How do i get a guys attention, I'm 36 years old never been married and have no children, I haven't?

had a boyfriend in 12 years and I also i have been celibate for 12 years. I love to have a relationship but most of the men i meet wants me to keep them up and want to control me I just wonder is there a man out there this intersted for me and just not for what they can get out of me it frustrating. I really wonder will be a an old maid with no children and no husband and alone! Do anyone have any suggestions?

How do i get a guys attention, I'm 36 years old never been married and have no children, I haven't?
Quit going out with guys that are jerks. Find one of those "too nice" guys.
Reply:These days looks are very important.If you look nice and pretty,people talk to you,approach you,do things for you.Try to look very nice.They will come to you.
Reply:Get to know yourself with the help of a therapist perhaps or books and figure out why you are attracting the men you are attracting and why you are not attracting men; you must be giving off signs that you are not interested in a relationship (which would be normal if the ones you have been in have been bad). Figure that out then get involved! If you truly want to meet someone, you will.
Reply:Wow! That's a Real shame that you've found nothing but losers!





You'd be surprised as to where you can find someone!





What is your hobby/interest? Do you go to Church, the Laundrymat, etc.?





Good luck and don't think it'll Never happen!
Reply:Very odd %26amp; interesting..


Why is it that you have been unable to find a man who wants


you ?.....What is the truth ??


I have lots of suggestions but you have to be truthful with


me and with yourself...
Reply:Sweetheart, any woman who spent 12 years with a man, and no marriage commitment...REALLY needs to learn about herself before she starts dating again.


You are probably a pleaser, people pick up on that super quick...so you need to figure out why you have such a strong desire to please people. Do you think it is the only way they will like you? Does it make you feel self worth? Once you figure that out, spend some time doing things YOU love...figure out where YOU want to go in YOUR life...essentially, make your life "plan A" and then if someone wants to join you on your path... they are welcome...but if not, you won't go make them your life...if you do, you will end up doing the same thing over and over, wasting your time.


Good luck, I hope you find what makes YOU happy because people are very attracted to happy motivated people.
Reply:Don't worry. Of course there is a man for you. Don't try to look for men at nightclubs or bars though, those are not good places to find respectable men. Where do respectable men go? I don't know, I'm a woman! But just know this: The good ones are the hardest to find. Good luck!
Reply:celibate for 12years? what happened? it seems to me you are a bit out of tune(no offence intended here) i think you have been overprotective of yourself for all these 12years and probably start looking with suspicion at everyone who comes around you...my best sugestion is that you keep an open mind and ignore the urge to look out for ill intentions from your suitors. with an open mind it will be easier to see the good side of these people and believe me you will naturally find the right man,there are still a lot of nice men out there,try changing your approach and stay natural.


i can see you are an emotional person thats why you protect yourself so much or may have had a bad experience at some point in your life...


dont worry dear you will not become an old maid without kids,i think you are very nice inside..you just need to open up a little more,be natural about it (its not easy) but i know you will find 'him' soon.


goodluck!!!
Reply:I can see your conundrum. I have to wonder why your so fearful of losing your virtue? I have met a few that has held their virtue under lock and key live a most miserable life. Not trusting men or holding them beyond arms length and more importantly, not being able to express yourself in a physical manner. Let's see if you can make an appointment to your local therapist and talk to them about your not dating in 12 years and not willing to lose your virtue. They may have some in site





Now as far as picking the right guy... That's going to be tough. Take a few personality tests on line to determine what your type is and place a find-a-friend ad in your local paper looking for someone specific to meet your needs. Just be prep aired to meet his needs in a woman like you.
Reply:Bop him over the head and drag him back to your place.





If he wakes up and can't remember who he is, tell him you're his wife and that you've been married for five years.





Good idea if you put a ring on his finger too, yeah.