Will pregnant maid of honor take attention away from bride and groom?

I am getting married in July, and the maid of honor, which is my bride's cousin, is pregnant. Besides the fact that she is pregnant, she is not married, has no job, and has a 3-year-old son that she can barely take care of. Matter of fact, her mother takes care of her son most of the time. Most of her family that will be in attendance knows her, but they do not know about the pregnancy. When they see her 'showing', do you think that will take attention away from us?

Will pregnant maid of honor take attention away from bride and groom?
It could. I think the word needs to get out about her pregnancy prior to your wedding. It won't stop family and friends from talking to her about it during the reception, but at least they won't be talking about it to each other during the wedding!
Reply:no i dont think it will take ALL the attention away from you two.
Reply:if she gets any extra attention for being pregnant, it will be minimal, because everyone knows this day is about the bride and groom, not her. i agree with the previous answer that said to spread the word of her pregnancy before the wedding, just to ensure that by the time your wedding comes, her pregnancy will be old news.





omg, i can't believe the audacity of the answerer before me, it's not like she got pregnant for the sole purpose of stealing the spotlight in your wedding, that's just absurd! your future wife asked her to be the maid of honor because she wanted her to be there, end of story.
Reply:Not at all. My sister had my other sister as her Matron of Honour when she was quite pregnant. She can also wear a different dress from the bridesmaids if she needs to, in the same or similar colour.
Reply:First of all, how pregnant is she 3 months, 5 months, ready to pop? There are several maid of honor dresses that can hide her belly....check out David's Bridal maternity collection. I'm a wedding planner and have had to hide bellys before. Sure, at the reception some people will notice and comment, but it will help you get through the ceremony without it being too noticeable. Good luck.
Reply:I personally do not like pregnant bridesmaids.... I just think it looks uncomfortable and painful for the pregnant woman... also bridesmaids dress are not the best fitting dress and then add a pregnant woman...





I don't think they take away from the wedding, it's just personal choice. I do think that your friend pregnant or not pregnant likes drama.....
Reply:Why is her family so prominent at the wedding? Are you two best friends? If best friends, it shouldn't be a problem should only her family dwell on her. If they have any sense of humility at all, they;ll not make it a center of attraction at the wedding anyway. You'll be very busy attending to your other guests probably to even notice her problem anyway.
Reply:No it won't take away attention for you two, it is your wedding! People will notice, but so what, she is family and that is who the bride wants as her maid of honor. Would you eliminate all pregnant women from your guest list for fear they may take away attention? or all women who have had a new boob job? or any relatives who have had substantial weight loss because surly that would draw a lot of attention. Come on...Your wedding is not about attention, its about celebrating your love and union with friends and family, pregnant or not.
Reply:My original thought was No, but then I read the rest of your question. If she's this scandalous type of person, and nobody knows she's pregnant and will find out when she walks down the aisle at your wedding, it could in fact take some attention away from the two of you, as far as some people are concerned.





That being said, leave her in the wedding. She sounds like she needs love and support. The people who love the two of you the most will not let her situation overshadow your day, and you shouldn't either.
Reply:You don't say how far along she will be. That determines if she will be showing or not. Find a dress that fits loosely even if hers is different from the other bridesmaids. You do need to encourage her to tell her family before the wedding.





No, it will not take away from the two of you. The bride and groom are always the center of attention, (except for the cute children in the wedding sometimes ). This is a day to celebrate and she needs to be a part of it.
Reply:Yeah fatty will don't invite her it's your day not hers...
Reply:It's near impossible to take everyone's attention away from the bride and groom. Only if she gives birth during the ceremony do I see this being a problem.
Reply:The focus should all be on you. I am sure there will be some chatter about the maid of honor's pregnancy but this should wouldn't take away from the wedding.
Reply:Does it matter? She was chosen to be in the wedding party because of her personality all of which existed when she was chosen. Thinking she got pregnant on purpose to steal the spotlight is just as ridiculous that thinking her bieng pregnant is going to ruin your wedding.





If she was in a wheelchair would you take her out of the wedding party too? Sounds pretty self centered and shallow to me.
Reply:I experienced the same situation at my brother-in-law's wedding, although she didn't have another son already. It didn't seem to take any of the attention away. Some of her family may talk to her about the baby, but everyone will be focused on you.





No matter what, your wedding day will be about you and your bride. Nothing can change that. Just try to relax and not get too flustered if a handful of people comment on it. They are just curious. But your wedding day is about you and will remain that way.





Good luck in your life together! :)
Reply:it could a little but I wouldnt worry to much about it.. This is yalls day not hers.. If you want her to be less noticeable get a dress for her that doesnt show her belly off that well...





Either way though ppl will be there to celebrate yalls day.. When it comes time for the baby that will be her day..
Reply:It is a day set aside for you and your wife. It wouldn't be wise to involve people who are going to attempt to "steal" this attention from you. It is a day for which you and she paid. Forgive me if this sound nihilistic, but that's the way it is.