Why is my daughter afraid of maid at her nursery?

My daughter is 3 years old and it's been two days she's been going to a nursery with her same age friend in our building. Today I noticed when I dropped her at nursery she started crying after looking at the maid in the nursery. When I asked the maid what's wrong why's my daughter crying, she said everytihng is alright. I suspect something here. How to make sure they are taking care of my daughter? Although my daughter's friend didn't cry today, she looked very scared by meeting the maid. Pls advice on how to ask this to the principal of the nursery as the principal doesn't want to talk about it much and we are finding it difficult to ask her directly. I am her father and worried more than my wife about my daughter.

Why is my daughter afraid of maid at her nursery?
I think you're right to be concerned. Not only is your daughter acting scared, but the principal doesn't want to talk about it. On the other hand, there are a million reasons why little kids get scared of things and (the good news) most of them aren't untoward.





Has your daughter only been going to this nursery for two days? Sometimes kids simply get scared in new situations until they're used to them.





Is your daughter verbal enough to talk about the nursery and why she's scared? Are there any signs she's being mistreated? (Bruises, coming home hungry when she should have been fed, behavior changes like suddenly wetting or soiling herself when she was toilet trained ...)





Do you know any of the other parents of kids who go there? If so, try asking them if they've had any bad experiences. Also, if you can, drop in unannounced from time to time and see what's going on.





As for the principal, she is simply going to have to talk to you whether she wants to or not. It's natural to be protective of your daughter, but try not to be accusatory or confrontational. Try to put it in the context of trying to understand your daughter's behavior, not whether someone did something to her.





If the principal understands that you're not automatically assuming the worst, she'll probably be more likely to open up. I hope.





Hopefully nothing major happened, but it's good to be alert.





Best of luck!
Reply:Get her out of there, Report the place to child welfare services, and get an investigation going.
Reply:Remove her from the nursery. Take her somewhere else. Her future health and welfare are at stake..Listen to your feelings and the body langauge that is going on. Dont take chances with your children.
Reply:I would talk with your daughter %26amp; find out what is going on.I beleive there is a reason.Definatly.Either this person was mean to her unnessesarily,,abused her phsycally ,,or sad to say,,molested her in some way.Ask the child !! Make your girl know that its ok to tell you whatever it is.I would not trust this person alone with my child ever!
Reply:Ur worry is genuine...Ask ur daughter n friend about their school routine ,time spent with maid etc...If u find something wrong...go n complain to the principal straight way....
Reply:sounds very fishy, i say put your daughter in a new nursery, cos the slightest bit of neglect or abuse could scar her for life
Reply:My sister went through this and it is a definite red flag. Please sir find another babysitter. The baby doesn't lie and you should not trust anyone in this profession unless they have been PROVEN trustworthy.
Reply:Make a complain to the principal and send your daughter to other nursery.