It is ok to remain old maid?

i am now old maid i guess,im not married yet!im now 30yrs old.the reason why im not married is becuase of my past expereinced and i am afraid to all guys..

It is ok to remain old maid?
Seems to me the only person it should matter to is you. So, what do you think? IS it ok to be an old maid as you call it?





Personally, I call it just being single, which isn't always a bad thing.





Interesting that you are asking this question yet gave yourself the handle "seductive77" though.
Reply:Old maid is an awfully old term that describes women who didn't have a whole lot of choices. With the divorce rate as high as it is you bet it is ok.
Reply:No such thing as an old maid.





Better to be never married vs married, with kids, divorced, married, more kids, divorced!!





What's the big success of marriage? Oh, yeah, there isn't a big success with marriage.
Reply:30 = young





So I guess it would be a no.
Reply:at 30 you are not considered to be an old maid these days. if you are happy being single then by all means stay that way, if not, then perhaps its time to speak with a professional who would help you overcome these fears.
Reply:I'll be 30 this year and I really hope that I find someone. I dont want to be an old maid and I have also had bad past experiences with guys too whatever you do. Dont settle
Reply:Is there such a thing as an 'old maid' anymore? I'm 43, and single by design. I don't ever give a thought as to what perception my single status represents to others. My guess, though, is that many of our married friends wish they were living our lives. Be happy with where you are in your life right now, but don't discount the idea that you may feel differently later. Try to stay open to the idea that you always have options and the luxury of making your own decisions. Good luck. Have fun.
Reply:Yeah, definitely!! Bring your children up the same way.


As Cate Blanched, the actress said today. You have to be mad to get married and she's happily married with 2 children.


"Getting married is insanity," she said.
Reply:Out of my circle of friends, there are two old maids, one divorcee who is staying that way, one widow, and one who thought she would be alone, and married in her early 40's.


In my day, I was an old maid at 21. In yours, not even close. Most people wait to get married, these days. .


Let me tell you an old maid story. My Grandmother was a very talented quilter, and crocheter,and those were the presents the the grandkids got for their marriage, a afgan and a quilt. My cousin, who is about 3 years older than me, negotiated with Grandmother to get a quilt on her 25th birthday, even if she did not marry. She got the quilt, and then married. I listened to this, bided my time, and at an oportune moment, said Grandma, do I get the same deal? Yes, she said, with a sigh, she knew it was coming. And I got the quilt, and the afgan


Of all my cousins and their kids, I'm the only unmarried one. All are married at least once.


Don't let people get to you, I love my single life, I tell people I am always alone, but never lonely. It beats the alternative, some abusive man. Another cousin's husband, now ex, burned down their house!.


Chill, there are good men out there, they are rare, but out there. If you do not ever marry, it is your business, it is very common. there are more women in the USA than men, somebody is bound to do without! LOL.
Reply:There is worse things in life than not being married.
Reply:you're 30 honey not 75, so technically you're not an old maid...you're still very young, and if you're happy being single then that's one thing but if you want to one day get married don't let pass experiences be the reason why you keep yourself froom the dating scene...it''s the risk you take, some guys are nice while others are jerks. Set some standards for yourself and don't waste time on the losers when they show you the red flags in the beginning....good luck
Reply:You are not an old maid. You are a single woman.





Eventually you may find a guy who understands what you've been through.





I was afraid of guys till I met my husband.