How could you forget you asked someone to be your brides maid?

This happened a couple of years ago.. One of my old friends called me with the happy news she was engaged and told me I was one of the first people she called. She also told me that they were plannin a wedding in like 6 months or so. No plans or ideas yet, but did she that she planned on me being in the wedding party. ( This was in June )September came rolling around and I got an email from a mutual friend about getting together so I called her to chat about it. It turned out to be a get together with just girls and I asked how the wedding pland on our mutual pal was going as I hadn't heard anything as I figured the bride was busy.... the response was.. Oh.. "B" is doing great. plans are ironed out and we already got our bride maid dresses. I said did you now.. when did you get asked to be in her wedding... she said June.... I politely said I am not going out with you guys as I had other plans.. I also backed out of going to my friends wedding. How could she of forgotten?Friend no more

How could you forget you asked someone to be your brides maid?
It is quite rude that she forgot.





HOWEVER, when a woman is newly engaged, she is ecstatic and over the moon! So many emotions run through her mind, so many words run out of her mouth, and everything is crazy! When things are like this, not every word is remembered. Sometimes, things are just blurted out as well!





What happened might not be personal at all. That doesn't mean it wasn't wrong or insensitive or just plain rude.





You have a right to be hurt and angry with her. Very much so. But don't let it ruin the friendship. It could have been a complete accident. If you are really good friends with her, bring it up, talk about it. More than likely she is going to freak out with guilt and anger at HERSELF.





People do make mistakes. Sometimes REALLY stupid ones.





Don't end your friendship over this incident. It might be a friendship that you need to end, but to know that, you need to continue it. I hope that makes sense and you take it to heart.





If you have any questions, feel free to email me!





And Good luck.
Reply:what are you saying it seems all jumbled up, but i figure maybe she doesnt want you to be in it.
Reply:I'm sorry your friend was so thoughtless and hurt your feelings.





Weddings are real tornadoes of activities and expectations. She may have gotten roped into using some of her groom's female relations for bridesmaids and then could only have a limited number. But, nevertheless, she should have called you and told you! If you were close enough to get one of the first calls, she should have been touching base with you more often.
Reply:I'm so sorry that happened to you. I totally understand why you would even not go to her wedding and I will NOT offer any excuses for your friend.





What she did was rude and thoughtless.





Here's to you finding better friends!
Reply:That sucks! I can understand if she didnt want you to be in her wedding, but she shouldnt have told you that you guys were gonna make plans. SHe should of been honest from the start that she had her brides maid picked out. Fooling you was really really shady of her.


Well I totally agree with you if you didnt want to hang out with them or go to her wedding. Screw her! Maybe one day you'll be friends again though:)
Reply:Wow, I'm really sorry that happened to you.





Here is something that might have happened though:


Her fiancee chose less groomsmen so she had to cut back on the number of people that she asked. I'm in a similar sort of situation.





Either way, it IS kind of shitty.





She probably didn't mean to hurt you though, she was probably just excited when she called with the good news.





I hate to see weddings with 10 girls and 10 guys on each side, as well. I mean, if she puts everyone in the wedding that shes ever been friends with thats kind of ridiculous.





But, to you, it is unfair since she had already mentioned it...