doesn't sound like you have any real reservations about being MOH, but are just concerned you aren't doing enough. Hang in there. As the date gets closer she may need your help. Also, if her family is large, she may ask others for help so they feel they have played a special part in the wedding.
Just make sure she knows you are there if you can be of help.
Reply:I'd stay in the wedding.
It's natural to put your husband ahead of your friends. It's normal that when you fall in love with someone to want to spend every second of the day with them. Eventually it cools off a bit and you start spending time with your friends again. Don't take that personally. I doubt your friend is trying to shut you out.
Your friend might just be someone who likes to plan everything herself. You've offered help so I'd wait for her to ask you. If you want to be involved you could throw her a wedding shower.
Be thankful she isn't a Bridezilla. I've been in two weddings and was treated like garbage both times. I wondered why I'd even been asked to be in either wedding and one of them was my sister's!
Reply:Sounds like she's got most of it under control. Talk with her mom and ask if there is anything you can help her with (especially the bridal shower/bachelorette party). Don't stress it though. Some brides just are not fussy.
Reply:You have offered that's all you can do. The only other thing that I would possibly do is contact her mother directly and let her know that you are throwing her a shower and would like the addresses of anyone that she can think of who should be invited, that way she gets the hint that you are eager to be in on the wedding plans.
Other than that, I would sit back and relax, and even be thankful that your aren't dealing with a Bridezilla.
Reply:Tell her that you love her, not in a friend/sister love kind of way, you need to know how she feels?
Reply:I havent asked any of my bridesmaids to do anything for me nor my MOH. There will be things towards the end that she will ask you to do. Small things though its just how the bride is. Some brides like to do things for themselves where as others think the bridesmaids need to do everything for them. Don't worry about it though just let her ask you to do something. Just relax while you can when it comes time to put up decorations she will ask you too help. Just relax though seriously its not that big of a deal she just likes doing things for herself. I dont know of anything that i could ask my bridesmaids or MOH to do. I know they will help decorate though and maybe drive me some places to do stuff when it gets closer.
Edit!
As the person above me stated she may be the only girl. I am the only girl and so my mom is helping me with EVERYTHING and I wouldn't have it any other way. That is prob the reason too.
Reply:I would just relax. My MOH didn't help with any of the wedding planning either. My DH and I did it all. He and I picked out the bridesmaids dresses. We knew as soon as we saw them that they were the one. I designed and made my dress so no help needed there. We did the favors, centerpieces, etc. She came to the showers and gave us a shower but that was her choice. I was grateful that she was there for emotional support and that she wanted to give us a shower and attend the other ones. Just stand ready in the wings if she needs to vent or needs anything done. When the mother of the bride is alive, the bride and her mother usually do most of the wedding planning themselves. Mine was deceased so my fiance bravely stepped in and helped with everything to do with the wedding except my dress and wedding tennies.
Reply:I would just wait on her to ask for your help because really the weddings that I've been in and to the MOH really doesn't do anything except for that day and that is to make sure the bride is dressed and on time everywhere. Plus, weddings are a mother/daughter thing too and has a lot of bonding time with them two. Just hang in there I'm sure your friend wants you to be a part of the wedding and she knows that you're friendship is special, just give her some time - it'll work out.
So, anyway, she asked me to be her MOH, and I accepted. However, she's doing all the planning of the wedding with her mom and has not asked me to help at all. She's attended bridal shows, picked out her wedding dress, and even found a bridesmaid dress for us to wear. I've asked her if she needed help, and told her to let me know of anything I can do numerous times, but she hasn't taken me up on it. I kind of feel like I'm her MOH just for the sake of her having one in the wedding. Should I just sit back and wait for her to ask for help? Not sure what to do here!!
Maid Of Honor Dilemma?
It is an interesting situation that you are in because usually it is the reverse. The MOH usually gets mad because the bride wants them to be at their beck and call 24/7.
Why don't you just ask her or talk to her about the way that you are feeling? You never know what her side of the story is until you talk to her. It's possible that her mom is just taking over planning the wedding and your friend is going along with it. Who knows? Just don't jump to any conclusions until you speak with her. I am sure that once the wedding gets closer that she will start to ask for more help. Some brides are more independent then others. I wouldn't take an offense to this though...
Reply:hey mandy,
my bff of 3 years in my maid of honor. it's bc i wanted her to have the title. not do the stuff....mainly bc she lives in nc and i'm in ny. i don't think MOH's necessarily need to do the stuff they used to do.
i bet she asked you bc she adores you and wanted you to stand out in the wedding. email me if you wanna talk any further. good luck!
Reply:I would periodically ask if she needs help. If she does she'll tell you. If she doesn't that's fine too. Evidently you were important enough to her to be the MOH. That's very flattering.
It's her wedding, so let her take the lead. Just periodically ask if there's anything you can do for her...
I'm MOH to my sister who lives in Canada!! She's not counting on me to do anything but to be there when she says "I do".
Reply:Offer to host the shower or the bachelorette party.
Reply:Actually this isn't a dilemma! It's just that there are a minority of us brides who did things this way.
I asked my MOH simply because she is the closest in my heart, NOT to do work. We're the type of family where we all pretty much pitch in when there's a wedding, and the wedding party helped with one bridal shower (not payment or anything, just with bringing some dainties). I would normally have had all the women there to choose the dresses, though - it just so happened my MOH lived very far away.
At the ceremony, my MOH fluffed my train, and passed along my flowers for someone to hold. She signed the document, then had FUN at the reception. That's all I wanted!!!
But don't sit back and wait - ask occasionally how the planning is going, if there is something you can help out with...
I know, it REALLY sounds different than the situation most brides do here on Answers... but don't take 'offence' with it, it's just that some people do things differently.
Reply:Let her do it all. If it bothers you to much tell her you feel uncomfortable not doing your MOH resposibilities and you want to get involved with the details. Be honest.
Reply:you should be happy that shes not nagging you and asking your opinion on everything, I have not really asked my girls to do anything, partially b/c my moh lives 4 hours away, and my bridesmaid lives in a completely different state which about 14 hours away. Is she the only girl? It may be b/c her and her mom are doing a lot together b/c she only has one daughter, I am doing practically everything with my mom. You should just be happy to be there and be part of her day, it could be worse!!!!
Reply:I didnt have my MOH do anything for my wedding besides show up. I personally feel that its my wedding and I should be doing all the planning. if I needed help with anything I knew she would be willing, but I took care of it all. I went alone dress shopping. I picked out 4 dresses I like for her she came shopping with me to get the one she wanted. I planned the locations, the food and decorations with my mom and that was it. I dont think there is anything wrong with what she is doing. I think its great shes taking responsibility for the plannign of her wedding.
Reply:it is better to say do you need help with a___ and fill in a specific task. Lots of people get the do you need help with anything and often do not know what you are interested in helping or do not want to bother you. So you should say do you need help stuffing invitations this weekend. If she still does not need your help be thank full you are the the MOH of a bridzilla. It is like when people say call me if you need anything noone ever calls that person vesus if someone says call me if you need help cooking, then that person will get a call.
Reply:Believe me, if she needs you, she will ask. Sounds like with her mom being heavily involved she has all the help she needs right now.
Sit back, relax... it is not very often on here that we hear about brides NOT asking for help.
She will need you in the end, especially the day of.
Good Luck!
Reply:yes if you've let her know numerous times that you want to help and she hasn't taken you up on it then there is not too much else to do. maybe give her a list of specifics. say "i want to go look at dresses with you, what do you think of this saturday?" or "do you need help with this, i'm free on sunday".... but she might feel like she just wants to be in control of those aspects and really just not want help. focus on the things that she will not be a part of - the shower and the bachelorette party. you can even talk to her mom for help on those, but the bride shouldn't really play a part so those are all for you and the bridesmaids! it's very generous of you to want to help so much.... i'm sure she appreciates the offers. one day she'll be really frustrated about something and just be there to listen! she might want that sort of help more than anything.
Reply:I wouldn't get to upset about it, her mom, and mother in law, are obviously keeping her busy. Just keep reminding her you are there for her, and when she needs your help to let you know. She's probably being pulled in every direction, trying to plan things. Give her time, and she'll be calling.
Reply:Count yourself as lucky. Numerous brides post questions on here about how their MOH isn't doing enough and they want to kick them out or demote them.
I've picked my dress, reserved the hall, got leads on the churches, etc. before I ever even asked my cousin to be my MOH.
It doesn't sound like you have any real reservations about being MOH, but are just concerned you aren't doing enough. Hang in there. As the date gets closer she may need your help. Also, if her family is large, she may ask others for help so they feel they have played a special part in the wedding.
Just make sure she knows you are there if you can be of help.
Reply:I'd stay in the wedding.
It's natural to put your husband ahead of your friends. It's normal that when you fall in love with someone to want to spend every second of the day with them. Eventually it cools off a bit and you start spending time with your friends again. Don't take that personally. I doubt your friend is trying to shut you out.
Your friend might just be someone who likes to plan everything herself. You've offered help so I'd wait for her to ask you. If you want to be involved you could throw her a wedding shower.
Be thankful she isn't a Bridezilla. I've been in two weddings and was treated like garbage both times. I wondered why I'd even been asked to be in either wedding and one of them was my sister's!
Reply:Sounds like she's got most of it under control. Talk with her mom and ask if there is anything you can help her with (especially the bridal shower/bachelorette party). Don't stress it though. Some brides just are not fussy.
Reply:You have offered that's all you can do. The only other thing that I would possibly do is contact her mother directly and let her know that you are throwing her a shower and would like the addresses of anyone that she can think of who should be invited, that way she gets the hint that you are eager to be in on the wedding plans.
Other than that, I would sit back and relax, and even be thankful that your aren't dealing with a Bridezilla.
Reply:Tell her that you love her, not in a friend/sister love kind of way, you need to know how she feels?
Reply:I havent asked any of my bridesmaids to do anything for me nor my MOH. There will be things towards the end that she will ask you to do. Small things though its just how the bride is. Some brides like to do things for themselves where as others think the bridesmaids need to do everything for them. Don't worry about it though just let her ask you to do something. Just relax while you can when it comes time to put up decorations she will ask you too help. Just relax though seriously its not that big of a deal she just likes doing things for herself. I dont know of anything that i could ask my bridesmaids or MOH to do. I know they will help decorate though and maybe drive me some places to do stuff when it gets closer.
Edit!
As the person above me stated she may be the only girl. I am the only girl and so my mom is helping me with EVERYTHING and I wouldn't have it any other way. That is prob the reason too.
Reply:I would just relax. My MOH didn't help with any of the wedding planning either. My DH and I did it all. He and I picked out the bridesmaids dresses. We knew as soon as we saw them that they were the one. I designed and made my dress so no help needed there. We did the favors, centerpieces, etc. She came to the showers and gave us a shower but that was her choice. I was grateful that she was there for emotional support and that she wanted to give us a shower and attend the other ones. Just stand ready in the wings if she needs to vent or needs anything done. When the mother of the bride is alive, the bride and her mother usually do most of the wedding planning themselves. Mine was deceased so my fiance bravely stepped in and helped with everything to do with the wedding except my dress and wedding tennies.
Reply:I would just wait on her to ask for your help because really the weddings that I've been in and to the MOH really doesn't do anything except for that day and that is to make sure the bride is dressed and on time everywhere. Plus, weddings are a mother/daughter thing too and has a lot of bonding time with them two. Just hang in there I'm sure your friend wants you to be a part of the wedding and she knows that you're friendship is special, just give her some time - it'll work out.
Maid needed urgently in Borivali, Mumbai?..?
Maid to work from 8.30 a.m. to 6.00 p.m. Help with housework and look after a 5 month old baby. For a home in Borivali - W. Needs to be reliable. Any maid agencies?
Maid needed urgently in Borivali, Mumbai?..?
there are no such agencies in mumbai and very very difficult to find one who is honest and sincere. put your child in a day care center. find the one near your house, give surprise visits before admitting your child to ensure the neatness of the place and the staff, check their kitchen and what kind of water is give for drinking
Maid needed urgently in Borivali, Mumbai?..?
there are no such agencies in mumbai and very very difficult to find one who is honest and sincere. put your child in a day care center. find the one near your house, give surprise visits before admitting your child to ensure the neatness of the place and the staff, check their kitchen and what kind of water is give for drinking
Maid of honor drama?
my maid of honor (also my best friend) just emailed me and along with a huge rude list of things she doesn't like about me, she said she doesn't want to be a maid of honor anymore. she said she'd still be a bridesmaid, but please back me up on this, she doesn't make the call of who is in my wedding and what role they have. she hurt me so bad, i was in tears all day... so i have every right to kick her out of the wedding... right?
there is no talking about it and working it out... she made her feelings perfectly clear to me and she has no interest in hearing what i have to say, so i went ahead and asked her to step down from being in the wedding all together.
i'm getting married in september and i am too old for her immature high school drama... friend or not, the wedding is about me, not her. and she also told me that my fiance and i won't last.
how can people be so rude... was i right to just kick her out of the wedding all together??? ugh...
Maid of honor drama?
You write: i just dont need that in my life...
And you are correct. You don't need that in your life.
Under these circumstances, it is okay to ask her to step down from being in the wedding all together . . . as long as it is done politely.
You did the right thing. You don't need this type of "friend" in your life. Relax . . . and go do something to de-stress. Go get a massage or a pedicure. Or take a long, relaxing bubble bath.
Do something for you . . . and put this person right out of your mind. If she could not afford the dress, she should have discussed it with you calmly and honestly. There was no need for her to be rude and insulting. Let her go.
Reply:You were right to ask her to step down. It is your wedding and she has no right to try to manipulate any part of the wedding. There has to be more to her being this way than she has let you know but I realize you are probably too busy to try to find out right now and understandably so. Maybe one day down the road you guys can work things out. After all you did say at the beginning that she is your best friend.
Reply:There is no need to"kick people out ".That sounds very Jr. High schoolish.
Let her know that you understand the hardship of a single mother spending $140 on your day and you would be honored to have her attend as a guest.
End of drama.
Reply:What I jerk- I'd let her come to the wedding, but not let her be a bride's maid or maid of honor. Thats really not all that much for the shoes and dress.
Why'd she do that?
Reply:Hmmm... Sounds justified to me. I don't see why people have to be rude and try to ruin someone else's big day! You go and enjoy your day, she isn't needed anymore.
Reply:Kick her out all together. You have enough to worry about without her adding HER drama to the mix.
Congrats on your up coming wedding!!
Reply:That sounds about right to me. I would have kicked her out of my wedding as well.
Reply:She has expressed her desire not to be the MOH, you are not kicking her out she has stepped out on her own...
Dry your eyes, take a deep breath and decide who you would like to replace her...They will need so planning time...
Her behavior was indeed rude however to meet it with rude behavior of your own is playing the H.S. drama game...
Sit down and compose a return e-mail telling her you are sorry she feels this way.. Thank her for telling you in such a timely manner about her desire to not be a participant as it gives you the ability to replace her more easily... Assure her that she will be receiving an invitation as a regular guest... Assure her that although this is a bump in your friendship you would like to continue it after feelings have simmered down and the chaos of the wedding has passed...
By meeting her rude behavior with a calm rational response (no matter how difficult it is to be calm and rational) you take the wind out of her sails and avert what can be a very ugly scene...
Yes you are hurt and yes you have a right to feel hurt but lashing out to hurt her in return is childish behavior, move on with planning your wedding... In choosing a replacement don;t choose one out of spite to hurt her choose sensably.... And be grateful dhe flaked out with a wide margin of time, she could have flaked out in the end of August making this a much more difficult fix....
Reply:You need someone that will help aleviate the stress of wedding planning, not add to it. If she doesn't want to spend money on the dress, then what makes her think she'll have the money for the Bride's Maid's dress.? If that's the only reason she resigned the position, then replace her, no hard feelings. During this stressful time, everyone's emotions and tempers can flare up, but things will cool down soon enough, and you won't want a whole relationship to be distroyed because of it... right? If there's more to it than you're telling us, then I don't know what to tell you...
Reply:The wedding is the briges day. and if you don't want her there not let her be there to mess-up your special day, for you only surpose to marry once for life.But these days people treat marrage as a joke its not its forever thats the way God made it to be.People get married for the wrong reasons and not for love,and it don't work out. Its called the 7year itch,then they get divorce ,like it never happened. but some people like me take there marriages very seriuosly. I've been married too the same man for 30 years now ,and I'd never give him a divorce, But too let you know before hand marriage is hard work too keep it together,you must be welling to give and take 50/50 or it wont last.And one partern can't make a marriage work alone, both must be welling to work at it. and talkings the must important part of keeping your marriage together and loving. thats not to say its easy its not ,sometimes you must do things you dont like for your partern ,the same goes for him. Well God Bless your union, I hope it last for ever for you both.
Reply:Definatly! Don't feel bad. She doesn't deserve to be in your wedding if she just comes along emailing you a list of things she doesn't like about you. She clearly doesn't care about your feelings, and if she doesn't want to be you MOI, why should she get to be a maid at all? This is your wedding, not hers. She can't just decide that she doesn't want to be your MOI but she can be your bridesmaid. I think your decision was fine. She doesn't deserve to march down the aisle in your wedding when in her mind who knows what she's thinking about the wedding or you.
Also, I don't think $140 is too much to ask. And anyways, wouldn't she still have to pay 140 for the BM dress, or do you have a separate MOH and BM dress? Whatever, either way, she doesn't deserve to be in it. And, she doesn't even sound organized or anything... she'd probably end up planning something else on your wedding day and leave you at the altar!
Reply:You aren't required to have ANYONE in the wedding party that you don't want to, so no worries on that account. She can't just demote herself but stay in the wedding without your permission.
It's awful that someone who should love and support you like your best friend did something so hurtful to you, but do bear in mind that weddings can bring out the best and the worst in people- it's a time of high stress and change, and your friend may be feeling jealous, anxious, overworked, out-of-place, left-out, worried for you, or any combination of the above. Not everyone is good at expressing their painful feelings in constructive ways.
That doesn't excuse what she did, but just remember it for later, when the hurt has eased a little bit- she may still care about you very much, and she may already be regretting what she said, or hoping that you'll reach out or forgive her. You're not required to have her in your wedding, or to forgive or forget such a painful thing, but if it's a long and good friendship, you may not want to write it off altogether over one bad incident (although it's certainly a pretty bad one).
Best of luck and here's hoping the rest of your wedding planning goes more smoothly.
EDIT: I just read your edit, and I have to say that explains a lot. It still doesn't excuse what she did, and I'm certainly not saying that it's your fault, but it can be very frustrating to be in a bridal party that you can't (or can barely) afford. I'm MOH for two upcoming weddings, and the dress picked for one wedding (without my input, since I'm long distance from the bride) is very expensive- more than I can really afford. Fortunately the other bride is being very understanding and letting me wear it for her wedding too, so it averages out to the same as buying two relatively affordable gowns, but I'm not going to pretend it wasn't frustrating to find out that I was expected to pay through the nose to be a part of my friend's wedding- and I know it would have hurt her terribly if I said I couldn't/wouldn't be in the wedding, so I'm sacrificing to afford it. If our friendship was on the rocks in any other area, it could have been a last straw kind of thing.
It's hard to see when you're spending so much more on everything how the bridal party clothing and expenses can be a lot, but remember, it's YOUR wedding, not the bridesmaids'- they're paying for the dresses to make you happy and be part of your celebration, not to benefit themselves. A little understanding from brides on that point is always good.
Reply:Yeah, she seems like a sour apple.
But, I'm curious as to what brought this on. Did you have a fight about something? Did you say something to her and she took it wrong? Are you being bridezillish? Are you asking her to complete tasks for your wedding that are beyond her capabilities?
I feel like your not telling the whole story here. Sometimes we agrue with friends, despite our age. We are human and no matter how mature we are, sometimes we get are feelings hurt or disagree with people.
Something HAD to have happened between you two that sparked this.
Before ending the friendship, look at what could have happened. If you did something, say you're sorry. She might just want a little respect.
You're right that you don't need high school drama. However, it's not very mature to let a good friend just walk away.
This can be resolved, reflect on what happened to your friendship. You might be surprised at how you are coming across or acting towards her.
EDIT: Based on your edit, I can see a potential conflict. I'm not trying to be mean, but you are very disrespectful and demeaning towards your friend. OK, the dress and shoes are NOT expensive, but maybe they are to her. She is a single mother. Maybe you are having a hard time understand that. It's possible.
Also, she is "ditching" you. That is an immature way to think about friends. She has other friends, it's OK. So, you don't approve of them or her behavior. But, it's really known of your business.
IF you are voicing your opinions on her lifestyle, she may feel very disrespected by you. You are suppose to be her best friend.
You both sounds young. She is a new mother and a single mother. Babies don't come with owners manuals and she probably is having a hard time emotionally and financially with everything going on.
I'd have to say, I think you BOTH are wrong in this situation. Resolve it. You are planning a wedding and she is a single mom. That's TWO completely different worlds. But, it's not right for you to comment on her "partying" lifestyle just b/c she's a mom. It's not your business, as long as the baby is safe and taken care of.
She might think you are attacking her parenting style or even her child, by making comments about her lifestyle. She might feel like you are taking your wedding too serious, by not understand that a $140 is a lot of money for someone who is currently shelling out lots of money on diapers, formula and other baby needs.
Reply:I look at it like this - she said she does not want to be your MOH but is willing to be a bridesmaid. She's unwilling or unable to do what she was asked to do. You have no obligation to find another place for her.
Perhaps she is unconsciously jealous to a certain degree - or at least some internal conflict - that you have found the person you want to settle down with. Maybe she thinks that after you're married she will have NO place in your life.
Sorry this has happened, to you but all you can do is keep moving forward. Congratulations on the upcoming marriage.
Reply:This is your wedding, and your day to be happy, so let her go, find forgiveness and move on, you are to be happy, I read the other day, forgiveness and moving on is like a splinter, When we have a splinter in our finger, don't we remove it immedietly, as soon as we can, this is what you should do, remove the pain your friend is causing you, you are not doing it for her, you are doing it for you, find another maid of honor and continue on YOUR HAPPY DAY. find forgiveness and find another maid of Honor, it will make your wedding special to you, you shouldnt' have these worries or problems, this is your day. remove the splinter, find forgiveness and move on.
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there is no talking about it and working it out... she made her feelings perfectly clear to me and she has no interest in hearing what i have to say, so i went ahead and asked her to step down from being in the wedding all together.
i'm getting married in september and i am too old for her immature high school drama... friend or not, the wedding is about me, not her. and she also told me that my fiance and i won't last.
how can people be so rude... was i right to just kick her out of the wedding all together??? ugh...
Maid of honor drama?
You write: i just dont need that in my life...
And you are correct. You don't need that in your life.
Under these circumstances, it is okay to ask her to step down from being in the wedding all together . . . as long as it is done politely.
You did the right thing. You don't need this type of "friend" in your life. Relax . . . and go do something to de-stress. Go get a massage or a pedicure. Or take a long, relaxing bubble bath.
Do something for you . . . and put this person right out of your mind. If she could not afford the dress, she should have discussed it with you calmly and honestly. There was no need for her to be rude and insulting. Let her go.
Reply:You were right to ask her to step down. It is your wedding and she has no right to try to manipulate any part of the wedding. There has to be more to her being this way than she has let you know but I realize you are probably too busy to try to find out right now and understandably so. Maybe one day down the road you guys can work things out. After all you did say at the beginning that she is your best friend.
Reply:There is no need to"kick people out ".That sounds very Jr. High schoolish.
Let her know that you understand the hardship of a single mother spending $140 on your day and you would be honored to have her attend as a guest.
End of drama.
Reply:What I jerk- I'd let her come to the wedding, but not let her be a bride's maid or maid of honor. Thats really not all that much for the shoes and dress.
Why'd she do that?
Reply:Hmmm... Sounds justified to me. I don't see why people have to be rude and try to ruin someone else's big day! You go and enjoy your day, she isn't needed anymore.
Reply:Kick her out all together. You have enough to worry about without her adding HER drama to the mix.
Congrats on your up coming wedding!!
Reply:That sounds about right to me. I would have kicked her out of my wedding as well.
Reply:She has expressed her desire not to be the MOH, you are not kicking her out she has stepped out on her own...
Dry your eyes, take a deep breath and decide who you would like to replace her...They will need so planning time...
Her behavior was indeed rude however to meet it with rude behavior of your own is playing the H.S. drama game...
Sit down and compose a return e-mail telling her you are sorry she feels this way.. Thank her for telling you in such a timely manner about her desire to not be a participant as it gives you the ability to replace her more easily... Assure her that she will be receiving an invitation as a regular guest... Assure her that although this is a bump in your friendship you would like to continue it after feelings have simmered down and the chaos of the wedding has passed...
By meeting her rude behavior with a calm rational response (no matter how difficult it is to be calm and rational) you take the wind out of her sails and avert what can be a very ugly scene...
Yes you are hurt and yes you have a right to feel hurt but lashing out to hurt her in return is childish behavior, move on with planning your wedding... In choosing a replacement don;t choose one out of spite to hurt her choose sensably.... And be grateful dhe flaked out with a wide margin of time, she could have flaked out in the end of August making this a much more difficult fix....
Reply:You need someone that will help aleviate the stress of wedding planning, not add to it. If she doesn't want to spend money on the dress, then what makes her think she'll have the money for the Bride's Maid's dress.? If that's the only reason she resigned the position, then replace her, no hard feelings. During this stressful time, everyone's emotions and tempers can flare up, but things will cool down soon enough, and you won't want a whole relationship to be distroyed because of it... right? If there's more to it than you're telling us, then I don't know what to tell you...
Reply:The wedding is the briges day. and if you don't want her there not let her be there to mess-up your special day, for you only surpose to marry once for life.But these days people treat marrage as a joke its not its forever thats the way God made it to be.People get married for the wrong reasons and not for love,and it don't work out. Its called the 7year itch,then they get divorce ,like it never happened. but some people like me take there marriages very seriuosly. I've been married too the same man for 30 years now ,and I'd never give him a divorce, But too let you know before hand marriage is hard work too keep it together,you must be welling to give and take 50/50 or it wont last.And one partern can't make a marriage work alone, both must be welling to work at it. and talkings the must important part of keeping your marriage together and loving. thats not to say its easy its not ,sometimes you must do things you dont like for your partern ,the same goes for him. Well God Bless your union, I hope it last for ever for you both.
Reply:Definatly! Don't feel bad. She doesn't deserve to be in your wedding if she just comes along emailing you a list of things she doesn't like about you. She clearly doesn't care about your feelings, and if she doesn't want to be you MOI, why should she get to be a maid at all? This is your wedding, not hers. She can't just decide that she doesn't want to be your MOI but she can be your bridesmaid. I think your decision was fine. She doesn't deserve to march down the aisle in your wedding when in her mind who knows what she's thinking about the wedding or you.
Also, I don't think $140 is too much to ask. And anyways, wouldn't she still have to pay 140 for the BM dress, or do you have a separate MOH and BM dress? Whatever, either way, she doesn't deserve to be in it. And, she doesn't even sound organized or anything... she'd probably end up planning something else on your wedding day and leave you at the altar!
Reply:You aren't required to have ANYONE in the wedding party that you don't want to, so no worries on that account. She can't just demote herself but stay in the wedding without your permission.
It's awful that someone who should love and support you like your best friend did something so hurtful to you, but do bear in mind that weddings can bring out the best and the worst in people- it's a time of high stress and change, and your friend may be feeling jealous, anxious, overworked, out-of-place, left-out, worried for you, or any combination of the above. Not everyone is good at expressing their painful feelings in constructive ways.
That doesn't excuse what she did, but just remember it for later, when the hurt has eased a little bit- she may still care about you very much, and she may already be regretting what she said, or hoping that you'll reach out or forgive her. You're not required to have her in your wedding, or to forgive or forget such a painful thing, but if it's a long and good friendship, you may not want to write it off altogether over one bad incident (although it's certainly a pretty bad one).
Best of luck and here's hoping the rest of your wedding planning goes more smoothly.
EDIT: I just read your edit, and I have to say that explains a lot. It still doesn't excuse what she did, and I'm certainly not saying that it's your fault, but it can be very frustrating to be in a bridal party that you can't (or can barely) afford. I'm MOH for two upcoming weddings, and the dress picked for one wedding (without my input, since I'm long distance from the bride) is very expensive- more than I can really afford. Fortunately the other bride is being very understanding and letting me wear it for her wedding too, so it averages out to the same as buying two relatively affordable gowns, but I'm not going to pretend it wasn't frustrating to find out that I was expected to pay through the nose to be a part of my friend's wedding- and I know it would have hurt her terribly if I said I couldn't/wouldn't be in the wedding, so I'm sacrificing to afford it. If our friendship was on the rocks in any other area, it could have been a last straw kind of thing.
It's hard to see when you're spending so much more on everything how the bridal party clothing and expenses can be a lot, but remember, it's YOUR wedding, not the bridesmaids'- they're paying for the dresses to make you happy and be part of your celebration, not to benefit themselves. A little understanding from brides on that point is always good.
Reply:Yeah, she seems like a sour apple.
But, I'm curious as to what brought this on. Did you have a fight about something? Did you say something to her and she took it wrong? Are you being bridezillish? Are you asking her to complete tasks for your wedding that are beyond her capabilities?
I feel like your not telling the whole story here. Sometimes we agrue with friends, despite our age. We are human and no matter how mature we are, sometimes we get are feelings hurt or disagree with people.
Something HAD to have happened between you two that sparked this.
Before ending the friendship, look at what could have happened. If you did something, say you're sorry. She might just want a little respect.
You're right that you don't need high school drama. However, it's not very mature to let a good friend just walk away.
This can be resolved, reflect on what happened to your friendship. You might be surprised at how you are coming across or acting towards her.
EDIT: Based on your edit, I can see a potential conflict. I'm not trying to be mean, but you are very disrespectful and demeaning towards your friend. OK, the dress and shoes are NOT expensive, but maybe they are to her. She is a single mother. Maybe you are having a hard time understand that. It's possible.
Also, she is "ditching" you. That is an immature way to think about friends. She has other friends, it's OK. So, you don't approve of them or her behavior. But, it's really known of your business.
IF you are voicing your opinions on her lifestyle, she may feel very disrespected by you. You are suppose to be her best friend.
You both sounds young. She is a new mother and a single mother. Babies don't come with owners manuals and she probably is having a hard time emotionally and financially with everything going on.
I'd have to say, I think you BOTH are wrong in this situation. Resolve it. You are planning a wedding and she is a single mom. That's TWO completely different worlds. But, it's not right for you to comment on her "partying" lifestyle just b/c she's a mom. It's not your business, as long as the baby is safe and taken care of.
She might think you are attacking her parenting style or even her child, by making comments about her lifestyle. She might feel like you are taking your wedding too serious, by not understand that a $140 is a lot of money for someone who is currently shelling out lots of money on diapers, formula and other baby needs.
Reply:I look at it like this - she said she does not want to be your MOH but is willing to be a bridesmaid. She's unwilling or unable to do what she was asked to do. You have no obligation to find another place for her.
Perhaps she is unconsciously jealous to a certain degree - or at least some internal conflict - that you have found the person you want to settle down with. Maybe she thinks that after you're married she will have NO place in your life.
Sorry this has happened, to you but all you can do is keep moving forward. Congratulations on the upcoming marriage.
Reply:This is your wedding, and your day to be happy, so let her go, find forgiveness and move on, you are to be happy, I read the other day, forgiveness and moving on is like a splinter, When we have a splinter in our finger, don't we remove it immedietly, as soon as we can, this is what you should do, remove the pain your friend is causing you, you are not doing it for her, you are doing it for you, find another maid of honor and continue on YOUR HAPPY DAY. find forgiveness and find another maid of Honor, it will make your wedding special to you, you shouldnt' have these worries or problems, this is your day. remove the splinter, find forgiveness and move on.
Dancing
Rate for maid/cleaning service on hourly basis?
I live in Los Angeles. Working mom of an 18 month old baby. I cook everyday. I am looking for cleaning service/maid who can help me clean the kitchen everyday for four days a week. It should take only 45min-1hr to do the job. Does anyone know how much I can pay for this person? Also what type of company I can call for this? I tried cleaning service companies and they don't do hourly jobs.
Rate for maid/cleaning service on hourly basis?
Agreed with Gary, they would want alot to clean your house, plus when I had maids come into my house some of my belongings were missing =S I suspect they took them because no one else has access to my house. Id say hire someone that you really know and trust. GOOD LUCK!!
Reply:Most compainies wont come out for less than $45 or at least 2 hours worth of work. If you have a friend that could use some extra cash you could hire her to come in and tidy up for you and pay her at least $10 to $20 each day that she comes in.
Rate for maid/cleaning service on hourly basis?
Agreed with Gary, they would want alot to clean your house, plus when I had maids come into my house some of my belongings were missing =S I suspect they took them because no one else has access to my house. Id say hire someone that you really know and trust. GOOD LUCK!!
Reply:Most compainies wont come out for less than $45 or at least 2 hours worth of work. If you have a friend that could use some extra cash you could hire her to come in and tidy up for you and pay her at least $10 to $20 each day that she comes in.
Ideas for maid of honour dresses?
Hi,
I'm looking for ideas for a dress for my maid of honour... The person in question is 24 years old, pleasantly plump (around a size 18), and an extremely bubbly person... Do you have any ideas (with pics would be better!) for something for her to wear on the wedding? It doesn't have to be a dress, it could be a skirt/top or something else... Something not too formal (but not too casual either!) and that reflects her bubbly personality...
The wedding is in September in the morning in Malta (so it can get pretty hot - no warm outfits please!)
Many thanks!
Ideas for maid of honour dresses?
Well you can check for David's Bridal has dresses in two pieces and they also let you search by almost any color you want. There's a website also called Dresses Online that might be helpful.
Reply:If i may If i may recommend an online site, check out http://www.discountdressup.com
They currently have an online coupon for 10% OFF + A FREE MATCHING SHAWL, Here is a coupon code to use at checkout for this offer: COUPONMOUNTAIN10
i've purchased dresses from them before and i love them! They have great dresses that are perfect for any occasion.
Check out this section for some really cute dresses that i think you might like: http://www.discountdressup.com/plus-size...
If you don't see anything in these sections, check out their other sections.
good luck and happy shopping!
vc++
I'm looking for ideas for a dress for my maid of honour... The person in question is 24 years old, pleasantly plump (around a size 18), and an extremely bubbly person... Do you have any ideas (with pics would be better!) for something for her to wear on the wedding? It doesn't have to be a dress, it could be a skirt/top or something else... Something not too formal (but not too casual either!) and that reflects her bubbly personality...
The wedding is in September in the morning in Malta (so it can get pretty hot - no warm outfits please!)
Many thanks!
Ideas for maid of honour dresses?
Well you can check for David's Bridal has dresses in two pieces and they also let you search by almost any color you want. There's a website also called Dresses Online that might be helpful.
Reply:If i may If i may recommend an online site, check out http://www.discountdressup.com
They currently have an online coupon for 10% OFF + A FREE MATCHING SHAWL, Here is a coupon code to use at checkout for this offer: COUPONMOUNTAIN10
i've purchased dresses from them before and i love them! They have great dresses that are perfect for any occasion.
Check out this section for some really cute dresses that i think you might like: http://www.discountdressup.com/plus-size...
If you don't see anything in these sections, check out their other sections.
good luck and happy shopping!
vc++
What is a french maid outfit and undergarments and what does it look like?
I'm a 15 year old guy and I lost a bet with my 16 year old girlfriend and she said I have to wear a french maid outfit and
Undergarments and something called a corset to a party we're going to. She said she will go buy it and bring it to my house what does this stuff look like?
What is a french maid outfit and undergarments and what does it look like?
haha that suckkss... Its like a mini black and white maid dress, and well just click on the link below and you will have a better idea of what youll proly be wearing:
http://www.funwarehouse.co.uk/acatalog/S...
Reply:http://images.google.com/images?hl=en%26amp;q=... click on this link and you'll find out how it looks
Reply:It's a mini black dress with a White apron. HA!! Your going to have to get a big size. Next time no stupid bets. MAN YOU ARE A BLOCKHEAD!! jk
Reply:http://www.nightmarefactory.com/UA8048.j...
along the lines of that. i hope you have fun at your party!
Reply:google it
Reply:Haha it all depends if she buys you a sexy one or not.
Heres a link which shows the typical outfit
http://www.flickr.com/photos/lotgk/16675...
Undergarments and something called a corset to a party we're going to. She said she will go buy it and bring it to my house what does this stuff look like?
What is a french maid outfit and undergarments and what does it look like?
haha that suckkss... Its like a mini black and white maid dress, and well just click on the link below and you will have a better idea of what youll proly be wearing:
http://www.funwarehouse.co.uk/acatalog/S...
Reply:http://images.google.com/images?hl=en%26amp;q=... click on this link and you'll find out how it looks
Reply:It's a mini black dress with a White apron. HA!! Your going to have to get a big size. Next time no stupid bets. MAN YOU ARE A BLOCKHEAD!! jk
Reply:http://www.nightmarefactory.com/UA8048.j...
along the lines of that. i hope you have fun at your party!
Reply:google it
Reply:Haha it all depends if she buys you a sexy one or not.
Heres a link which shows the typical outfit
http://www.flickr.com/photos/lotgk/16675...
The maid was having a headache...?
The old woman said that there is efficasent oil in the medicine cabinet, Maid gets it, goes to the kitchen and shouts at the old woman asking, "Mam! how many teaspoonful???
The maid was having a headache...?
What?
Reply:1drful........anymore?
Reply:haha...lol write some more!!
The maid was having a headache...?
What?
Reply:1drful........anymore?
Reply:haha...lol write some more!!
Can someone plz tell me what the exact role of Maid of Honor is?
Like what are the responsibilities of the maid of honor? Could a 7 or 8 year old be one? If not, could she be like an "honorary maid of honor", or something like that? All your answers and advise would be great! Thanks.
Can someone plz tell me what the exact role of Maid of Honor is?
The Maid of Honor (or matron, in the case of a married woman) plays a very important role in the planning of the wedding. She acts as the bride’s confidante, best friend, listener, therapist, and perhaps at times, as a punching bag.
-Here's a list of the maid of honor's responsibilities:
-Helps to address invitations
--Supervises and organizes all logistics with the other bridesmaids for their wedding apparel
-Holds bridal shower
-Attends all prenuptial parties
-Coordinates purchase of bridesmaids' gift to bride
-Coordinates purchase of bridesmaids' gift to couple
-Assists in wedding day plans and preparation
-Picks-up last minute items for bride
-Handles all last minute logistics for bride
-Keeps bride on schedule and assists her throughout her wedding day
-Assists bride in dressing for the ceremony
-Witnesses wedding license (In Canada it is 2 people over the age of 16, In th USA There is no minimum age for a witness.
-If there is no ring bearer, she will hold the groom's ring until needed
-Holds the bridal bouquet during the ceremony
-Adjusts the bride's veil and train before the processional and the recessional
-Following reception, helps bride to change from wedding gown
-Informs bride's parents when bride and groom are ready to leave
I really don't think that a 7 or 8 year old could handle or do.
The choice is your but that is some big shoes to be filling for a seven or 8 year old if you really want tha person in your wedding
party why not make her a junior bridesmaid?
Having a junior bridesmaid is a fantastic way to include a special girl in your wedding. Some responsibilities of a junior bridesmaid:
Typically between 9 and 14 years old.
-Attend the bridal shower and help clean up and
-Help with any favor making.
-Dress is similar or the same as the bridesmaids.
-Attends ceremony rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.
-Hands out programs and favors.
-Walks down the aisle in the procession.
-Stands in the receiving line.
If you would prefer to not have a junior bridesmaid but want to include an older child in the wedding, have the child be a reader in the ceremony!
I dunno about where you live but what country you live in can affect what age of people you have you will have to find that out before you make your decision because it may not be legal
But Remeber this day REALLY is one of the most exciting times of your life Cherish and do everything you can to keep the sparks alive!
CONGRATULATIONS AND BEST WISHES
Reply:Emotional support, at the altar, she takes your flowers, while you do you vows and rings, she is the one who you love and trust, and are the closet to. You honor her, with being the most important part of the bridle party, besides of course the bride and groom.
Reply:Maid of Honor Duties
As the Maid of Honor or Matron of Honor, you have one of the most important roles in making sure the bride's and groom's wedding is a success. Many times the groom will not help out as much as the bride would like which is why your role is so important! Below we have listed some of the top maid of honor duties to make the process more manageable and creative:
Pre Wedding
Help in going with the bride to look at different locations for the wedding. Many times the Bride needs help in choosing where to have the ceremony and party besides what day and time to have the wedding. Ask if you can participate in this process since it can be a very stressful.
Help the bride choose her wedding invitations as well as possibly address the invitations if she needs your support. Many times a bride may outsource her invitations but if they need to be addressed by the family, your help will be key in reducing the load of tasks to complete.
If the bride needs help in ordering and choosing decorations and favors, your opinions may be helpful in making decisions for narrowing down choices and making sure the decorations are in on time for the wedding, shower and bachelorette parties.
Go with the bride when she is shopping for her wedding dress as well as the Bridesmaid Dresses. It is very important to help make sure the dresses are ordered and arrive in enough time for alterations! It is helpful for you to attend the multiple fittings in giving your friend some feedback in how the dress looks and fits. Check out our partner, Perfect Bridesmaid Dresses, for great name-brand discount wedding and bridesmaid dresses.
Many times the groom does not want to go to register with his bride-to-be. You can be very supportive by going with your friend to register for her wedding gifts as well as letting other guests know where the bride and groom are registered. This is a very fun experience so take part in the choosing if she needs help.
Help the bride in the seating arrangement. This can be a very difficult process with the more people coming to the wedding. Many times it makes it easier to draw out the tables and move people around until you have a close to perfect fit. Note: It is very helpful to bring this drawing to the wedding just in case there are any mix-ups, you will save the day!
Host and Plan the Bridal Shower as well as the Bachelorette Party!
Help keep order and organization with the other bridesmaids.
Attend and help out during the rehearsal dinner. Many times the bride, groom and their families are pre-occupied and forget about things which is where you can save the day by being organized.
Field messages for the bride and her family to make sure you are up on any changes (especially if they are last minute changes that affect the other guests).
Wedding Day
Make sure the bride arrives to the ceremony and that she has everything on the Maid of Honor Checklist that we have created to make your life easier.
Assist the bride in getting into her dress and makeup
Be the messenger if the bride wants to communicate messages to the family or groom so you are always up on what is going on.
Visit the reception room and party room (if possible) to make sure there are no problems or issues. It is much better to be proactive.
Help make sure the bride has privacy if she needs some quiet time before the ceremony.
Be the witness in the signing of the marriage license which is an honor!
Help the bride with her veil and train (if she has one). I have seen many weddings where brides have tripped on their train which takes away from her experience for a moment.
Be your friend's "right-hand-woman" at the altar. She may be very nervous and you can be the calming source with your presence.
Keeper of the brides bouquet during the ceremony. Make sure you have a free hand.
Keeper of the groom's ring. It is your task to also make sure the groom's ring is in your possession at all times until you give the ring over to the bride!
Make a toast and/or speech during the wedding party since it is tradition and most people love hearing these friendship stories!
Make sure you lock up the bridal/groom money bag after the bride and groom dance with all of their family and friends so someone does not steal or pick it up by accident.
Last, but not least, provide moral support and be a great listener throughout the process since it is a very wonderful and "positively" stressful time for your friend. You can really make the difference!
Reply:The maid of Honor should not be a 7 or 8 year old, it is a very important role that takes much responsibility.
An Honorary bides maid means that you will still announce that person as your bridesmaid and they will take part in pre wedding events, but they are not actually in the wedding.
The best option would be a flower girl.
Go to the knot.com, they have a full description of what each person in the wedding is responsible for ( Maid of honor, flower girl, etc)
In the end it is ultimately your decison, what ever you want to do , do it.
Good Luck!
Reply:Technically a 7 or 8 year old should not be the Maid of Honor-the Maid of Honor usually signs the marriage certificate as a witness as does the Best Man. However its your wedding you can do whatever you want to as long as an adult can witness the ceremony and sign the papers. The MOH assists the bride with all of her preparations for the wedding, usually holds the bridal shower, assists with gifts and invitations and many other functions.
Reply:It's 2007. The only "role" she should have is to show up and witness the vows.
Many maid of honors often take on the responsiblity of the shower and/or bachlorette party and in helping the bride in anyway she can, but there should be no "expectations." It doesn't have to be the maid of honor that does those things - anyone can do them for you.
The only duty that usually falls on the MOH is to witness the vows - and a 7 or 8 year couldn't do that. All that would need to happen is the next maid standing there would step up, witness with the young lady, and be the one to sign as a witness.
Why is it that we live in an "anything goes" society - except when it comes to the poor MOH - who gets heaped upon her "responsiblities." It's not her wedding.
Do what works for you!
Reply:a seven or eight year old should be a flower girl. A maid of honour stands closest to the bride during the wedding and at the reception makes a speech.
Reply:I was lucky enough to be at a wedding of two rival sisters and the youngest was MOH and it was funny watching the sister hold the train and get stuff during the service let alone all the other chores and gratitudes she preformed
Can someone plz tell me what the exact role of Maid of Honor is?
The Maid of Honor (or matron, in the case of a married woman) plays a very important role in the planning of the wedding. She acts as the bride’s confidante, best friend, listener, therapist, and perhaps at times, as a punching bag.
-Here's a list of the maid of honor's responsibilities:
-Helps to address invitations
--Supervises and organizes all logistics with the other bridesmaids for their wedding apparel
-Holds bridal shower
-Attends all prenuptial parties
-Coordinates purchase of bridesmaids' gift to bride
-Coordinates purchase of bridesmaids' gift to couple
-Assists in wedding day plans and preparation
-Picks-up last minute items for bride
-Handles all last minute logistics for bride
-Keeps bride on schedule and assists her throughout her wedding day
-Assists bride in dressing for the ceremony
-Witnesses wedding license (In Canada it is 2 people over the age of 16, In th USA There is no minimum age for a witness.
-If there is no ring bearer, she will hold the groom's ring until needed
-Holds the bridal bouquet during the ceremony
-Adjusts the bride's veil and train before the processional and the recessional
-Following reception, helps bride to change from wedding gown
-Informs bride's parents when bride and groom are ready to leave
I really don't think that a 7 or 8 year old could handle or do.
The choice is your but that is some big shoes to be filling for a seven or 8 year old if you really want tha person in your wedding
party why not make her a junior bridesmaid?
Having a junior bridesmaid is a fantastic way to include a special girl in your wedding. Some responsibilities of a junior bridesmaid:
Typically between 9 and 14 years old.
-Attend the bridal shower and help clean up and
-Help with any favor making.
-Dress is similar or the same as the bridesmaids.
-Attends ceremony rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.
-Hands out programs and favors.
-Walks down the aisle in the procession.
-Stands in the receiving line.
If you would prefer to not have a junior bridesmaid but want to include an older child in the wedding, have the child be a reader in the ceremony!
I dunno about where you live but what country you live in can affect what age of people you have you will have to find that out before you make your decision because it may not be legal
But Remeber this day REALLY is one of the most exciting times of your life Cherish and do everything you can to keep the sparks alive!
CONGRATULATIONS AND BEST WISHES
Reply:Emotional support, at the altar, she takes your flowers, while you do you vows and rings, she is the one who you love and trust, and are the closet to. You honor her, with being the most important part of the bridle party, besides of course the bride and groom.
Reply:Maid of Honor Duties
As the Maid of Honor or Matron of Honor, you have one of the most important roles in making sure the bride's and groom's wedding is a success. Many times the groom will not help out as much as the bride would like which is why your role is so important! Below we have listed some of the top maid of honor duties to make the process more manageable and creative:
Pre Wedding
Help in going with the bride to look at different locations for the wedding. Many times the Bride needs help in choosing where to have the ceremony and party besides what day and time to have the wedding. Ask if you can participate in this process since it can be a very stressful.
Help the bride choose her wedding invitations as well as possibly address the invitations if she needs your support. Many times a bride may outsource her invitations but if they need to be addressed by the family, your help will be key in reducing the load of tasks to complete.
If the bride needs help in ordering and choosing decorations and favors, your opinions may be helpful in making decisions for narrowing down choices and making sure the decorations are in on time for the wedding, shower and bachelorette parties.
Go with the bride when she is shopping for her wedding dress as well as the Bridesmaid Dresses. It is very important to help make sure the dresses are ordered and arrive in enough time for alterations! It is helpful for you to attend the multiple fittings in giving your friend some feedback in how the dress looks and fits. Check out our partner, Perfect Bridesmaid Dresses, for great name-brand discount wedding and bridesmaid dresses.
Many times the groom does not want to go to register with his bride-to-be. You can be very supportive by going with your friend to register for her wedding gifts as well as letting other guests know where the bride and groom are registered. This is a very fun experience so take part in the choosing if she needs help.
Help the bride in the seating arrangement. This can be a very difficult process with the more people coming to the wedding. Many times it makes it easier to draw out the tables and move people around until you have a close to perfect fit. Note: It is very helpful to bring this drawing to the wedding just in case there are any mix-ups, you will save the day!
Host and Plan the Bridal Shower as well as the Bachelorette Party!
Help keep order and organization with the other bridesmaids.
Attend and help out during the rehearsal dinner. Many times the bride, groom and their families are pre-occupied and forget about things which is where you can save the day by being organized.
Field messages for the bride and her family to make sure you are up on any changes (especially if they are last minute changes that affect the other guests).
Wedding Day
Make sure the bride arrives to the ceremony and that she has everything on the Maid of Honor Checklist that we have created to make your life easier.
Assist the bride in getting into her dress and makeup
Be the messenger if the bride wants to communicate messages to the family or groom so you are always up on what is going on.
Visit the reception room and party room (if possible) to make sure there are no problems or issues. It is much better to be proactive.
Help make sure the bride has privacy if she needs some quiet time before the ceremony.
Be the witness in the signing of the marriage license which is an honor!
Help the bride with her veil and train (if she has one). I have seen many weddings where brides have tripped on their train which takes away from her experience for a moment.
Be your friend's "right-hand-woman" at the altar. She may be very nervous and you can be the calming source with your presence.
Keeper of the brides bouquet during the ceremony. Make sure you have a free hand.
Keeper of the groom's ring. It is your task to also make sure the groom's ring is in your possession at all times until you give the ring over to the bride!
Make a toast and/or speech during the wedding party since it is tradition and most people love hearing these friendship stories!
Make sure you lock up the bridal/groom money bag after the bride and groom dance with all of their family and friends so someone does not steal or pick it up by accident.
Last, but not least, provide moral support and be a great listener throughout the process since it is a very wonderful and "positively" stressful time for your friend. You can really make the difference!
Reply:The maid of Honor should not be a 7 or 8 year old, it is a very important role that takes much responsibility.
An Honorary bides maid means that you will still announce that person as your bridesmaid and they will take part in pre wedding events, but they are not actually in the wedding.
The best option would be a flower girl.
Go to the knot.com, they have a full description of what each person in the wedding is responsible for ( Maid of honor, flower girl, etc)
In the end it is ultimately your decison, what ever you want to do , do it.
Good Luck!
Reply:Technically a 7 or 8 year old should not be the Maid of Honor-the Maid of Honor usually signs the marriage certificate as a witness as does the Best Man. However its your wedding you can do whatever you want to as long as an adult can witness the ceremony and sign the papers. The MOH assists the bride with all of her preparations for the wedding, usually holds the bridal shower, assists with gifts and invitations and many other functions.
Reply:It's 2007. The only "role" she should have is to show up and witness the vows.
Many maid of honors often take on the responsiblity of the shower and/or bachlorette party and in helping the bride in anyway she can, but there should be no "expectations." It doesn't have to be the maid of honor that does those things - anyone can do them for you.
The only duty that usually falls on the MOH is to witness the vows - and a 7 or 8 year couldn't do that. All that would need to happen is the next maid standing there would step up, witness with the young lady, and be the one to sign as a witness.
Why is it that we live in an "anything goes" society - except when it comes to the poor MOH - who gets heaped upon her "responsiblities." It's not her wedding.
Do what works for you!
Reply:a seven or eight year old should be a flower girl. A maid of honour stands closest to the bride during the wedding and at the reception makes a speech.
Reply:I was lucky enough to be at a wedding of two rival sisters and the youngest was MOH and it was funny watching the sister hold the train and get stuff during the service let alone all the other chores and gratitudes she preformed
Employment of a maid?
i am 23 years old, concurrently serving my ns %26amp; leaving alone. can i employ a maid while my salary is 400+. any easy alternative way to employ a maid cos i don't know how to do household chores %26amp; cooking? pls help me out, ok? thks
Employment of a maid?
we hav two maids here and life is so hasle free...................try to hire mexicans or filipinos..u can find them anywhere and they cost cheap to
cotton tree
Employment of a maid?
we hav two maids here and life is so hasle free...................try to hire mexicans or filipinos..u can find them anywhere and they cost cheap to
cotton tree
French maid for halloween?
first off why when someone mentions the word french maid the first thoughts coming to mind is slutty? i'm 15 years old and for this year i wanted to be a french maid. now i know some of you will say: oh my you're too young or w.e but all i'm asking here is your opinion on the following costume =]
http://www.anniescostumes.com/ch01751mai...
now.. do you think its too slutty? with my hands to the side it reaches my the top of my thumb [not the nail part] where the thumb begins in your hand.
talk it outt peeps!
French maid for halloween?
People are going to say its slutty,
but i dont think it is.
Go ahead and be whatever you want to be!
It's Halloween!
Reply:I don't think so... as long as you have parent approval....
Reply:If you were my daughter, I might lock you in your room from now until mid-December, to keep you from appearing in that costume. You know how Dads are.
But you can be adventuresome without being slutty. If you are careful about where you appear in that costume, you'll be OK. Conversely, if you're not careful of where you appear, you'll be rapebait.
In theory, you should be able to wear anything or nothing at all, anywhere, without guys getting the idea that you should be raped. In practice, that's not the way the world works. Guys, especially young guys, can easily get the wrong idea. And girls may think they can deliberately can give the wrong idea, and change their mind later. Be very careful, ma'am, lest you start something you don't want to finish.
Reply:No, it's not. Go for it!
Reply:K-ute! Lovin the style!
Reply:nope its not slutty go on and wear it.
Reply:I think it is totally cute.
I have gone as a french maid before (a few times) and you just can't go wrong with that outfit!
Reply:i don't think it's that bad. i've definetly seen worse. just tone down anything else you were with the costume. for example don't wear super high stilettos, maybe go for shiny black flats or a lower more modest heel. if you're trying not to be slutty DO NOT WEAR FISHNETS. those instantly amp up the sexiness so stay away from those. and don't wear a pound of make up. the outfit has the potential to be really cute. good luck!
Reply:Its a sex aid, a costume to be used in and around the bedroom. Its the whole Au Pair appeal. My opinion, slutty for a dress up party but great at home :)
Reply:Do you like her?
Reply:your still so young and eveyone who told you so to start with is right. when you get older you will realize it. men get bored easily and choose to fantasize about women in this way. it is very sexual and seductive. if you want to be slutty go for it. but i would go with something more scary and fun if i were you and if you don't want to be called a slut.
Reply:Oh, wow, that is waaay short. But at least it has sleeves. I've seen sluttier. But it seems to me that if you're concerned enough about it to ask our opinion, it may be a bit too immodest for you.
Reply:The french maid idea was set into theory because authors would make stories about them being whores. It's nothing against anyone its just an idea that was set up. I think that if its not too short and not too low cut then you have nothing to worry about. If you like it then you like it. Don't let anyone elses oppinion stop you from doing or being whatever you want to do or be! GIRL POWER !!!
xoxo, Caitlin
http://www.anniescostumes.com/ch01751mai...
now.. do you think its too slutty? with my hands to the side it reaches my the top of my thumb [not the nail part] where the thumb begins in your hand.
talk it outt peeps!
French maid for halloween?
People are going to say its slutty,
but i dont think it is.
Go ahead and be whatever you want to be!
It's Halloween!
Reply:I don't think so... as long as you have parent approval....
Reply:If you were my daughter, I might lock you in your room from now until mid-December, to keep you from appearing in that costume. You know how Dads are.
But you can be adventuresome without being slutty. If you are careful about where you appear in that costume, you'll be OK. Conversely, if you're not careful of where you appear, you'll be rapebait.
In theory, you should be able to wear anything or nothing at all, anywhere, without guys getting the idea that you should be raped. In practice, that's not the way the world works. Guys, especially young guys, can easily get the wrong idea. And girls may think they can deliberately can give the wrong idea, and change their mind later. Be very careful, ma'am, lest you start something you don't want to finish.
Reply:No, it's not. Go for it!
Reply:K-ute! Lovin the style!
Reply:nope its not slutty go on and wear it.
Reply:I think it is totally cute.
I have gone as a french maid before (a few times) and you just can't go wrong with that outfit!
Reply:i don't think it's that bad. i've definetly seen worse. just tone down anything else you were with the costume. for example don't wear super high stilettos, maybe go for shiny black flats or a lower more modest heel. if you're trying not to be slutty DO NOT WEAR FISHNETS. those instantly amp up the sexiness so stay away from those. and don't wear a pound of make up. the outfit has the potential to be really cute. good luck!
Reply:Its a sex aid, a costume to be used in and around the bedroom. Its the whole Au Pair appeal. My opinion, slutty for a dress up party but great at home :)
Reply:Do you like her?
Reply:your still so young and eveyone who told you so to start with is right. when you get older you will realize it. men get bored easily and choose to fantasize about women in this way. it is very sexual and seductive. if you want to be slutty go for it. but i would go with something more scary and fun if i were you and if you don't want to be called a slut.
Reply:Oh, wow, that is waaay short. But at least it has sleeves. I've seen sluttier. But it seems to me that if you're concerned enough about it to ask our opinion, it may be a bit too immodest for you.
Reply:The french maid idea was set into theory because authors would make stories about them being whores. It's nothing against anyone its just an idea that was set up. I think that if its not too short and not too low cut then you have nothing to worry about. If you like it then you like it. Don't let anyone elses oppinion stop you from doing or being whatever you want to do or be! GIRL POWER !!!
xoxo, Caitlin
How old to you have to be to sign the marriage certificate as a witness?
My sister is my Maid of Honor and she is 15 years old.
How old to you have to be to sign the marriage certificate as a witness?
She can sign but she can't count as one of the two legally required witnesses. You need two witnesses the age of 18 or older the reason bieng as far as government is concerned that is when you are old enough to really understand what you are watching and a marriage license is a legally binding document and minors can't enter into any sort of contract without parent's permission and signatures.
When my parents remarried we were all too young to sign the actualy license so they had a "marriage contract" made. It was just a letter of intent about what would take place throughout the marriage and they, the kids, and our grandparents signed as witnesses to help them follow their "decree". It was framed just like the license. Older friends signed that and it was filed away for safe keeping.
Reply:Only an adult can.
Children cannot legally sign any official document such as the marriage certificate unless they were an emancipated minor.
Reply:I don't know, might be a state thing. But I remember years ago signing as a witness when my mom and step dad got married, think I was about 14 at the time.
Reply:Whatever the legal age is where you are. Your sister wouldn't be able to.
Reply:This depends on where you are, but in many areas a person must be a legal adult to sign as a witness (usually 18). When you get your wedding certificate (probably from your local courthouse) you should ask them. Some areas might have different requirements. I don't think some states even require witnesses anymore. Be sure to check though, and get your certificate far enough in advance.
Reply:I think she has to be 18 years old to sign. That is the legal age for anybody to be able to sign anything. If she signs it then it won't be valid. It doesn't have to be your maid of honor to sign it. You can have your parents or his parents to sign it.
Reply:Hi. If you live in the U.S., I believe it is 18. Simply call your county clerks office and ask them. If I am right, then have another one of your bridesmaids sign. It doesn't have to be your maid of honor -- it can be ANY witness. Good luck.
Reply:18
Reply:the legal age in your country. in the U.S. it is 18.
my brother was also 15 and our best man at the time of wedding. he could not sign our marriage certificate. my mother and my maid of honor did (at least i think it was my mother, it might have been another bridesmaid).
How old to you have to be to sign the marriage certificate as a witness?
She can sign but she can't count as one of the two legally required witnesses. You need two witnesses the age of 18 or older the reason bieng as far as government is concerned that is when you are old enough to really understand what you are watching and a marriage license is a legally binding document and minors can't enter into any sort of contract without parent's permission and signatures.
When my parents remarried we were all too young to sign the actualy license so they had a "marriage contract" made. It was just a letter of intent about what would take place throughout the marriage and they, the kids, and our grandparents signed as witnesses to help them follow their "decree". It was framed just like the license. Older friends signed that and it was filed away for safe keeping.
Reply:Only an adult can.
Children cannot legally sign any official document such as the marriage certificate unless they were an emancipated minor.
Reply:I don't know, might be a state thing. But I remember years ago signing as a witness when my mom and step dad got married, think I was about 14 at the time.
Reply:Whatever the legal age is where you are. Your sister wouldn't be able to.
Reply:This depends on where you are, but in many areas a person must be a legal adult to sign as a witness (usually 18). When you get your wedding certificate (probably from your local courthouse) you should ask them. Some areas might have different requirements. I don't think some states even require witnesses anymore. Be sure to check though, and get your certificate far enough in advance.
Reply:I think she has to be 18 years old to sign. That is the legal age for anybody to be able to sign anything. If she signs it then it won't be valid. It doesn't have to be your maid of honor to sign it. You can have your parents or his parents to sign it.
Reply:Hi. If you live in the U.S., I believe it is 18. Simply call your county clerks office and ask them. If I am right, then have another one of your bridesmaids sign. It doesn't have to be your maid of honor -- it can be ANY witness. Good luck.
Reply:18
Reply:the legal age in your country. in the U.S. it is 18.
my brother was also 15 and our best man at the time of wedding. he could not sign our marriage certificate. my mother and my maid of honor did (at least i think it was my mother, it might have been another bridesmaid).
Why did they kill off Maid Marian?
On BBC Robin Hood?
I mean isn't it going to be a bit weird to have a Robin Hood with no Maid Marian? Its like Fish and no Chips or Bangers and no Mash isn't it?
My 13 month old son loves Robin Hood and he used to love Maid Marian - he used to go all shy and giggly when she came onscreen, it was so cute, lol. My other half said "I can see why he liked her, she's not a bad looking bird"!!
Why did they kill off Maid Marian?
i think they killed her off to keep the series running if it was guy or robin it would be over. your son sounds like hes got his first crush! lol and richard artimage is fit if they need any one to play the girl whose the new object of his affections email me! lol
lauraxx
Reply:Ha ha - that is so sweet!
I haven't been watching it but I shall write to the BBC on his behalf (your boy's that is not your husband!).
Reply:Right, presuming there's not an element of irony to your later addition, I'd just perhaps mention that the series producers, when looking for plot developments to their series were not entirely considering the 13 month old contingent.....given th show is aimed at very late teenage/ young adult audience (given the reasonably high level of violence and adult theme - in fact I'm surprised Joan R hasn't given you a severe telling off for allowing a 13 month old to watch such a programme)
Reply:Cos she was really a bloke, swear she had bigger testi's than robin and his merry men.
Reply:Oooooh yes, Richard Armitage.......I must go and lie down in a darkened room on my own for a while.........
Reply:it isnt really wat happend in the real story
robin was ment to die
I mean isn't it going to be a bit weird to have a Robin Hood with no Maid Marian? Its like Fish and no Chips or Bangers and no Mash isn't it?
My 13 month old son loves Robin Hood and he used to love Maid Marian - he used to go all shy and giggly when she came onscreen, it was so cute, lol. My other half said "I can see why he liked her, she's not a bad looking bird"!!
Why did they kill off Maid Marian?
i think they killed her off to keep the series running if it was guy or robin it would be over. your son sounds like hes got his first crush! lol and richard artimage is fit if they need any one to play the girl whose the new object of his affections email me! lol
lauraxx
Reply:Ha ha - that is so sweet!
I haven't been watching it but I shall write to the BBC on his behalf (your boy's that is not your husband!).
Reply:Right, presuming there's not an element of irony to your later addition, I'd just perhaps mention that the series producers, when looking for plot developments to their series were not entirely considering the 13 month old contingent.....given th show is aimed at very late teenage/ young adult audience (given the reasonably high level of violence and adult theme - in fact I'm surprised Joan R hasn't given you a severe telling off for allowing a 13 month old to watch such a programme)
Reply:Cos she was really a bloke, swear she had bigger testi's than robin and his merry men.
Reply:Oooooh yes, Richard Armitage.......I must go and lie down in a darkened room on my own for a while.........
Reply:it isnt really wat happend in the real story
robin was ment to die
Part time maid+navi mumbai?
i want a part time maid to help with basic house work and 10-month old baby for 2-3 hrs in the evenings.female students wishing to earn pocket money may also apply for this job.i stay in kharghar,navi mumbai.
Part time maid+navi mumbai?
Ask your neighbours or friends. Especially if they live in the same area....they will be willing to come over since they donot have to commute that much
Reply:at a store most likely
pomegranate margarita
Part time maid+navi mumbai?
Ask your neighbours or friends. Especially if they live in the same area....they will be willing to come over since they donot have to commute that much
Reply:at a store most likely
pomegranate margarita
Brides maid dresses?
ok can i have names of brides maid stores in pennsalvania (PA) that i can get a brides maid dress and dont forget i am ten years old
Brides maid dresses?
TEN YEARS OLD YOU DONT BELONG HERE
Brides maid dresses?
TEN YEARS OLD YOU DONT BELONG HERE
I am 35 and I am marrying a 34 year old. We have 2 b-maids who are our age, and 1 that is 50. Is this Wrong?
I am 50. I see nothing wrong with it, I have lots of friends that are younger, Tell your folks to butt the hell out. Why the hell do they care about your friend's age %26amp; why is it their business? If she is okay with it? I would be mighty frigging pissed off if somebody's mama told me I couldn't be in their wedding - WTF?!?! Have the people YOU want around you %26amp; tell mama to get over it
I am 35 and I am marrying a 34 year old. We have 2 b-maids who are our age, and 1 that is 50. Is this Wrong?
Guess what? It's your wedding and you get to decide. If you wanted to use dogs as bridesmaids, you could. Your parents need to get over it and mind their own business. Don't let other people pressure you into doing your wedding different. Take it from experience, I wish I would have stood up for myself and done what I wanted. Now I have regrets and wedding pics that remind me of that.
Reply:There is no reason that a 50 year old cannot be your bridesmaid - you choose the people YOU want to have in your wedding because they mean something special to you. It is your wedding, do what you want to in the selection of people to be in it. Have a happy day and a marriage filled with love.
Reply:No,it is not wrong at all.Your wedding day is one of the most special days of your lives.lt is your day holding your memories.You are entitled to ask whoever you both desire.l am sure your older bridesmaid will be very honoured to share in your wonderful day.Hope you all have a super day.
Reply:Hi and congratulations!
Well, no, it is not wrong. To be honest, I'm 51, and I must say I would feel kind of strange being a bridesmaid. But, that's me. Simply ask the person you are wanting how she feels!
If this is a family member, she may not feel strange about it. If she does and you still want her involved in the wedding, there are many other "things" she could do. Such as, greeting people at the door as handing out programs (if you are having them), doing a reading at the wedding, etc.
Good luck!
Reply:Of course it isn't wrong. Whatever you and your fiance choose is 100% correct. You chose that bridesmaid because she is special. What better reason than to have her! Times have changed, therefore wedding ceremonies have evolved. That's why wedings can be so varied and tailored to suit the couples needs. Have a wonderful wedding day!
Reply:The 50 year old would probably prefer to be called Maid of Honor, but of course it's not wrong if that's what you both want! Enjoy your day!
Reply:Absolutely OK. Why would you think this is wrong?
Reply:shame on your parents! your bridesmaids are who are closest to you and who you want to stand beside you on your special day. it is really none of their business.
Reply:Why would it be wrong? If you thought enough of this woman to ask her then nothing could make it wrong. She's special to you and that's all that matters. Your parents need to get over themselves.
best wishes
Reply:Go ahead buddy, there is nothing wrong in it.
Reply:No. Why would you think it is wrong? It is your wedding and you can choose anyone you want regardless of age. As long as it makes the two of you happy, who cares.
I am 35 and I am marrying a 34 year old. We have 2 b-maids who are our age, and 1 that is 50. Is this Wrong?
Guess what? It's your wedding and you get to decide. If you wanted to use dogs as bridesmaids, you could. Your parents need to get over it and mind their own business. Don't let other people pressure you into doing your wedding different. Take it from experience, I wish I would have stood up for myself and done what I wanted. Now I have regrets and wedding pics that remind me of that.
Reply:There is no reason that a 50 year old cannot be your bridesmaid - you choose the people YOU want to have in your wedding because they mean something special to you. It is your wedding, do what you want to in the selection of people to be in it. Have a happy day and a marriage filled with love.
Reply:No,it is not wrong at all.Your wedding day is one of the most special days of your lives.lt is your day holding your memories.You are entitled to ask whoever you both desire.l am sure your older bridesmaid will be very honoured to share in your wonderful day.Hope you all have a super day.
Reply:Hi and congratulations!
Well, no, it is not wrong. To be honest, I'm 51, and I must say I would feel kind of strange being a bridesmaid. But, that's me. Simply ask the person you are wanting how she feels!
If this is a family member, she may not feel strange about it. If she does and you still want her involved in the wedding, there are many other "things" she could do. Such as, greeting people at the door as handing out programs (if you are having them), doing a reading at the wedding, etc.
Good luck!
Reply:Of course it isn't wrong. Whatever you and your fiance choose is 100% correct. You chose that bridesmaid because she is special. What better reason than to have her! Times have changed, therefore wedding ceremonies have evolved. That's why wedings can be so varied and tailored to suit the couples needs. Have a wonderful wedding day!
Reply:The 50 year old would probably prefer to be called Maid of Honor, but of course it's not wrong if that's what you both want! Enjoy your day!
Reply:Absolutely OK. Why would you think this is wrong?
Reply:shame on your parents! your bridesmaids are who are closest to you and who you want to stand beside you on your special day. it is really none of their business.
Reply:Why would it be wrong? If you thought enough of this woman to ask her then nothing could make it wrong. She's special to you and that's all that matters. Your parents need to get over themselves.
best wishes
Reply:Go ahead buddy, there is nothing wrong in it.
Reply:No. Why would you think it is wrong? It is your wedding and you can choose anyone you want regardless of age. As long as it makes the two of you happy, who cares.
First time being Maid of Honor - helpful tips definately encouraged!?
Okay, so here's the situation. One of my high school friends (we graduated a year ago, our little celebration of being 'free' being the occasion in which she met the man she is now going to get married to) is getting married next June. When she asked me to be her Maid of Honor (more like told...uhhh), it kind of hit home - I need to be there! I'm not. I'm in Florida, on an internship, and I'm scared that in the two months I have left here, I'm going to miss some drastically important role I should be spearheading. I'm looking up on the internet what I should be doing and there's TONS. Are there any tips on how I can get started from so far away? Or any tips in general!!!
Oh, and is the Maid of Honor in charge of the 'something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue'?
Much, much help would be much, much, MUCH appreciated!!
First time being Maid of Honor - helpful tips definately encouraged!?
Well, it kind of depends on what your bride wants you to do, but some basics, that is normal for most MofH is the bachlorette party, (you can use the other bridesmaids to help you with that) making sure the bride has everything on her day. Make your self a little kit...like a sewing kit, just in case something falls off the dress, I am sure someone can sew if you can't, every lipgloss, or lipstick, anything you think she might forget, um safety pins, stuff like that....Also ask her, if she wants you to be in charge of keeping certain people away from her on her day, or if she wants you to make sure everything goes as planned, like pictures, and cake cutting, and such....make sure they are on the time...that sort of thing....you are there to make sure everything seems to go perfect for her on her day. I would make sure you bring all of the something old, new, blue, borrowed and such, just in case. Also a penny for her shoe....if she knows about that one.
Reply:You are to support the bride unconditionally. Lend a hand organizing with everything from the bridal shower, the bachelorette party all the way through the wedding. You are suppose to be the Brides right arm...and should always be accessiable.
I think a good MOH is always there to lean on and if you are I assure you your Bride will always be thankful she chose you! Awww. Congrats on being chosen as the awesome MOH! w00t!
Reply:Talk to your bride and see what she expects of you. Sure there are guidelines you can go by on the internet, but in general... the bride will tell you want she needs you to do.
Do what she asks, not necessarily what you feel you should do. Its her day... and make sure that remains the focus.
Reply:Planning the hens nite is your major task. That's generally a week before the wedding. Aside from that, your job, as Maid of Honour, is to BE THERE for the bride when she wants to have a tantrum or is hyperventillating. It is also to hold her crap while she has herr photos done on the day and potentially to make a speech. Even if she does give you a "job" like finding a florist or something, she will end up doing it. Why? She is the bride, it is her day and she wants and element of control in the whole thing. This is not a negative comment, just an observation from watching numerous brides from this vantage point (and being one!)
Oh, and is the Maid of Honor in charge of the 'something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue'?
Much, much help would be much, much, MUCH appreciated!!
First time being Maid of Honor - helpful tips definately encouraged!?
Well, it kind of depends on what your bride wants you to do, but some basics, that is normal for most MofH is the bachlorette party, (you can use the other bridesmaids to help you with that) making sure the bride has everything on her day. Make your self a little kit...like a sewing kit, just in case something falls off the dress, I am sure someone can sew if you can't, every lipgloss, or lipstick, anything you think she might forget, um safety pins, stuff like that....Also ask her, if she wants you to be in charge of keeping certain people away from her on her day, or if she wants you to make sure everything goes as planned, like pictures, and cake cutting, and such....make sure they are on the time...that sort of thing....you are there to make sure everything seems to go perfect for her on her day. I would make sure you bring all of the something old, new, blue, borrowed and such, just in case. Also a penny for her shoe....if she knows about that one.
Reply:You are to support the bride unconditionally. Lend a hand organizing with everything from the bridal shower, the bachelorette party all the way through the wedding. You are suppose to be the Brides right arm...and should always be accessiable.
I think a good MOH is always there to lean on and if you are I assure you your Bride will always be thankful she chose you! Awww. Congrats on being chosen as the awesome MOH! w00t!
Reply:Talk to your bride and see what she expects of you. Sure there are guidelines you can go by on the internet, but in general... the bride will tell you want she needs you to do.
Do what she asks, not necessarily what you feel you should do. Its her day... and make sure that remains the focus.
Reply:Planning the hens nite is your major task. That's generally a week before the wedding. Aside from that, your job, as Maid of Honour, is to BE THERE for the bride when she wants to have a tantrum or is hyperventillating. It is also to hold her crap while she has herr photos done on the day and potentially to make a speech. Even if she does give you a "job" like finding a florist or something, she will end up doing it. Why? She is the bride, it is her day and she wants and element of control in the whole thing. This is not a negative comment, just an observation from watching numerous brides from this vantage point (and being one!)
Spanish wedding... Padrinos vs. Best Man/ Maid of Honor?
UGH I NEED HELP!!!
My fiance and I didn't quit understand the "rules" of a spanish wedding. We are getting married in a catholic Church. Well growing up I always thought of having a maid of honor who is my 19 year old cousin I grew up with. My fiance also thought of having a best man, being his cousin HE grew up with. Well thats all good and said. Then we knew that we nedded padrinos and we decided on 2 sets, (our aunts and uncles) My mom JUST now decided to telll me that Best man. Maid of Honor and Padrinos are the SAME people! Also the Padrinos are to pay for a part of the wedding. Here are my ideas... Have our chosen best man/ Maid of Honor but just give them the title and put them next to us in the ceremony. and have our two sets of Padrinos... Is this a bad Idea?
My other idea is... I have a 24 year old brother and his wife, we can make them a set, then take my Fiance's cousin, Pair him with MY Cousin and that would be another set.
Please give me your opinion... Thank u
Spanish wedding... Padrinos vs. Best Man/ Maid of Honor?
Well, I think that Padrinos are totally different from your BM/MOH.
I'm getting married in March and our BM is my fiance's best friend and my MOH is my 17yr old niece. All they are paying for is their clothes/accessories, etc.
We also have 3 sets of Padrinos:
-One set for the lazo
-One set for the arras
-One set for the rings
Each of these sets volunteered to pay for the item that they are presenting during the ceremony. Our BM/MOH will stand next to us, but each set will approach the altar as the priest calls for them to do so. And, our BM and MOH's names will appear on our Wedding Certificate.
I think its fine to do things however you want them. Its difficult to adjust your ideas to the rules of Spanish Catholic weddings. I'm having the hardest time trying to plan a bilingual ceremony ( my fiance's family doesn't speak spanish and not all my family speaks english) and adhering to all the traditions my family wants me to follow. Do things however you want, its your wedding!! Congratz and Good Luck!
Reply:Hmm.. from what I had understood, padrinos are i guess sponsors, like you said help pay bits of the wedding and MoH/BM are people the bride and groom choose, like a close friend or relative. Two different things. When I got married (Dec. '06) we had a couple of padrinos. My hubby's best man was his brother and my MoH was my 7 year old sister, and they were up there too. But we recognized our padrinos during the reception.
OR like when my aunt got married 9 years ago, I was her MoH.. I was 12! I sure know I didn't pay for anything.. hehe ;)
I think it's really your choice, it is your wedding :) And wedding just get bigger and bigger the smaller you want to keep it :P
Congrats and good luck :)
Reply:i know exactly what you are talking about.
but for my wedding we are having our bridesmaid and groomsmen. and the padrinos are gonna be extra.
I will give them for example a color for the outfit to symbolize they were our padrinos for the wedding but i will not be including them in my bridesmaid or groomsmen group.
to me i am tre3ating them like a second group.
get it?
i hope i dont get you confused.
if your confused email lol.
Reply:They don't necessarily have to be the same people. For our wedding our MOH and BM were not the padrinos. Our padrinos were my brother and his wife both regular groomsmen and bridesmaid. They were the ones who bought and gave us the lasso. For the coins we did the same thing but with another couple. In the past they would help pay for the wedding but in modern times that is up to you and them. We chose to pay for it ourselves. Hope that helps.
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My fiance and I didn't quit understand the "rules" of a spanish wedding. We are getting married in a catholic Church. Well growing up I always thought of having a maid of honor who is my 19 year old cousin I grew up with. My fiance also thought of having a best man, being his cousin HE grew up with. Well thats all good and said. Then we knew that we nedded padrinos and we decided on 2 sets, (our aunts and uncles) My mom JUST now decided to telll me that Best man. Maid of Honor and Padrinos are the SAME people! Also the Padrinos are to pay for a part of the wedding. Here are my ideas... Have our chosen best man/ Maid of Honor but just give them the title and put them next to us in the ceremony. and have our two sets of Padrinos... Is this a bad Idea?
My other idea is... I have a 24 year old brother and his wife, we can make them a set, then take my Fiance's cousin, Pair him with MY Cousin and that would be another set.
Please give me your opinion... Thank u
Spanish wedding... Padrinos vs. Best Man/ Maid of Honor?
Well, I think that Padrinos are totally different from your BM/MOH.
I'm getting married in March and our BM is my fiance's best friend and my MOH is my 17yr old niece. All they are paying for is their clothes/accessories, etc.
We also have 3 sets of Padrinos:
-One set for the lazo
-One set for the arras
-One set for the rings
Each of these sets volunteered to pay for the item that they are presenting during the ceremony. Our BM/MOH will stand next to us, but each set will approach the altar as the priest calls for them to do so. And, our BM and MOH's names will appear on our Wedding Certificate.
I think its fine to do things however you want them. Its difficult to adjust your ideas to the rules of Spanish Catholic weddings. I'm having the hardest time trying to plan a bilingual ceremony ( my fiance's family doesn't speak spanish and not all my family speaks english) and adhering to all the traditions my family wants me to follow. Do things however you want, its your wedding!! Congratz and Good Luck!
Reply:Hmm.. from what I had understood, padrinos are i guess sponsors, like you said help pay bits of the wedding and MoH/BM are people the bride and groom choose, like a close friend or relative. Two different things. When I got married (Dec. '06) we had a couple of padrinos. My hubby's best man was his brother and my MoH was my 7 year old sister, and they were up there too. But we recognized our padrinos during the reception.
OR like when my aunt got married 9 years ago, I was her MoH.. I was 12! I sure know I didn't pay for anything.. hehe ;)
I think it's really your choice, it is your wedding :) And wedding just get bigger and bigger the smaller you want to keep it :P
Congrats and good luck :)
Reply:i know exactly what you are talking about.
but for my wedding we are having our bridesmaid and groomsmen. and the padrinos are gonna be extra.
I will give them for example a color for the outfit to symbolize they were our padrinos for the wedding but i will not be including them in my bridesmaid or groomsmen group.
to me i am tre3ating them like a second group.
get it?
i hope i dont get you confused.
if your confused email lol.
Reply:They don't necessarily have to be the same people. For our wedding our MOH and BM were not the padrinos. Our padrinos were my brother and his wife both regular groomsmen and bridesmaid. They were the ones who bought and gave us the lasso. For the coins we did the same thing but with another couple. In the past they would help pay for the wedding but in modern times that is up to you and them. We chose to pay for it ourselves. Hope that helps.
flower delivery
Does my 2 weeks puppy died of electic shook as the maid claimed ?
Please can any body tell me what at ae the signs if a puppy died of electric shook? My maid said that my barsiek 2 weeks old pupyy died of electric shook which i dont beleive , i think she killed her accidentally cus she said that she wasnt apple to work for me affer she told me what happened i could ask her enoung question s cuz my mom let the maid go before i come home . Please tell me waht are the signs would be seen in my barciek body if she died of it? I am in so much pain %26amp; i blaim my self.
Does my 2 weeks puppy died of electic shook as the maid claimed ?
Typically with electric shock you will see burns in the mouth on the gums or tongue. It also causes fluid build up in the lungs, so often times after death you will see a large amount of fluid come out of the nose. A necropsy by your vet should be able to determine if shock is a possible cause of death, although I think its highly unlikely as two week old puppies dont have much ability to chew, let alone chew through an electrical cord, which is how most pets are electrocuted. You shouldnt blame yourself, there was nothing you could have done to prevent it. If you truly believe it was electrical shock caused other than by chewing, and can prove it, I would call the police as that is definitely animal cruelty.
Reply:I am sorry to hear about your babe...you really need to talk to your mom about this....
no one on these answer boards will be able to tell you if your little puppy died of electric shock or not.....or if your maid killed it....but your mom might be able to fill in some of the blanks for you.........
and again.. I am truly sorry you lost your baby.....but please don't blame yourself...it was not something that you had any control over.....
Reply:2 week old puppy could die from many many reasons,,,,,
Reply:sweet....
Reply:Unless the cord that the pup supposedly chewed on was in the bed/pen with the 2 week old dog I highly doubt that the pup chewed on a cord by itself. At 2 weeks most pups cant really walk well and certainly can't climb out of a bed/pet and find a cord and chew on it enough to kill themselves
Reply:take your puppy to the vet and ask him what the cause of death was.
Reply:If the electric shock was due to the puppy chewing on an electric cord, you'll see the teeth marks on the cord. There could be some superficial burns on the pup's body.
You would need an autopsy to be sure, but that will likely cost you some money. I'd look for the outward signs and not overly worry about the cause of death. It was probably an accident regardless of how it happened.
Does my 2 weeks puppy died of electic shook as the maid claimed ?
Typically with electric shock you will see burns in the mouth on the gums or tongue. It also causes fluid build up in the lungs, so often times after death you will see a large amount of fluid come out of the nose. A necropsy by your vet should be able to determine if shock is a possible cause of death, although I think its highly unlikely as two week old puppies dont have much ability to chew, let alone chew through an electrical cord, which is how most pets are electrocuted. You shouldnt blame yourself, there was nothing you could have done to prevent it. If you truly believe it was electrical shock caused other than by chewing, and can prove it, I would call the police as that is definitely animal cruelty.
Reply:I am sorry to hear about your babe...you really need to talk to your mom about this....
no one on these answer boards will be able to tell you if your little puppy died of electric shock or not.....or if your maid killed it....but your mom might be able to fill in some of the blanks for you.........
and again.. I am truly sorry you lost your baby.....but please don't blame yourself...it was not something that you had any control over.....
Reply:2 week old puppy could die from many many reasons,,,,,
Reply:sweet....
Reply:Unless the cord that the pup supposedly chewed on was in the bed/pen with the 2 week old dog I highly doubt that the pup chewed on a cord by itself. At 2 weeks most pups cant really walk well and certainly can't climb out of a bed/pet and find a cord and chew on it enough to kill themselves
Reply:take your puppy to the vet and ask him what the cause of death was.
Reply:If the electric shock was due to the puppy chewing on an electric cord, you'll see the teeth marks on the cord. There could be some superficial burns on the pup's body.
You would need an autopsy to be sure, but that will likely cost you some money. I'd look for the outward signs and not overly worry about the cause of death. It was probably an accident regardless of how it happened.
What is a J.R. bride's maid?
so i was asked to be a JR's brides maid because i am only 12 years old. i have no idea what that is!! but of course i said yes. what is it
What is a J.R. bride's maid?
A junior bridesmaid is someone that is younger than the rest of the bridesmaids but older than the flower girl. You will get to stand with the rest of the bridesmaids at the ceremony and help the bride out when she needs help. But I doubt you'll have the financial responsibilities of the other bridesmaids.
Reply:A junior bridesmaid is just a bridesmaid that is younger than the rest of the group.
Reply:You don't really have to do anything. You're too old to be a flower girl but too young to be a bridesmaid.
Reply:Haha a Jr Bridesmade is a bridesmade that can't fit into a bridesmades dress. :) Congrats!!
What is a J.R. bride's maid?
A junior bridesmaid is someone that is younger than the rest of the bridesmaids but older than the flower girl. You will get to stand with the rest of the bridesmaids at the ceremony and help the bride out when she needs help. But I doubt you'll have the financial responsibilities of the other bridesmaids.
Reply:A junior bridesmaid is just a bridesmaid that is younger than the rest of the group.
Reply:You don't really have to do anything. You're too old to be a flower girl but too young to be a bridesmaid.
Reply:Haha a Jr Bridesmade is a bridesmade that can't fit into a bridesmades dress. :) Congrats!!
Do you have a Maid?? or are you a maid?? a driver?? or a helper??
I would like to have a maid in the philippines when I live there... magkano ba? I hope I can get a good one for like 100 bucks a month? what do you think? where can I get a great maid? or a driver?
Im 23 years old and im planning to live there next year, sa ano, QC. I hope when I move there, I can have a maid, a driver, a gardener, and a mechanic. I am not fluent in tagalog, but I can understand and speak a little na lang. but eventually, I will become fluent soon.
Do you have a Maid?? or are you a maid?? a driver?? or a helper??
we used to have a maids before but we sent them back, some where just taking advantage on our stuffs when we're away...
Reply:I hope you will have all of that. Just don't be mean to them. I see so many people there treat their help like a slave with no dignity. Be careful the karma if you do that.
Reply:we have lots of drivers..
coz were on a trucking business..
when i read tabloid (tagalog newspaper) i always see wanted:maids for foreinger P7000 that's about usd140, plus a gardener, driver and mechanic? that would cost a lot.
Reply:I need one that I can trust for my mom. $100 is actually a lot of money. There is a law being proposed that will make the minimum salary for domestic help PHP3,000 plus one month bonus and health insurance.
Reply:Hey buddy, never mind about the law but if she's good, pay her well and give life and opportunity to another one........
Reply:i dnt no how Ur going to make a living if you pay everyone to do Ur work. i Hope Ur business is making over 1000 dollars a month if All going to do ispay the three house workers.what u cnt drive Ur self.
Reply:If that's the only money you got, never mind na lang going back to the Philippines. You might find it out that more people have more money than you do. So stay put and increase you wealth before going back..
Reply:just want to greet madam on "top of me." a wonderful morning.
"ma'am buntag na."
Reply:Where are you frm actually? We used two have 2 maids frm the phillipines, they worked for our family for 10 years and we ended up missing them and felt like family. They watched me grow from a boy to an adult
Reply:I got a helper (all-around----a li'l as a cook,laundry,gardening.....) %26amp; her monthly salary is 2,500 pesos or around 50 dollars. Really, it depends if where are you planning to stay (either on a town or big cities, if you get what I mean.) Just try looking for an agency. (- -,)
Reply:EVERYONE in the philippines toils and labors for my happiness.
Im 23 years old and im planning to live there next year, sa ano, QC. I hope when I move there, I can have a maid, a driver, a gardener, and a mechanic. I am not fluent in tagalog, but I can understand and speak a little na lang. but eventually, I will become fluent soon.
Do you have a Maid?? or are you a maid?? a driver?? or a helper??
we used to have a maids before but we sent them back, some where just taking advantage on our stuffs when we're away...
Reply:I hope you will have all of that. Just don't be mean to them. I see so many people there treat their help like a slave with no dignity. Be careful the karma if you do that.
Reply:we have lots of drivers..
coz were on a trucking business..
when i read tabloid (tagalog newspaper) i always see wanted:maids for foreinger P7000 that's about usd140, plus a gardener, driver and mechanic? that would cost a lot.
Reply:I need one that I can trust for my mom. $100 is actually a lot of money. There is a law being proposed that will make the minimum salary for domestic help PHP3,000 plus one month bonus and health insurance.
Reply:Hey buddy, never mind about the law but if she's good, pay her well and give life and opportunity to another one........
Reply:i dnt no how Ur going to make a living if you pay everyone to do Ur work. i Hope Ur business is making over 1000 dollars a month if All going to do ispay the three house workers.what u cnt drive Ur self.
Reply:If that's the only money you got, never mind na lang going back to the Philippines. You might find it out that more people have more money than you do. So stay put and increase you wealth before going back..
Reply:just want to greet madam on "top of me." a wonderful morning.
"ma'am buntag na."
Reply:Where are you frm actually? We used two have 2 maids frm the phillipines, they worked for our family for 10 years and we ended up missing them and felt like family. They watched me grow from a boy to an adult
Reply:I got a helper (all-around----a li'l as a cook,laundry,gardening.....) %26amp; her monthly salary is 2,500 pesos or around 50 dollars. Really, it depends if where are you planning to stay (either on a town or big cities, if you get what I mean.) Just try looking for an agency. (- -,)
Reply:EVERYONE in the philippines toils and labors for my happiness.
Major problem gathering the courage to boot out a maid of honor. Advice please! Details inside?
Here's the story. My wedding is July 28 of this year, and I've been engaged since May of last year. I foolishly asked my oldest friend to be my maid of honor. She has always been somewhat self-absorbed, but I thought she had gotten over it.
Well, things have not turned out well. Not only has she been completely unsupportive; I can't even get her to pay for her bloody dress. The day my other bridesmaids and I went to pick them out, she ditched, so I paid for hers and she promised to pay me back (I really don't have the money to pay for their dresses, unfortunately). She has not planned any kind of shower/bachelorette party for me- she has literally not even called and asked me how plans are and if there's anything she needs to do (we don't see each other very often).
This is stressing me out so much that I know I need to tell her she's out. What is a tactful way to do this? At this point, I'm not too concerned about preserving the friendship, but I don't want to be too rude.
Major problem gathering the courage to boot out a maid of honor. Advice please! Details inside?
I would take her to lunch or some other neutral location, and then ask her if she still wants to be in the wedding. Maybe her financial situation changed, she can't afford the dress anymore, but doesn't know how to tell YOU? If she's your oldest friend, self-absorbed or not, she deserves the benefit of the doubt. Give her the easy out, explain that you understand how expensive this is, and if she can't do it, it's fine with you, you just need to know one way or another. That way, you don't have to be rude, and even if you're not all that interested in preserving the friendship, you're not the one burning the bridge to end it either.
And, by the way, the mother of the bride does NOT host a bridal shower, since a shower is basically asking for gifts for the bride. For her mother to do that is incredibly rude and in extremely poor taste. Hosting a bridal shower is clearly the responsibility of the MOH and bridesmaids. Also, most brides do NOT pay for their bridesmaids dresses, most women understand when you agree to be in a wedding, paying for the dress (that you probably won't like) is part of the deal.
Good luck!
Reply:This is YOUR wedding. If you feel she is not into the wedding and the wedding plans it is your right to relieve her of her duties.
Have lunch with her. Discuss your feelings that she is not very into the wedding plans and even bailed when they went to get dresses and that she should step down as maid of honor.
If she does not, just say that this is not her decision it is yours. then pick a Maid of Honor.
Reply:Tell her she has a week to pay for her dress, or she's out. If you really want a shower/bachelorette party, ask one of your other bridesmaid's if she'd plan something. Tell her what's going on, that your MOH is not being a very good MOH, and that you'd appreciate it if she'd do it. Also have the bridesmaid not invite the MOH, she'll get offended, but she's not respecting your wishes, and she's being a (insert word that feels appropriate here).
Usually the mother of the bride throws the bridal shower. Just for FYI
Reply:ask her out to lunch asap
then, ask her if she still wants to be in it
maybe she only said yes b/c of you long friendship BUT now her non involvement is really her way of showing how she's really feeling.
maybe she's going through a cash crunch and is too embarrassed to say so.
maybe she's jealous.
anyway call her no later than this weekend and either arrange to meet or have the conversation over the phone.
be gentle even if she isn't forth coming.
if she arranges to meet with you and then cancels send her a email and tell her "It seems this is not something you really fits into your current circumstance" (kinda be a bit vague if she ever comes out and says no) "so I think it's best for both of us...."
still invite her to the wedding just to see if she will show.
good luck
(I have seen this happen more than once, more often than not friendships end)
also stickily speaking, the Mother of the bride is not supposed to host the shower. As the other poster stated because it seems like a gift grab for your own relative.
now a days folks however many have tossed out etiquette and many do so.
the thing about it as dresses,shoes etc etc are already expensive to ask one of the other maids to cough up $300-$500 dollars to host a shower at this late date......
maybe a family member might be best
Reply:i asked a similar sort of question a little while ago, and one person said to me 'why are people so worried to stand up for themselves when its their wedding!' She was so right.. when it comes to your special day, you should be doing what is right for you.
your m.o.h sounds like she is quite self absorbed which is a very annoying quality. in saying 'yes' to be a moh she accepts responsibilities which come with it, which include being supportive, paying for her dress, organising things..etc .. its not just about being the first bridesmaid to walk down the isle.
unfortunately, preserving the friendship is something that may be difficult when asking her to step down.. however, she is obviously not to concerned with your feelings anyway, so you don't need to be worrying about hers if she can't do the same thing for you.
what you should say is that one of the other girls and you have become very close, she has been extremely supportive and has been actually happy to do things for you, and it is because of this that you think she is best suited for the job...
Good luck
Reply:You don't. It was your duty to let her know what you needed help with, not expecting to be catered to! You can pick up the phone just as easily as she can - but you are the one planning!
Reply:idk.
it sounds bad but people sometimes have stuff going on that they don't talk about. I know that right now this is the most imoprtant thing in your life...but it probably isn't hers. You could ask her "do you still want to be in my wedding, because you seem realy busy and I don't want it to be an extra burden on you", but telling her she can't be in it seems wrong. Just bring up the subject nicely and she will probably let you know what's going on. You say she's self absorbed...but who knows....maybe you both are a little. Get thru the wedding without ending any friendships and then you can slowly distance yourself if need be.
Reply:I would say return her dress if you still have it and have a bridesmaid become your maid of honor and just dont mention the wedding again to her i'm sure if shes not that interested in the first place she'll forget about it! Also means don't send her an invite either! She'll get the hint! If she ever gets the balls to ask you why tell her the truth!!
Reply:tell her that we have been friends for a very long time, but this is supposed to be the happiest day of life, and planning this wedding is supposed be fun. but my wedding is 2 months away and i don't think that things are going as well as they should be. you are supposed to be my maid of honor, but you are not helping me at all. it's not fair that i pay for your dress and not my bridesmaids. i don't have extra money all my money is tied into the wedding. i am so sorry but i don't want you in my wedding. i am sorry for sounding rude but this is how i feel.
Reply:ban her from the wedding, maybe that will teach her lesson for being so obnoxious
Reply:Tell her, "You clearly dont want to be in this wedding, here's your get out of our friendshp free card."
Reply:If you are that disappointed then just fire her.
I really didn't expect my bridesmaids to pay for my wedding- I paid for their dresses.
EDIT
I don't care what the rest of you did - I refuse to think its anyones but the brides' responsibility to pay for bridemaid dresses. Why would I expect someone to buy a dress that they couldn't wear anywhere else? For me? I think its just part of the cost of the wedding. Some website is not going to make me change my mind. Whats the validity? Reliability? Too many bridezillas out there.
Reply:Send her a copy of above question.
with a P.S. %26gt; sorry it did not work out
Reply:Just say something like "My wedding day means a lot to me and I want everyone there to be supportive of what I and (fiance's name) are doing. I dont feel like you have my best intrests in mind so I am afriad I wont be able to have you be in any part on our wedding."
Reply:Keep her. Be the bigger person regardless of the cost. If you have cool other bridesmaid, they'll throw a sweet bachelorette soiree for you.
lily
Well, things have not turned out well. Not only has she been completely unsupportive; I can't even get her to pay for her bloody dress. The day my other bridesmaids and I went to pick them out, she ditched, so I paid for hers and she promised to pay me back (I really don't have the money to pay for their dresses, unfortunately). She has not planned any kind of shower/bachelorette party for me- she has literally not even called and asked me how plans are and if there's anything she needs to do (we don't see each other very often).
This is stressing me out so much that I know I need to tell her she's out. What is a tactful way to do this? At this point, I'm not too concerned about preserving the friendship, but I don't want to be too rude.
Major problem gathering the courage to boot out a maid of honor. Advice please! Details inside?
I would take her to lunch or some other neutral location, and then ask her if she still wants to be in the wedding. Maybe her financial situation changed, she can't afford the dress anymore, but doesn't know how to tell YOU? If she's your oldest friend, self-absorbed or not, she deserves the benefit of the doubt. Give her the easy out, explain that you understand how expensive this is, and if she can't do it, it's fine with you, you just need to know one way or another. That way, you don't have to be rude, and even if you're not all that interested in preserving the friendship, you're not the one burning the bridge to end it either.
And, by the way, the mother of the bride does NOT host a bridal shower, since a shower is basically asking for gifts for the bride. For her mother to do that is incredibly rude and in extremely poor taste. Hosting a bridal shower is clearly the responsibility of the MOH and bridesmaids. Also, most brides do NOT pay for their bridesmaids dresses, most women understand when you agree to be in a wedding, paying for the dress (that you probably won't like) is part of the deal.
Good luck!
Reply:This is YOUR wedding. If you feel she is not into the wedding and the wedding plans it is your right to relieve her of her duties.
Have lunch with her. Discuss your feelings that she is not very into the wedding plans and even bailed when they went to get dresses and that she should step down as maid of honor.
If she does not, just say that this is not her decision it is yours. then pick a Maid of Honor.
Reply:Tell her she has a week to pay for her dress, or she's out. If you really want a shower/bachelorette party, ask one of your other bridesmaid's if she'd plan something. Tell her what's going on, that your MOH is not being a very good MOH, and that you'd appreciate it if she'd do it. Also have the bridesmaid not invite the MOH, she'll get offended, but she's not respecting your wishes, and she's being a (insert word that feels appropriate here).
Usually the mother of the bride throws the bridal shower. Just for FYI
Reply:ask her out to lunch asap
then, ask her if she still wants to be in it
maybe she only said yes b/c of you long friendship BUT now her non involvement is really her way of showing how she's really feeling.
maybe she's going through a cash crunch and is too embarrassed to say so.
maybe she's jealous.
anyway call her no later than this weekend and either arrange to meet or have the conversation over the phone.
be gentle even if she isn't forth coming.
if she arranges to meet with you and then cancels send her a email and tell her "It seems this is not something you really fits into your current circumstance" (kinda be a bit vague if she ever comes out and says no) "so I think it's best for both of us...."
still invite her to the wedding just to see if she will show.
good luck
(I have seen this happen more than once, more often than not friendships end)
also stickily speaking, the Mother of the bride is not supposed to host the shower. As the other poster stated because it seems like a gift grab for your own relative.
now a days folks however many have tossed out etiquette and many do so.
the thing about it as dresses,shoes etc etc are already expensive to ask one of the other maids to cough up $300-$500 dollars to host a shower at this late date......
maybe a family member might be best
Reply:i asked a similar sort of question a little while ago, and one person said to me 'why are people so worried to stand up for themselves when its their wedding!' She was so right.. when it comes to your special day, you should be doing what is right for you.
your m.o.h sounds like she is quite self absorbed which is a very annoying quality. in saying 'yes' to be a moh she accepts responsibilities which come with it, which include being supportive, paying for her dress, organising things..etc .. its not just about being the first bridesmaid to walk down the isle.
unfortunately, preserving the friendship is something that may be difficult when asking her to step down.. however, she is obviously not to concerned with your feelings anyway, so you don't need to be worrying about hers if she can't do the same thing for you.
what you should say is that one of the other girls and you have become very close, she has been extremely supportive and has been actually happy to do things for you, and it is because of this that you think she is best suited for the job...
Good luck
Reply:You don't. It was your duty to let her know what you needed help with, not expecting to be catered to! You can pick up the phone just as easily as she can - but you are the one planning!
Reply:idk.
it sounds bad but people sometimes have stuff going on that they don't talk about. I know that right now this is the most imoprtant thing in your life...but it probably isn't hers. You could ask her "do you still want to be in my wedding, because you seem realy busy and I don't want it to be an extra burden on you", but telling her she can't be in it seems wrong. Just bring up the subject nicely and she will probably let you know what's going on. You say she's self absorbed...but who knows....maybe you both are a little. Get thru the wedding without ending any friendships and then you can slowly distance yourself if need be.
Reply:I would say return her dress if you still have it and have a bridesmaid become your maid of honor and just dont mention the wedding again to her i'm sure if shes not that interested in the first place she'll forget about it! Also means don't send her an invite either! She'll get the hint! If she ever gets the balls to ask you why tell her the truth!!
Reply:tell her that we have been friends for a very long time, but this is supposed to be the happiest day of life, and planning this wedding is supposed be fun. but my wedding is 2 months away and i don't think that things are going as well as they should be. you are supposed to be my maid of honor, but you are not helping me at all. it's not fair that i pay for your dress and not my bridesmaids. i don't have extra money all my money is tied into the wedding. i am so sorry but i don't want you in my wedding. i am sorry for sounding rude but this is how i feel.
Reply:ban her from the wedding, maybe that will teach her lesson for being so obnoxious
Reply:Tell her, "You clearly dont want to be in this wedding, here's your get out of our friendshp free card."
Reply:If you are that disappointed then just fire her.
I really didn't expect my bridesmaids to pay for my wedding- I paid for their dresses.
EDIT
I don't care what the rest of you did - I refuse to think its anyones but the brides' responsibility to pay for bridemaid dresses. Why would I expect someone to buy a dress that they couldn't wear anywhere else? For me? I think its just part of the cost of the wedding. Some website is not going to make me change my mind. Whats the validity? Reliability? Too many bridezillas out there.
Reply:Send her a copy of above question.
with a P.S. %26gt; sorry it did not work out
Reply:Just say something like "My wedding day means a lot to me and I want everyone there to be supportive of what I and (fiance's name) are doing. I dont feel like you have my best intrests in mind so I am afriad I wont be able to have you be in any part on our wedding."
Reply:Keep her. Be the bigger person regardless of the cost. If you have cool other bridesmaid, they'll throw a sweet bachelorette soiree for you.
lily
Young priest and an old priest?
A young priest visits an older priest for dinner. While they were eating, the young priest could not help but notice that the old priest had a very young, sexy maid that lived in his house. The old priest noticed the young priest checking out the sexy maid, and he says "I see that you have noticed my maid, I must assure you that our relationship is entirely professional and that I am not sleeping with her." The young priest is not convinced, but he says nothing.
After the young priest leaves, the old priest notices that his silver gravy boat was missing. The next day the old priest sends a letter to the young priest that says "I am not saying that you stole the gravy boat, I am not saying that you didn't steal the gravy boat, but if you have it please return it."
Young priest and an old priest?
funny!!! thats hilarious!!! total funny u get a star!
Reply:♥haha thats really funny!!♥
Reply:i like it!
After the young priest leaves, the old priest notices that his silver gravy boat was missing. The next day the old priest sends a letter to the young priest that says "I am not saying that you stole the gravy boat, I am not saying that you didn't steal the gravy boat, but if you have it please return it."
Young priest and an old priest?
funny!!! thats hilarious!!! total funny u get a star!
Reply:♥haha thats really funny!!♥
Reply:i like it!
Exact duties of "Maid Of Honour" ?
Hey! I'm 19 and my 25 year old friend asked me to be her maid of honour. Anyone know the responsibilities that the Maid of Honour should be doing? I'm new at this so suggestions are welcome!! thanks!
Exact duties of "Maid Of Honour" ?
To be blunt, you are her "maid" before the wedding. You should do whatever you can to help alleviate any stress she will have on her big day.
Assist the bride in determining the appropriate dresses for the bridesmaids (if they look horrid--it's your job to tactfully tell her and she may or may not agree with you but at least you've given your opinion, wouldnt you want your best friend to do the same for you).
Hosting a shower would be your duty (or at least co-hosting one); organizing a bachelorette party.
On the big day, making sure that she looks perfect and generally taking care of any details she's stressing about. (hint: 2 sided tape always comes in handy).
Reply:This varies according to each wedding. Best thing you can do is talk to the bride and see what she wants from you.
For my wedding, my attendants weren't expected to do any "work" - I asked the MOH and bridesmaids so they would support us by being in the wedding party. The only thing I asked of my MOH was to watch out for my gown at the ceremony, had a long train, - and be the official witness.
So, the variation comes with circumstances according to what the bride wants or needs, and what the attendants are willing to do.
Reply:You probably want to take the lead or help plan with her family in putting together a bridal shower. On the day of the wedding, I guess whatever you can do to make her not have to worry about little things. Make sure everyone in the bridal party has their things together and are dressed on time.
Exact duties of "Maid Of Honour" ?
To be blunt, you are her "maid" before the wedding. You should do whatever you can to help alleviate any stress she will have on her big day.
Assist the bride in determining the appropriate dresses for the bridesmaids (if they look horrid--it's your job to tactfully tell her and she may or may not agree with you but at least you've given your opinion, wouldnt you want your best friend to do the same for you).
Hosting a shower would be your duty (or at least co-hosting one); organizing a bachelorette party.
On the big day, making sure that she looks perfect and generally taking care of any details she's stressing about. (hint: 2 sided tape always comes in handy).
Reply:This varies according to each wedding. Best thing you can do is talk to the bride and see what she wants from you.
For my wedding, my attendants weren't expected to do any "work" - I asked the MOH and bridesmaids so they would support us by being in the wedding party. The only thing I asked of my MOH was to watch out for my gown at the ceremony, had a long train, - and be the official witness.
So, the variation comes with circumstances according to what the bride wants or needs, and what the attendants are willing to do.
Reply:You probably want to take the lead or help plan with her family in putting together a bridal shower. On the day of the wedding, I guess whatever you can do to make her not have to worry about little things. Make sure everyone in the bridal party has their things together and are dressed on time.
Why a retired US Gov. man s luring Asian ladies as free maids abroad w/false profile, old pictures on line?
This man travels with a regular passport, after contacting the Asian or Central or South American ladies on line in several dating sites, using a false profile, an old picture!
In fact he's bald, 61 years old, little pension, makes them sell everything they have in their countries copying web letters, always the same promising marriage (!!), a picture taken 20 years ago...
Then leaves them in a foreign country weeks later! NO visa, NO money, NO rent (in his name), NO food, takes the cheap engagement ring, he doesn't pay immigration attorneys so they refuse to help the poor ladies, they call their families to send $ for food, a plane ticket.
After leaving the country without any warning, he always go back to his fifth Ohian wife who support his awful behaviour, they have a sexless (he ca'nt !), a "modern", a weird marriage. No police records, only lawsuits, he acts quickly w/false address.
Pls.official sites EM's to warn? Best int'l dating sites?
May thanks, blessings.
Why a retired US Gov. man s luring Asian ladies as free maids abroad w/false profile, old pictures on line?
Why do Asian ladies fall for this scam?
Reply:How come you have so much detailed information about that man and are not doing much yourself...?Something fishy...
In fact he's bald, 61 years old, little pension, makes them sell everything they have in their countries copying web letters, always the same promising marriage (!!), a picture taken 20 years ago...
Then leaves them in a foreign country weeks later! NO visa, NO money, NO rent (in his name), NO food, takes the cheap engagement ring, he doesn't pay immigration attorneys so they refuse to help the poor ladies, they call their families to send $ for food, a plane ticket.
After leaving the country without any warning, he always go back to his fifth Ohian wife who support his awful behaviour, they have a sexless (he ca'nt !), a "modern", a weird marriage. No police records, only lawsuits, he acts quickly w/false address.
Pls.official sites EM's to warn? Best int'l dating sites?
May thanks, blessings.
Why a retired US Gov. man s luring Asian ladies as free maids abroad w/false profile, old pictures on line?
Why do Asian ladies fall for this scam?
Reply:How come you have so much detailed information about that man and are not doing much yourself...?Something fishy...
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