Friday, May 21, 2010

Who should i pick for maid of honor?

I've been engaged for about a month now, and have asked my 2 sisters and a friend so far to be in my wedding. My friend said yes, and my younger sister said yes right away. My older sister is not too happy that I'm getting married before her, and when i asked her, she said she didnt know and started making excuses. Now my older sister is agreeing to be in my wedding but says she wont have the money to pay for a dress or shoes or anything. I really want them both in it. When my older sister wasn't agreeing to be in it, I was just planning on having my younger sister as my maid of honor, but now who do i pick if both sisters are in it.

Who should i pick for maid of honor?
why not your best friend? and simply tell both your sisters it was too hard to choose either of them -





or tell your older sister the truth - when she told you she couldnt be in the wedding you had to ask your younger sister because there was no one else besides the two of them you wanted to play this part - and now you have already asked your younger sister and dont think it would be appropriate - to back out now -
Reply:Neither - Has your friend do it - Or be non-traditional and have both of them be maids of honor.
Reply:That is TOO Long for me to read.
Reply:pick the younger one the bigger one should have made up her mind plus shes doubting you!!! its easy the smaller one
Reply:Choose your younger sister since she gave her blessings freely. Or if you feel conflict might arise, why not have your mom as matron of honor, or no maid of honor at all?
Reply:I think you should pick both sister.
Reply:Neither of them...pick someone else
Reply:only ur heart knows.





i hope it picks me
Reply:There is no reason you have to pick the older sister over the younger, or that you need to pick a sister over a friend. You can pick whoever you want; most people tend to honor a blood kin over a friend, but ultimately it's your choice.





If your older sister is being petty and self-centered about it, then go ahead and pick the younger sister as maid of honor. I can understand your older sister's personal disappointment, but if she cares about you she should be able to put that aside and be happy for you and be gracious about it.





You don't have to, but if it will make things easier and you really really want her to be a bridesmaid, then you could offer to pay for her dress (but be careful, because then the other bridesmaids will wonder why you didn't pay for their dresses).
Reply:If you already promised your younger sister,you should stay with her.as your maid of honor.
Reply:i agree with the person above or i would make the fried the maid of honor and have your sisters has the bridesmaids
Reply:Ask which ever sister you are closer to and would do the best job for you... Also tell your parents to cough up the dough for her dress and shoes if they are not already paying for the wedding. Good luck and Congrats! My best friend is like that... Her younger sister is engaged. She is worried her parents won't have $$ for her wedding if her sister gets married first.
Reply:pick your younger sister. She's the one who's been supporting you from the start, and the older sister just sounds like she's being a brat. If she can't afford the dress or shoes (and that's probably an excuse) then she can't be the maid of honor. She'd probably ruin it for you. Who cares if you are getting married before her? I didn't know it was a race! She should be happy for you. I'd go with the younger sister.
Reply:I declined to be in my sister's wedding (long story), but ultimately the other sister made all the bridesmaid's dresses and the cost to me was only about $50 including the shoes plus the cost of the airline fare. As far as who to pick, sit them both down and discuss it with them. That way, there is less chance of hard feelings. I would still pick the younger sister (she was enthusiastic), but since discussion has been made it shouldn't be a problem.
Reply:this is hard...pick the one u would feel most comfortable with or the one that is most likely to get married last so that she can look forward to something. i don't know if this answer is good.
Reply:YOUR YOUNGER SISTER OF COURSE!! SHE'S SUPPORTED YOU SINCE DAY ONE AND THE OTHER SISTER IS BARELY COMING AROUND BUT WITH A LOT OF EXCUSES.
Reply:just so that you don't have familial issues in the future, i would include both sister to be maids of honor.
Reply:Pick the one you really want the most, its your wedding and should be your way!!
Reply:I would say pick your younger sister to be your maid of honor. She obviously wants to be, and your older sister is acting weird about the whole thing. especially if your older sister's problem is because she is jealous of you. If she can't get her own stuff (or if your parents can't help her out) then dont even worry about her. Or talk to her about it. But the bottom line is, who are you closest to, and who would rather BE THERE for you on that day?
Reply:There is only one 'good person' to choose to be your maid of honor if you have both sisters and your friend in your wedding. Choose your friend to be your maid of honor ... to choose one sister over the other is just 'way too wrong' and you want them to have 'good memories' of your wedding. They'll 'understand' that you LOVE BOTH OF THEM and that you 'chose' the friend so you didn't 'hurt either of them' so that they'll ALL be 'incredibly happy' with your choice.
Reply:ask the older sis how she feels and if she really wants to be in it sounds to me like she doesn't maybe she could have a more minor roll such as usher or handling the guest gifts
Reply:don't give in, she'll sulk and ruin the day anyway. It's your day so they play by your rules or stay away
Reply:Definitely the younger sister! My husband's older sister went thru the same thing when she got married before their oldest sister. Trust me, she is probably always going to harbor at least some sort of grudge during your entire engagement, and planning a wedding is stressful enough without adding that to the mix. Her negative attitude will weigh down on you, and who knows how helpful she will be if she is feeling jealous. Your younger sister is your best choice because she is happy for you and will probably assist you with everything you need, and do it with a good attitude.
Reply:Your younger sister. Your older one is claiming to be broke n everything, when she might not even be, it might just be a front because she's jealous that your geting married b4 her.
Reply:Pick your friend - level playing field.





Or don't have one ... just have all bridesmaids. It's your wedding, you can do whatever you want.





You don't have to stick w/ tradition.
Reply:It sounds as though your older sister is just sulking because she is jealous you are getting married and not her. Tell her you don't like her attitude and to grow up, act her age , stop be a spoilt brat and be happy for you!! She is your sister, she should be happy for you even if she is not getting married. Tell her if she is not willing to co-operate then she does not have to be in the bridal party. Maybe you and the older sister can go halves in her things if money really is an issue which I suspect it isn't. She just said that because she is being difficult. Personally, I would pick the younger sister, she is happy for you and enthusiastic about her role and that is who you want for your maid of honour. The older one does not deserve to be and has shown that through her selfish actions. Your younger sister will appreciate this special role and enjoy it too!
Reply:pick ur friend and tell ur younger sister that u didn't want to offend ur older
Reply:Pick which ever sister you are closer to. Most people ARE closer to one sister or the other, it's just human nature. I WOULD NOT under ANY circumstance pick your friend. That's just rude and one day, you will regret it.





If you honestly are equally as close to BOTH sisters, then do both. But, I would doubt that's the case.
Reply:your maid of honor is a person who you believe in, who you love and trust. Choose your very best friend. Don't worry about your sisters, it is your wedding and hopefully it will only be once in your life, choose whoever you feel you want to have next to you.
Reply:I would choose both. I have a few really close girlfriends and an older sister so I can relate! I know when I get married she will be my maid of honor. Family will always be there no matter what, but especially sisters. I think the experience will be really special for both of your sisters and you!
Reply:pick the one you are closest to. the maid of honor has quite of bit of responsibility and needs to be someone you can rely on.





i would pick your younger sister. your older sister sounds like, b/c she is jealous, she will ruin your big day for you.


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