Maid of Honor speech??? ?HELP?

OK so I was asked to be a maid of honor the problem is I don't know her very well she is my fiance's brother's fiance so she will be my sister in law but in the 2-3 years I have been with my fiance I have only hung out with her a couple times mostly on special occasions like christmas and birthdays. I am really excited to be a maid of honor but the other thing is she doesn't have any friends like her wedding party is ME and her 7year old daughter ( my fiance is the best man and her brother is another groomsmen) So I have no idea what I am going to say in my speech and if you have any good ideas on what to do about a bridal shower and bachlorette party that would be great normally I would ask for the bridesmaids to help with that but she has even admitted to me that she has no friends I feel so bad! like what kind of bachelorette party can you have for a bride who has no friends or even a bridal shower?.. soooo I have to plan everything on my own please I need help!!

Maid of Honor speech??? ?HELP?
First off, calm down. If you keep an even keel you will do fine.





The first thing you'll have to be is her support system. Be there for the things she asks you to be at (fittings, florist meetings etc) and if she doesnt ask, offer your time for what she needs. Even if its just to be a sounding board when she is stressed out, lend her whatever time and support she needs.





As for her shower, I threw a shower this past summer for my best friend, I not only got thank yous from the bride and the mothers, but I got thank yous from he guests as well. Here was my game plan





1. Get a scrap book and have a polaroid camera. Take pictures of everyone as they come in and tape each picture to a page have each person write a note to the bride. 1 per page. Its a great memory book for the bride





2. Get some photos of the bride and groom together and blow them up to 8x10, go to the 99 cent shop and get some frames that match and put the photos out on a table, preferably with the cake and a nice bouquet of flowers. This allows people who dont know either the bride or groom well to see them together





3. Games: Have a timer and set it for 10 minutes during the girt opening. Each time it goes off the person who's gift she is opening gets a prize (dollar store prizes are the best, recipe cards, candles, photo albums etc)





Have a complete the pharse questionaire to be filled out by each guest, give the same questionaire to the bride and have her fill it out before hand. See how many of the guests answers match the brides Examples Flower ______, Brides ______, Holy______








4. Get centerpieces/bouquets from the grocery store florist. They will be beautiful and CHEAP.





5. Toasts:this will be your practice for the wedding. Wirte about the person you have come to know during the planning and that you wish her the absolute best of luck. That you are looking forward to calling her "sister" in a few years time etc. This speech should be about her and what a great person she is.





6. Favors: Go to www.wrappedhersheys.com and get WRAPPERS ONLY for hershey bars. They cost 99 cents each if you dont choose a photo one. Then go to your local wholesale club and buy a box and wrap the candy bars yourself. I did this all by myself and was able to wrap all 40 bars in under an hour. (note: Invest in a glue stick)





7.play the "Old New Borrowed and Blue" game. Have her fiance purchase her a gift, usually jewelry, and wrap it up 5 times. With each layer put a tag saying who should open it, the first being a woman wearing something old, then new, then borrowed then blue, the last layer is to be opened by the woman who will soon be needing something old, new, borrowed and blue ie the bride and it will be a wonderful gift from her furture husband





This shower was very inexpensive (I dont have alot of money and I pretty much funded the event on my own) and it was a great day for everyone.





As for a bachelorette, maybe just take her to a spa for the afternoon. You can do this just the two of you and get massages, mani/pedis. That would be loads of fun for both of you right before the wedding to destress.





Now your speech:Spending all this time with her planning will give you enough material to form a speech. Be sure its from the heart, what ever you say. Dont go for the funny, that usually never works out and keep it very short and simple. A weddng speech should focus on the couple and not you, so be sure to keep it not about "I" but about "she". As you go through the planning, if you see a sweet moment between the two of them, use that as your material.





You will be fine, dont worry. Enjoy this time with her, you'll be family soon enough and you two can be good allies since you are both marrying into the family.





Best of luck!
Reply:keep it simple. and tell the truth. you don't know her very long, but from the time that you have been getting to know her she has been a _______________ (enter in what you want to say) kind of person. and that you hope for a long and happy marriage. you don't have to give a long drawn out speech and to be honest...those things really bore me. keep it short and sweet if you have nothing to say.
Reply:Whatever you do don't mention that you slept with the groom and his best man in a greasy, slippery, drunken threesome on a Saturday night smack down.
Reply:Well 1st, If your are going to prepare a speech you should speak more about your fiance's brother if you know him a little more. And say those things a Maid of Honor is supposed to say "She is a great and speacial women who any man would be proud to have so I know that you must be very proud" Nothing as croney as that but you know what I mean. And as for the bridal shower invited the women in her family or some of your friends that she has been around at least once. And ask someone what she likes to do and do it for her brial shower


Hope that helped a little. Good luck