Who Should Be My Maid/Man of Honor?

Well, here goes...I'm trying to decide who should I choose to be my attendent of honor and would like some other opinions...it's not like I can ask them for advice! lol





Well, I basically have it narrowed down to two choices: my sister and my best friend.





My little sister is 11 years younger than me so come the wedding day, she will only be 15 years old--and I don't think that's old enough to handle some of the responsibilities that come with the title. We are very close though and she has always said she wants to be my maid of honor that way she'll have a chance for the role in one of her sister's weddings. (There are three girls in my family and my other sister already got married so that just leaves me). She will definitely be a bridesmaid, but I just don't know about maid of honor.





And then, there's my best friend---a guy. I know it's not exactly traditional but that's ok with me. It's just that I don't want to hurt my lil sister (especially going outside the family)...

Who Should Be My Maid/Man of Honor?
Family is forever. I'd say your kid sister would be the choice - what a thrill for her! I do like the guy concept though - it's gutsy and original. Good luck with your wedding!
Reply:Congrats first of all! I think you should have one of your sisters be your maid or matron of honor. If you choose your younger sis, maybe your older sis can help out with some of the responsibilities or choose your oldest sis, and have the younger one be a bridesmaid %26amp; she can still help out. I would not choose a guy for a bridesmaid or MOH, but that is ultimately up to you. I think one of your sisters would be the best choice! Maybe your husband to be could have your best friend as a groomsmen, that way he would not stand out so much being your MOH.
Reply:Alright--I am apparently going against the grain here, but I think that your best friend should be your "man of honor". My sister is 13 yrs older than me--I wasn't her maid of honor, and she wasn't mine--only for the fact that we knew how long each of us had our best friends for!! My friend was my "Man of honor" and my sister was a bridesmaid! I would have regretted the decision if I would have chosen differently. I hope to only get married this one time, and I wanted it the way that I wanted it!





Everyone is right--blood is thicker than water--that's why I honestly believe that if you explain your reasons, in time--she would be fine with it--if not--you can remind her that she will always be your sister and if she can't forgive you for wanting something for "your" wedding, than she is being selfish and just wants the title.





Also remind her that she has two other sisters, are both going to be the matron of honor at her wedding--no, of course not, and the other one will be expected to survive.





Your best friend is the one has gone through things with you that you can never tell your family, true friends are your family too!





Good luck and congrats.
Reply:I think you have your sister, and allow her to do what she can. It would mean so much to her. Whatever she cannot do, someone else can pick up the slack, I'm sure.
Reply:why dont you have both? there is no wedding law that says you can only have one maid of honor, plus she can help your guy friend with the girly touch. Thats what I would do, b/c that way your not upsetting anyone...good luck
Reply:i think your little sister would be the right chose, and it would hurt her feelings if she were not asked. and your best friend would feel out of place and since he is still ajusting i think it would put him in a bad position to ask him because he just might do it for his friend.
Reply:your best friend. if you love her that much that means she is family as well. and you could make your sister a brides maid.
Reply:Let them BOTH do it...they can walk down the aisle together...that way, she feels like the big girl in her sister's wedding and he can pick up the slack that she can't handle...she will never know and he won't mind!
Reply:I agree, it should be your sister, however, she is quite young for the job. Why not have both your sister and best friend. Have co-honor attendants. I'm sure between the 2 of them, you'll have the perfect wedding. :) He could help plan some of the 'adult' aspects of the wedding, while she can help with the 'super girly' things that he may not feel comfortable with.





Good luck, and Congratulations!!!
Reply:I am in my best friends wedding and she was going thru the same thing. My best friends sister is 14 my BFF and I are both 28. I told her to have her sister be the MOH however i will do the duties, I do not need the title, so I will pay for the bridal shower however her sister and I will plan it together. My BFF's sister can't go out for the bachelorette party and does not understand when my BFF stresses like I do. I have been an MOH so our joke is i am training her little sister. So I say talk to the friend and the cousin ask them there feelings or have two MOH's
Reply:i would either pick your best friend and your sister and use the both of them as maids of honor or i would put sister as bridesmaid and best friend as maid of honor...





just think about all the things a maid of honor has to do... a 15 year old wont be able to do half those things... and she defenetly wont be able to throw you any bachlorette parties.. shes too young..





and sorry to say this, but F U c K tradition... ive seen many weddings where a man is standing with teh bride.. its a good look to it..





if anything, if he doesnt want to be part of the girls side, ask your fiance to put him as a groomsmen...





i wanted my brother beside me but he didnt want to look weird so i can my fiance to make him a groomsmen... he was happy and so was i
Reply:You can have your best friend as an attendant on your side, or heck put him as a groomsmen on your fiance's side, it doesn't matter where he stands up for you, just that he does. Choose your sister as your maid of honor, it will mean the world to her and it doesn't matter how old she is. Just reassign any duties that she can't handle to a bridesmaid or your best friend. Family always comes first.
Reply:You can have them both. I am having two! I am having a matron of honor and a maid of honor (one is married and the other isn't). You need to talk to them both first before you just make a decision. Find out how each of them feel...especially your guy friend. If they both would LOVE to, then use both!
Reply:I will also go against the grain. I think your best friend should be your man of honor. Your sister is too young and there are a lot of responsibilities and costs that go along with being the maid of honor. If your best friend says no, I still wouldn't pick your sister. A bridesmaid, yes, maid of honor no. She's barely old enough to be a bridesmaid and not be considered a jr bridesmaid. But it's your wedding so do it like you want it.
Reply:You can have both - your sister as Maid of Honor and your friend as Man of Honor.
Reply:Why don't you ask both of them?! I have a younger sister who will be 16 when I get married and she is going to be my Maid of Honor along with my older sister who is going to be my Matron of Honor. My fiance has 2 best men as well. If you are willing to have a man be your "Maid" of Honor, try being even more non-traditional and go for both of them. That way you are happy, they are happy and they can colaborate on everything.
Reply:you should have your sis be MOH for a couple of reasons:


1) your BF would do it, but would probably be a bit uncomfortable being the MOH for obvious reasons. yes, it's totally acceptable now to have a male be MOH, but given that he just came out of the closet, that might be too hard for him to handle.





2) your sis is your sister after all and it would break her heart to not be your MOH. don't worry about all the "duties" expected of her. i'm sure your other sister would help her out, as well as your other bridesmaids. you could also ask your BF to help her as well. he'd probably appreciate being able to help plan and that way, he can have an important role, too. it will be less stressful for him this way and probably much more fun.
Reply:why not both? you can have 2 if you want, it's your wedding! best wishes and congrats!
Reply:family comes first remember blood is thicker than water
Reply:There has to be a first time. 15 is not too young if you prepare her for the "responsibilities" you think she's too young for.





But, then my grandmother was my matron of honor. My ready-to-pop pregnant sister was an attendant along with my youngest sister, 16 at the time, and both my husband's sisters. My husband had his brother, 3 friends, and my grandfather as his attendants. It was awesome, and even with all the different ages, it was a blast.
Reply:Have your little sister be your maid of honor. And make your best friend your "honorary maid of honor" and have him assist your sister with her duties.