Second wedding question re: our daughters and who would be the appropriate maid of honor?

This is my second wedding I have a daughter 8 years old and my fiance has 3 daughters 16, 12, %26amp; 11 (all of which are going to be in the wedding along with my 20 year old niece). Would it be weird to have my 8 year old daughter be my maid of honor? Or my fiance's 16 year old (whom I'm not very close with)? Or would it be more appropriate to have my niece (also not very close with - she lives out of state).





Thanks for your help / advice!

Second wedding question re: our daughters and who would be the appropriate maid of honor?
It's your special day! You're the bride--you shouldn't have to pick a maid of honor that would suit everyone else. It's YOUR maid of honor--I'm sure your fiance's daughters would understand because afterall, you have your own daughter. I say pick your daughter, if that's what you really want! Afterall, you don't get married everyday! Best of Luck!
Reply:Oh I love this question. I also went threw a second wedding. I had a daughter and a son, and he had a son and two daughters. I had my sister as my maid of honor. And there was my daughter and one of his daughter, that we both ask them to see what they could help us with the wedding. I think you should have your youngest daughter be a flower girl. I think at her age she would love that. My husband had his best friend from work be his best man. My son and his daughter was in the wedding as a bridemaid. You can add as many bridemaids as you need. But you should have a best friend or a sister. This way feelings won't get hurt. You can even have two flower girls, even a girl can carry the ring. Today you can do just about anything. Just remember it is your wedding day. I am happy to say I had even a best friend be a brides maid. We had a really big wedding. Five brides maids. I had everyone of the children help in the wedding that would make them happy, even though they weren't in the wedding. One of my step daughters took pictures. Injoy. I have been married seven years as of Oct 7th, 2007. We now have grandchildren from both sides of our one family now. Have fun.
Reply:I think it would be better to have an ADULT MOH. Seriously... for all the practical reasons. The MOH usually has a few dutes that a kid cannot pull off. Like a shower, bachelorette party, signing the certificate (if applicable in your state), keeping you sane and organized, giving a speech at the reception, keeping everyone else organized the day of the wedding, holding your bouquet during the ceremony (if applicable), etc.
Reply:umm, don't you have an adult female friend?? any choice of the daughters (yours or his) will set the tone for the whole marriage (picking favorites) instead of using one of them as your maid of honor, how about your mom as your matron of honor?? or a close aunt or family friend...have each of the girls do something else in the ceremony, such as lighting the candles, or a reading from the bible, or a piece of poetry..or play an instrument??/ that way everyone is included, and no one is hurt or feeling left out
Reply:There is no rule that says you have to have a maid of honor and I don't think that any of the choices you've presented are appropriate candidates.
Reply:I think you should ask your eight year old daughter to be your flower-girl, your fiances 11 and 12yrs olds to give a speech, reading or poem, the sixteen year old asked to either perform a song (if she is musical) or take wedding photos of guests.If none of those options sound appealing to the sixteen year-old give her a special project to work on such as organising guest lists, favours, ect.Ask your close ADULT friends to be bridesmaids and maids of hounour.Hope this helps!
Reply:Yipes!


You know you don't have to have a maid of honor in a non-traditional type wedding such as yours.


Take it from someone who knows--it is hard enough to start a blended family without immediately alienating several young, moody females (oof--the idea of dealing with that makes me woozy) LOL


I guess if you can't thing of a way of putting them in the program in a non-traditional fashion, you should pick the neice.
Reply:I think you should have a person your age. A sis or close friend.
Reply:If it were me I'd choose my daughter. Before you decide, ask your church or wherever you are getting married if there is an age limit for the maid of honor.
Reply:First, an 8 year-old is too young to be a maid of honor. More importantly, you would be singling out one child in your new blended family for a more important honor than the other children. That's a sure-fire way to start off your marriage with your step daughters resenting you for showing favortism. Have all the children participate in the wedding, but on an equal level. There were good suggestions as to the specifics, above.





I would only choose an adult for MOH, and only someone you're close with, such as a sister or best friend. If you're not close with anyone, I suggest dispensing with bridesmaids altogether. Weddings don't need bridesmaids and groomsmen.
Reply:Do you have a close sister or friend or cousin? I would say your daughter but the MOH is supposed to sign the register usually and she is not old enough to do it. But they can be any age I guess. Just explore all your options first.
Reply:instead of a marton of honor, make them all bridesmaids and line them by age. Give each girl something special to do during the wedding. Why can't your daughter give the bountieer to your groom at the front of the church to show her accept of him and have each of his girls to give you a single rose to show their accept of you. then do a unity candle with each girl having a single candle to light then you and your groom light the regular unity candle. Then you will be showing everyone that your family is bonding. and all girls will feel that they have a special place in the wedding.